Can you love somebody so much that it hurts? (60)
laura225: No, not unpleasant...
It's beyond this vacobulary,
More in a range what Jan said.
I asking for trouble now, but I don't think men (most of them) are capable of feeling deep enough to grasp this emotion, hence understand the explanations.
NO GENERALATATIONS here!
Some might
It's beyond this vacobulary,
More in a range what Jan said.
I asking for trouble now, but I don't think men (most of them) are capable of feeling deep enough to grasp this emotion, hence understand the explanations.
NO GENERALATATIONS here!
Some might
Thankyou Laura, I knew somebody would understand.
Jan1305: Thankyou Laura, I knew somebody would understand.
And I think that what OP was actially asking about;
not about the pain of being apart and
definitely not...
about the pain of giving more than getting back. \/\/\/ pettyrace: ive been in thet situation before, yes you can if you put your heart out there, it is possible very much, but it does get better if you allow yourself to see thaat you gave and they didnt
druidess6308: No. You can be so infatutated with someone that it hurts, but this isn't love. The only time that I've honestly loved someone so much that it hurt was my late husband, while he was dying. I hurt for him, I hurt for me, I hurt for all of the years we weren't given together, and I hurt because I couldn't fix it. That's the only time I can honestly say, "I loved so much it hurt." And it hurt for a long time. Sometimes, though the moments are fewer now, it still does.
oh really. INFATUATED !!!! nice words hard to do
Sommerauer71: I know that was directed at Laura, but still, I have to say what a wonderful way of describing it.
I like that J.
I like that J.
report him to MOD
pubwrite08: I think so.
yeah gurillas get hurt too.right right
vinny1967: What about when people get to your age.......
And OP............Yes I have hurt.........Just thru loving......
And it was a good hurt............
Gr8 Thread......
And OP............Yes I have hurt.........Just thru loving......
And it was a good hurt............
Gr8 Thread......
yeah , you shouldn' fondle young gurillas , not healthy for you .you might get excited and end up under a stone with a cross on it
laura225: And I think that what OP was actially asking about;
not about the pain of being apart and
definitely not... about the pain of giving more than getting back. \/\/\/
not about the pain of being apart and
definitely not... about the pain of giving more than getting back. \/\/\/
My hypothesis was that she simply hadn't analyzed deeply enough into the subject...?
Ambrose2007: My hypothesis was that she simply hadn't analyzed deeply enough into the subject...?
Daddy.
i wud reckon u can
gangel: Daddy.
That's my girl!
..yes
Yes.
Infactuation can give you a love so much that it can hurt. Real love is all calm and beautiful and flowing. 
mylifewithu: Infactuation can give you a love so much that it can hurt. Real love is all calm and beautiful and flowing.
True, if it is being worked on.
However, when one partner stops working on the relationship, then the other is in this deep hurt. That is why I said yes.
Do any of you ladies care enough to hurt me
rasgumby: Do any of you ladies care enough to hurt me
Ambrose2007: My hypothesis was that she simply hadn't analyzed deeply enough into the subject...?
who is a mysterious 'she', J.? 
You mean OP?
Her poll is formulated so clear and streight down to the point that most probably she was talking of experience she is going through right now...
I think being a young 22-y-o woman she was puzzled by a new feeling and wanted to hear if others experienced anything of this sort.
love often hurts, it shouldnt but it does......
yes.
MysticalUnicorn: Can you love somebody so much that it actually hurts?
Open your eyes. Go out with someone else. Maybe u should go out with more than one. There are more than enough guys on the site that u can choose from. Check out the other free dating sites too.
Who the heck totally butchered my post and then COWAEDLY disappeared?!!
Like I need to ask?!! At least have courage of your own convictions.....!! Pathetic!!
Like I need to ask?!! At least have courage of your own convictions.....!! Pathetic!!
laura225: who is a mysterious 'she', J.?
You mean OP?
Her poll is formulated so clear and streight down to the point that most probably she was talking of experience she is going through right now...
I think being a young 22-y-o woman she was puzzled by a new feeling and wanted to hear if others experienced anything of this sort.
