And I deliberately wanted to leave the poll as unstructured as possible. Long term relationships become friends as much as lovers but I never really thought about the start of that before - are they really friends or just people you know really well. So - what's the difference.
allthegoodnamestLondon, Essex, England UK4,697 posts
Elegsabiff: Do you look for the same qualities in both? Or completely different qualities?
I tend to separate my my friends from my lovers.. The qualities I require from my lovers , without complicating the situation, is that they are female.!!
allthegoodnamestLondon, Essex, England UK4,697 posts
Elegsabiff: BTW I have no idea how to quote off smartie phone
All, you have a point although my question as put does allow for all preferences and is therfore beautifully pc yay me lol
It depends on who's eyes your looking through.. From a mans point of view, every woman is a potential lover , whether it be a long term thing or a bit of stray.. Women on the other hand, can decide within minutes of meeting whether that person will become a lover or just a friend.
allthegoodnamest: It depends on who's eyes your looking through.. From a mans point of view, every woman is a potential lover , whether it be a long term thing or a bit of stray.. Women on the other hand, can decide within minutes of meeting whether that person will become a lover or just a friend.
Elegsabiff: Do you look for the same qualities in both? Or completely different qualities?
Hiya Biff, hope you had a good trip.
I think I do have some things, like interests etc. in common with my friends. I would need to have more in common with a partner, as in values and wanting similar things in the future.
I have a good few male friends but I would say that having a "spark" is not the only difference. Some I wouldn't consider as a partner because I wouldn't trust them as far as I could throw them or know I would feel the need to strangle them after being in a romantic situation after 5 minutes. Fairly sure they would feel the same and then a friendship can develop.
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