In relationship for 2 weeks and your boyfriend ask you to get married. What do you think? (77)
sophiasummerNorthland, New Zealand112 Threads 6,528 PostsGet real girl, 2 weeks is finding a good coffee, not a husband.
True Stories:
I knew a couple who were total strangers to each other. They attended the same party. The chap saw the girl across the room, walked over to her & immediately said, "I'm going to marry you." I don't know how long they dated, but remained married until he died in his 70's.
My girlfriend in London was to her hospitals' Christmas party, dancing with a Doctor. All of a sudden a young stranger stepped in & told the Doctor, "You are dancing with my girlfriend." They got married & have been together for years.
My sister was standing in her front yard. A chap drove by with his sister in his car. He told his sister, "I am going to marry that girl." It was several months later before my sister actually met him. They dated 3 months, got married & have been married for over 45 years.
So, I guess anything is possible -- except for it EVER happening to me! lol
I knew a couple who were total strangers to each other. They attended the same party. The chap saw the girl across the room, walked over to her & immediately said, "I'm going to marry you." I don't know how long they dated, but remained married until he died in his 70's.
My girlfriend in London was to her hospitals' Christmas party, dancing with a Doctor. All of a sudden a young stranger stepped in & told the Doctor, "You are dancing with my girlfriend." They got married & have been together for years.
My sister was standing in her front yard. A chap drove by with his sister in his car. He told his sister, "I am going to marry that girl." It was several months later before my sister actually met him. They dated 3 months, got married & have been married for over 45 years.
So, I guess anything is possible -- except for it EVER happening to me! lol
2intrigued: Humma...humma...humma....yowza Me thinks I'm in love.
With the house......
With the house......
...thought you'd like it. under the teasing, i agree with you. gotta have some love in the equation.
in the meantime...money can't buy ya happiness....
but it can buy you a boat.
jono7: ...thought you'd like it. under the teasing, i agree with you. gotta have some love in the equation.
in the meantime...money can't buy ya happiness....
but it can buy you a boat.
in the meantime...money can't buy ya happiness....
but it can buy you a boat.
Money can't buy ya love either but I'd be pretty darn happy to have a house like that and maybe even a boat but that takes money.
hoolet: I have known three couples who met and married within 6 weeks. I'm not quite sure how long it took for the guy to ask for the ladies hand in marriage but I could find out. All lasted until their husbands died.............one after 21 years, the other 50 years and the third after 60 years!!!!!
I believe you. I believe all things are possible to make that happen.
I know so because back in 1990's, I was really in love with this woman for EIGHT years and we were good friends but she hesitated and not sure if she wanted to marry me. Then finally after having her as my date to a fundraising event and I was one of speaker there. She really impressed with me then wanted to marry me like that without having as boyfriend-girlfriend stage by skipping that part from friendship to marriage. Oh, about 3 weeks from that night at the fundraising dinner, she kept changing mind about marrying me every single day or two. I had enough. Someone told me at a support group for singles and he went thru the same. And he said better to marry quickly before spending years as friends or dating someone. Well, her loss and wanted me back in 2005 but I got married to someone I wish I didn't and we are divorced because I spend 2 years with the wrong one. She played me good. Oh man.
So, sometimes its good to get married like that and other times, for some people no. I do believe in marrying that quick. I do not know your faith but my faith in God and what the Bible tells me, I can marry right away like Rebekah and Isaac did. They met and married same day.
Another I wasted time with was in 1980's for six years on and off. I was going to college and she wanted to live with me. I can't focus on her and college at once so she got mad and got engaged with someone she met in a week (2 weeks after I dumped her), then she got married six months later. Well, that marriage of her with her husband ended badly and got divorced. She apologized to me 2 short years later but I said too late.
So, quickness can be good for some, but others no depends on their maturity and a lot of things to it that I can not explain in here. Everyone is different so that is one of many reasons why I said I can't.
I still believe in getting married on same day I meet her if that is going to happen.
