What would you do if your bf still lives with his ex-wife? (75)
Cocheta: When he walks out the door, I'll tell him to keep on walking
yes
thank you
Haha I just googled English serious ,,,' lover in the attic,,.
Yes the film or English serious came up ,,about a woman who moves her younger lover into the attic while her factory owner husband goes to work each day,,
The lover lives in her attic for 20 years,,,
...I watched the English serious of it on tv few years ago,
Haha,, it's a mad world.
Yes the film or English serious came up ,,about a woman who moves her younger lover into the attic while her factory owner husband goes to work each day,,
The lover lives in her attic for 20 years,,,
...I watched the English serious of it on tv few years ago,Haha,, it's a mad world.
scrofa09: We've been together for almost 13 months and in the beginning I know that he still lives with his ex. I just am getting fed up with that crap and it's annoying the hell out of me.
you've been dating for over a year and he still lives with her? NO, SHE IS NOT an EX
leave him, move on
you don't want to get involved in someone's unfinished business, do you
equiya: you've been dating for over a year and he still lives with her? NO, SHE IS NOT an EX
leave him, move on
you don't want to get involved in someone's unfinished business, do you
leave him, move on
you don't want to get involved in someone's unfinished business, do you
.
.I know a woman where exactly this is the case. They live in the same house and both TRY to built up relationships with other people.
Did you meet his ex and know that it is really over between them? ( I would never believe the "for the kids sake" line).
I like to keep some things simple and that just sounds like too much of a head wrecker for me personally.
Did you meet his ex and know that it is really over between them? ( I would never believe the "for the kids sake" line).
I like to keep some things simple and that just sounds like too much of a head wrecker for me personally.
rebel2: I think if you read it again, the other women is his "ex", not his wife, so I would not imagine anyone has stolen anyone.
that's what he told her, is it true?
peachmelba: . .
Hi peach
I know the saying its good to live in the day is a favourite saying of mine but in the case of this man with the ex wife think to yourself Scofa,,," how do I see myself next year,,in 5 years,ten years,.. Food for thought.
scrofa09: Just to know what your opinion on this relationship situation is...
I don't know if this was already suggested but maybe you should move in with them and then the mystery might disappear. Or maybe if you just had a face to face with this guy and tell him it is uncomfortable having this arrangement the way it is. I am sure that like most things there is more to it than can be put into writing. Good luck in whatever you decide.
unlaoised: Been there, done that....never again
Two a company,three a crowd.
equiya: yes
thank you
thank you
I was seeing someone until recently who was still living with her ex. It was never a problem for me. We were together for 18 months..and not the reason for us parting company.
He never left his wife....emotionally, at least, sad to say.
I wonder both, the bf and the ex wife earn very little money or whether one of the two earns more than the other. If one of them earns more, then there is no reason why one of them cannot move out and the other can help out financially by sending a monthly check.
If they are both so bad off that they'd both lose the place, then he can move in with you and you can help him fulfill his legal obligation for his children (help pay for his kids). If you don't want to do that, then maybe you don't love him all that much? or he's simply not the best choice to waste time with.
In my opinion, if he was any kind of a guy with serious intentions of building a life with you, he'd have found a solution already and moved out (in with you) or gotten a better job or a second job to make a life with you possible.
Yes, there's always more to the story, but 18 months is a long time to wait without any sign of change.
If they are both so bad off that they'd both lose the place, then he can move in with you and you can help him fulfill his legal obligation for his children (help pay for his kids). If you don't want to do that, then maybe you don't love him all that much? or he's simply not the best choice to waste time with.
In my opinion, if he was any kind of a guy with serious intentions of building a life with you, he'd have found a solution already and moved out (in with you) or gotten a better job or a second job to make a life with you possible.
Yes, there's always more to the story, but 18 months is a long time to wait without any sign of change.
This is a tricky one for me...I, from personal experience know that just because you "fall" out of love with a spouse doesn't mean you don't still love them....it's really hard to say without knowing all the ins and outs...but typically I would say move on, if his feelings for you was genuine he would have already move out
scrofa09: Just to know what your opinion on this relationship situation is...
Its a positive thing if they can maintain a civilised relationship and both contribute to the continuing wellbeing of the children but they don't have to live together to do that.
It could be that circumstances (such as finances, property market, for example)currently prevent dividing the property. However, I'm with Chris on this one..... its an unhealthy situation so I would put some distance between us until his situation improves, i.e. he is living elsewhere.
No doubt, it would be difficult but sometimes one has to think with the head and not the heart?
Stop being the other woman !!
scrofa09: Just to know what your opinion on this relationship situation is...
I wouldn't even consider dating a man who still lives with his ex.
2intrigued: I wouldn't even consider dating a man who still lives with his ex.
Would you consider dating a man,who still lives with fond memories of all his ex.
chris27292729: Would you consider dating a man,who still lives with fond memories of all his ex.
Fond memories are just that....memories.
What would you do if your bf still lives with his ex-wife?
He wouldn't be my boyfriend.
If this is your situation, You'd better move on and forget the man.
He wouldn't be my boyfriend.
If this is your situation, You'd better move on and forget the man.
I had a friend who had to live with his ex, due to a variety of reasons, mainly financial, but also for the kids.
He stuck it out for as long as possible, several months, but they didn't have a very amiable relationship, and eventually he had to move out into an apartment he can ill afford.
Another ex of mine also moved out, without being able to fully afford it, but he and his wife had a good relationship, for the kidssake. And he used to move back into the house every second weekend and occasional nights when it was his time with the kids. That never bothered me. Every situation is different.
Not every situation is perfect, but once the person is honest and above-board with their intentions, it would be ok with me.
He stuck it out for as long as possible, several months, but they didn't have a very amiable relationship, and eventually he had to move out into an apartment he can ill afford.
Another ex of mine also moved out, without being able to fully afford it, but he and his wife had a good relationship, for the kidssake. And he used to move back into the house every second weekend and occasional nights when it was his time with the kids. That never bothered me. Every situation is different.
Not every situation is perfect, but once the person is honest and above-board with their intentions, it would be ok with me.
chris27292729: Two a company,three a crowd.
Big time!
I would be long gone out of his life.
Wouldn't get to the boyfriend stage. I dated 2 guys still living with their 'exes', one for financial reasons, the other for the kids, or so they said. Needless to say it didn't go beyond one date. Who needs that sort of baggage and trouble eh?
I would not get involved with him in the first place
I would,
Out the door back to her door,, I'd say he already knows. Which room the bedroom is.
.lol
Out the door back to her door,, I'd say he already knows. Which room the bedroom is. .lolscrofa09: Just to know what your opinion on this relationship situation is...
He wouldnt be my boyfriend. I have met a few guys in that situation, never agreed to date any of them.
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Haha. Yes and he is still running around after mother in law when she clicks her fingers at him..
I watched a film on a few years ago ,true story set in the 50 s called man in the attic,
A woman started seeing a much younger man and they thought they were in love and he was besotted with her so she moved him in to her attic,,when the hubby would go out to work he would come down out of it and do housework cook the dinner and then go back up to the attic,
It went on for two years or something like that,,,she started to go out and leave the boyfriend in the attic, I won't tell you the rest what happend,,,look it up its called man in the attic true story,,was an English serious or film..was very good very crazy,.have a good. Friday,