You mean OP?
Her poll is formulated so clear and streight down to the point that most probably she was talking of experience she is going through right now...
I think being a young 22-y-o woman she was puzzled by a new feeling and wanted to hear if others experienced anything of this sort.
She is puzzled, and asked a question pertaining to what she was feeling. She wondered if it was possible for love, in sufficient intensities, to cause pain.
I don't think there's any reason to believe that love, per se, causes pain. If love causes pain, then why not every benevolent emotion, such as affection or like or even bliss? Perhaps one can be blissfully depressed or joyously unhappy? Perhaps pleasure itself can be painful?
Yet a deeper issue lurks beneath this discussion of love - namely, its origins: Why do we love? One could reasonably speculate, I think, that all our emotions are tied evolutionarily to survival. Clearly lower animals care about their progeny because it allows their species to survive. Affection aids in cooperation and health in an animal community. But beyond that, it is likely that the uniquely intense human variation of attachment - love - is fundamentally a response to discomfort...to wit, the discomfort we have in the presence of uncertainty and our own mortality.
If this is true, then one could argue that love has its genesis in a kind of pain, but that doesn't demonstrate that it is inherently painful itself....
I just read through all the posts here. I forgot I made this poll
Anyways, yeah it's something I been feeling. But it's hard to describe. It isn't like a bad kind of hurt, it's more like others said about too much pleasure hurting. Like I am always insanely happy, and thinking about him can even get my heart to beat a little faster. The feeling you get when you love somebody, sometimes just gets so intense it's like an overwhelming kind of feeling. Something that to be honest, I can't say I felt before. And I had a long-term 5 year relationship, where I was married for 3 of those 5 and I never loved him as intensely as this. It's like when you're emotions go over the top & you cry not because your sad though, but because you're just so happy, ya know?
Anyways, yeah it's something I been feeling. But it's hard to describe. It isn't like a bad kind of hurt, it's more like others said about too much pleasure hurting. Like I am always insanely happy, and thinking about him can even get my heart to beat a little faster. The feeling you get when you love somebody, sometimes just gets so intense it's like an overwhelming kind of feeling. Something that to be honest, I can't say I felt before. And I had a long-term 5 year relationship, where I was married for 3 of those 5 and I never loved him as intensely as this. It's like when you're emotions go over the top & you cry not because your sad though, but because you're just so happy, ya know?
MysticalUnicorn: I just read through all the posts here. I forgot I made this poll
Anyways, yeah it's something I been feeling. But it's hard to describe. It isn't like a bad kind of hurt, it's more like others said about too much pleasure hurting. Like I am always insanely happy, and thinking about him can even get my heart to beat a little faster. The feeling you get when you love somebody, sometimes just gets so intense it's like an overwhelming kind of feeling. Something that to be honest, I can't say I felt before. And I had a long-term 5 year relationship, where I was married for 3 of those 5 and I never loved him as intensely as this. It's like when you're emotions go over the top & you cry not because your sad though, but because you're just so happy, ya know?
Anyways, yeah it's something I been feeling. But it's hard to describe. It isn't like a bad kind of hurt, it's more like others said about too much pleasure hurting. Like I am always insanely happy, and thinking about him can even get my heart to beat a little faster. The feeling you get when you love somebody, sometimes just gets so intense it's like an overwhelming kind of feeling. Something that to be honest, I can't say I felt before. And I had a long-term 5 year relationship, where I was married for 3 of those 5 and I never loved him as intensely as this. It's like when you're emotions go over the top & you cry not because your sad though, but because you're just so happy, ya know?
Well, that's a pretty damn good possible counterexample to what I've been saying, Mystical. I've experienced that a lot of late myself - feeling overwhelmed by what seem purely like good emotions...the kind of feeling an Olympic athlete has when he or she cries upon winning a medal, or the way I bawled like a baby when I win $5 with lottery ticket...
So what really is going on when we cry out of apparent happiness? Very interesting question...and for once I'm at a loss for words..
(For those who feel they must comment on that.)