If I were you,I'd marry him quickly. Whether he is rational or not, he might change his mind, and then you're stuck, being an old maid for life.
Yeah, marry him. Rationality left the arena when Descartes exited.
Yeah, marry him. Rationality left the arena when Descartes exited.
SeekforBride: Of course, each Asian and even Pacific Rim Island nations such as the Philippines, Guam, Easter Island, and even Hawaii are quite different. Hawaii is different than California also different than NY.
I agree with you that love is greater than distance and greater than all the paperwork. Truly love each other that it is worth the paperwork.
I had a Filipina girlfriend last year and oh! She cheated behind my back and I had a gut feeling she only wanted to come to the States when I tested about where we can live. She was so focused on coming to the States. And she was pushing me to join her cult. I would not put up with that.
That got me more cautious. The trust. I am glad you did successfully with yours. Happy to hear that. Good role model here, sir!
I agree with you that love is greater than distance and greater than all the paperwork. Truly love each other that it is worth the paperwork.
I had a Filipina girlfriend last year and oh! She cheated behind my back and I had a gut feeling she only wanted to come to the States when I tested about where we can live. She was so focused on coming to the States. And she was pushing me to join her cult. I would not put up with that.
That got me more cautious. The trust. I am glad you did successfully with yours. Happy to hear that. Good role model here, sir!
oh !!! seem very pity for u... I very sympathize for the situation..
I think what Halvo is saying is good, but it is true for women anywhere. My biggest suspicion would be for a man is why he is not able to date locally? And, there could be a perfectly good reason, but it is still a good question.
I have found it impossible to date locally and believe me I have tried,
now I'm looking at Asian country's for a possible partner,
in ten years I've had maybe three dates, at my age it just gets harder,
it nearly made me sick and depressed the garbage to wade through getting a date in my on city it seems I don't measure up no matter what I do or have done, which leaves me with the obese, no thank you,
I'm not perfect but no way,
now I'm looking at Asian country's for a possible partner,
in ten years I've had maybe three dates, at my age it just gets harder,
it nearly made me sick and depressed the garbage to wade through getting a date in my on city it seems I don't measure up no matter what I do or have done, which leaves me with the obese, no thank you,
I'm not perfect but no way,
felixis99: I think what Halvo is saying is good, but it is true for women anywhere. My biggest suspicion would be for a man is why he is not able to date locally? And, there could be a perfectly good reason, but it is still a good question.
Hi Felixis,
Well, I certainly tried dating locally, believe me. It was the attitudes of the women that forced me to go elsewhere to where I WAS WANTED, ACCEPTED, AND WHERE WOMEN ACTUALLY LIKED ME FOR ME. Sure I was wanted as a friend, accepted as a friend etc here, but I was not wanted for a relationship, etc.
It always comes down to attitude, on both the men's side and the women's side. My choice to marry an Asian was not because they accepted me as I am and I was considered marriage material in their cultures.
I did not take adavantage of this in any way. I mean that women are women (physiology, psychology, mind, etc) and men are men (physiology, psychology, mind, etc) the world over.
Anna and I still have our gender differences in thinking, etc that brings about tension in our relationship superficially, but we accept each other, love each other genuinely, and have a very happy marriage. Our relationship is now 3 years and still getting stronger.
But to answer your question - why not local? Because the local didn't want me. That simple.
Asian women are far more accepting of men. Maybe this is because of their culture. For me, to feel that I was actually wanted for being me, to be liked for being me, to have a respect for being me, made all the difference.
Western women's attitudes (in a culturally generic way) are not so accepting of men for who they are. They are too demanding of men. And they are often narcissistic more so than in Asia (in a culturally generic way). This has been my dating experiences over 15 years before I married my first wife and 5 years after my divorce, and this is all that I can comment on.
Halv0: Hi Felixis,
Well, I certainly tried dating locally, believe me. It was the attitudes of the women that forced me to go elsewhere to where I WAS WANTED, ACCEPTED, AND WHERE WOMEN ACTUALLY LIKED ME FOR ME. Sure I was wanted as a friend, accepted as a friend etc here, but I was not wanted for a relationship, etc.
