Would you date someone who has Bipolar? ( Archived) (170)

Yes.....Like everything else if a person has no respect for themselves, they can hav respect for others.

They would need to take medication on a regular basis.

Yes I Would.

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I have bipolar but the problem on here is women do not want to date someone who has bipolar.

Yes, we can be...and yes, I would date a fellow person with bipolar. Mine is mild enough to be controllable and yet gives me the ability to understand others who might have it a bit stronger.

A rapid cycler might be a bit tough, though. That's a real roller coaster ride.

Well im a lot better since i told the pills 2 months ago but 3 months ago i was in bad shape.

Well, I've had some dates put on wigs or tennis outfits ..........so, Bipolar ?? What the hell - why not ?

thank you

As I said, I'm familiar with it personally, just enough to have studied it and know it better. Yes, I would understand the down sides, since I cycle down more than up. I'm not on medication, and can usually even myself out, but I know that mine is mild. I could accept someone who has it stronger...and understand them well. Yes, being loved for who you are helps with this disease as well.

I'm also studying to be a Doctor of Naturopathy, so I can help others with alternative therapies to this and all other conditions that require long term use of pharmaceuticals with dangerous side effects. However, I respect the person's choice of treatment, and the need to experiment to see what works best for the individual, as well. It's not a disease with a blanket cure...it should receive individual attention and treatment.

JMO on that last paragraph, but I also know I'm not alone in it.

I was married for almost 18 years to a woman who was Bi Polar after she passed away I met woman and found out she was Bi Polar also. We dated 2 1/2 years and finally I broke it off. I consider myself a very kind loving and Tolerant person and to this day she and I are friends but there is no way we could have ever stayed together for a life time commitment. I only hope there is someone out there for her because she does have some very good things going for her.

I knew what you meant by that...and I've tried that, too. It doesn't work. And things won't work out for him in relationships if he keeps medicating with street drugs and alcohol. Again, JMO, but I don't think those are the right treatment for anyone.

Just for the record, btw, I'm not saying some don't need the pharmaceuticals, I'm just saying that alternatives should be tried first, and then therapy should increase until the right treatment is found for each individual.

There are two popular herbals, St. John's Wort and SAMe. Also, meditation, yoga, chakra balancing, and even acupuncture since it restores the flow of chi in the body by opening blocked energy meridians. Yes, there are alternatives. No, they don't work for everyone, but neither do the meds...and those have harmful side effects. That's why I'd try natural methods first...then escalate if necessary.

Strong self-awareness helps too...and extreme self-honesty. And yes, one can be objective about their emotional state. We humans are capable of quite a bit if we put our minds to it...including self-healing.

Amazing creatures, we humans.

Hi Jason...

I have bipolar disease and met an incredible woman here. It can happen. You just have to stay with the program and take care of yourself.

I also dated a woman with bipolar disease. The disease is like snowflakes...each and every one is different. We didn't break up because either one of us were bipolar.

Good luck Jason and keep searching. You will find a woman as wonderful as I have.

I was loyal and with someone for 11 years who sufferred from Bipolar Disorder but was also not willing to get professional help.

I initially thought that if I loved more, worked harder, understood more, or educated them more that it would help.

Then, it became what else could I do, so I built a real estate empire for them. Still nothing was enough, money, love, time, attention, education, etc.

One moment life was great and then without notice it would go to hell.

So, we separated households and for years we remained on and off, as I sincerely hoped to see an improvement of some sort, but it never happened.

I eventually realized that it was imperative for me to even end the friendship to stop any negativity in my life.

Hi Jason,

I applaud you for the thread as I think your brave.

IMO the first thing in any depression is acknowledgin it and seeking help. You have done that and the help you hav received seems to be working.

From my experience you have to look after yourself as you can't ask someone to respect and love you if you don't love and respect yourself.

There are so many people out there who suffer and you are not on your own in this.

If you look after yourself you can and will have an extremely fulfilling life.

Best of luck to you in your search.

Thank you Vinny for that posting as it touches my heart greatly. I agree with you and do believe that if a person is willing to acknowledge and seek help that they can have a very good life.

He is a truly fortunate person that he has been willing to do this, and I see no reason why he could not have a very loving relationship if that is what he wants.

On the side of this coin, I see my error as well, and that is that if a person does not want to help themself, no matter how much you love them, you cannot help them.

Love, Maria