It always comes down to attitude, on both the men's side and the women's side. My choice to marry an Asian was not because they accepted me as I am and I was considered marriage material in their cultures.
I did not take adavantage of this in any way. I mean that women are women (physiology, psychology, mind, etc) and men are men (physiology, psychology, mind, etc) the world over.
Anna and I still have our gender differences in thinking, etc that brings about tension in our relationship superficially, but we accept each other, love each other genuinely, and have a very happy marriage. Our relationship is now 3 years and still getting stronger.
But to answer your question - why not local? Because the local didn't want me. That simple.
Asian women are far more accepting of men. Maybe this is because of their culture. For me, to feel that I was actually wanted for being me, to be liked for being me, to have a respect for being me, made all the difference.
Western women's attitudes (in a culturally generic way) are not so accepting of men for who they are. They are too demanding of men. And they are often narcissistic more so than in Asia (in a culturally generic way). This has been my dating experiences over 15 years before I married my first wife and 5 years after my divorce, and this is all that I can comment on.
Well, I certainly tried dating locally, believe me. It was the attitudes of the women that forced me to go elsewhere to where I WAS WANTED, ACCEPTED, AND WHERE WOMEN ACTUALLY LIKED ME FOR ME. Sure I was wanted as a friend, accepted as a friend etc here, but I was not wanted for a relationship, etc.
It always comes down to attitude, on both the men's side and the women's side. My choice to marry an Asian was not because they accepted me as I am and I was considered marriage material in their cultures.
I did not take adavantage of this in any way. I mean that women are women (physiology, psychology, mind, etc) and men are men (physiology, psychology, mind, etc) the world over.
Anna and I still have our gender differences in thinking, etc that brings about tension in our relationship superficially, but we accept each other, love each other genuinely, and have a very happy marriage. Our relationship is now 3 years and still getting stronger.
But to answer your question - why not local? Because the local didn't want me. That simple.
Asian women are far more accepting of men. Maybe this is because of their culture. For me, to feel that I was actually wanted for being me, to be liked for being me, to have a respect for being me, made all the difference.
Western women's attitudes (in a culturally generic way) are not so accepting of men for who they are. They are too demanding of men. And they are often narcissistic more so than in Asia (in a culturally generic way). This has been my dating experiences over 15 years before I married my first wife and 5 years after my divorce, and this is all that I can comment on.
yes thanks for your response. western women are individuals, as are those from Asia, so I find it hard to attach such labels. I don't think it matters where ones partner comes from as long as it is a happy relationship for both.
At my age I do not see many men coming around either. I sometimes think the stereotype of men my age buying their first sports car and trying to date college students is true ...lol
Nonetheless, I cannot imagine branding the gender of an entire culture with such a broad brush.
I asked a girl to marry me ,after one hour,,,,and she said No.....
, so i said, blow you i,m off.....and that was it......I dont mess about......
, so i said, blow you i,m off.....and that was it......I dont mess about...... 
truheart1941: I asked a girl to marry me ,after one hour,,,,and she said No....., so i said, blow you i,m off.....and that was it......I dont mess about......
I thought you were already attached ??????
tomcatwarne: I thought you were already attached ??????
this was years ago.....when i was ten.truheart1941: this was years ago.....when i was ten.
Oh the Jurrasic period
Rational.???
or
Irrational???
or
Run???
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Irrational???
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Run???
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Darkbrownskins: I meet know somebody like at the firstime, and he asked me to give him a change to be his girlfriend. After a while in our relationship. He asked me to get married. What do you think? lol.
Have to believe or not?
it's rational or irrational?
if it can also rational please give me an exsample or experince and also the reasons..
Thank you
Have to believe or not?
it's rational or irrational?
if it can also rational please give me an exsample or experince and also the reasons..
Thank you
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