MysticalUnicorn: I just read through all the posts here. I forgot I made this poll
Anyways, yeah it's something I been feeling. But it's hard to describe. It isn't like a bad kind of hurt, it's more like others said about too much pleasure hurting. Like I am always insanely happy, and thinking about him can even get my heart to beat a little faster. The feeling you get when you love somebody, sometimes just gets so intense it's like an overwhelming kind of feeling. Something that to be honest, I can't say I felt before. And I had a long-term 5 year relationship, where I was married for 3 of those 5 and I never loved him as intensely as this. It's like when you're emotions go over the top & you cry not because your sad though, but because you're just so happy, ya know?
Anyways, yeah it's something I been feeling. But it's hard to describe. It isn't like a bad kind of hurt, it's more like others said about too much pleasure hurting. Like I am always insanely happy, and thinking about him can even get my heart to beat a little faster. The feeling you get when you love somebody, sometimes just gets so intense it's like an overwhelming kind of feeling. Something that to be honest, I can't say I felt before. And I had a long-term 5 year relationship, where I was married for 3 of those 5 and I never loved him as intensely as this. It's like when you're emotions go over the top & you cry not because your sad though, but because you're just so happy, ya know?
And if you really think that you are ever really going to understand how it works......believe me.......you won't.....
the only thing you do know is......
maaaaaaaaan.....what a glorious feeling being in love is....
gozoman2: And if you really think that you are ever really going to understand how it works......believe me.......you won't.....
the only thing you do know is......
maaaaaaaaan.....what a glorious feeling being in love is....
the only thing you do know is......
maaaaaaaaan.....what a glorious feeling being in love is....
Next thing, Gozo, you'll be saying something like, "Don't worry, be happy!" 
vinny1967: What about when people get to your age.......
And OP............Yes I have hurt.........Just thru loving......
And it was a good hurt............
Gr8 Thread......
it doesnt matter wot age you are ...you can still hurt...its ur heart not ur mind gets hurt....And OP............Yes I have hurt.........Just thru loving......
And it was a good hurt............
Gr8 Thread......
MysticalUnicorn: I just read through all the posts here. I forgot I made this poll
Anyways, yeah it's something I been feeling. But it's hard to describe. It isn't like a bad kind of hurt, it's more like others said about too much pleasure hurting. Like I am always insanely happy, and thinking about him can even get my heart to beat a little faster. The feeling you get when you love somebody, sometimes just gets so intense it's like an overwhelming kind of feeling. Something that to be honest, I can't say I felt before. And I had a long-term 5 year relationship, where I was married for 3 of those 5 and I never loved him as intensely as this. It's like when you're emotions go over the top & you cry not because your sad though, but because you're just so happy, ya know?
Anyways, yeah it's something I been feeling. But it's hard to describe. It isn't like a bad kind of hurt, it's more like others said about too much pleasure hurting. Like I am always insanely happy, and thinking about him can even get my heart to beat a little faster. The feeling you get when you love somebody, sometimes just gets so intense it's like an overwhelming kind of feeling. Something that to be honest, I can't say I felt before. And I had a long-term 5 year relationship, where I was married for 3 of those 5 and I never loved him as intensely as this. It's like when you're emotions go over the top & you cry not because your sad though, but because you're just so happy, ya know?
Yes absolutely... thinking of someone you're in love can give you a nice feeling so much so that it hurts..
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But I think you're saying the love itself hurts. Why should an intense feeling hurt in itself, unless there's something inherently unpleasant about it (e.g., intensely enjoying a ski run as opposed to intensely disliking root canal surgery). So what's inherently unpleasant about the sensation of love (or is feeling another person from the inside out unpleasant? Certainly doesn't sound particularly sanitary )
No, not unpleasant...
It's beyond this vacobulary,
I loved my ex husband so much it hurt at times. It hurt sometimes when we fell out, and ironically, it hurt when we were enormously happy.
Pain is often brought on by strong emotions, both negative and positive.
More in a range what Jan said.
I asking for trouble now, but I don't think men (most of them) are capable of feeling deep enough to grasp this emotion, hence understand the explanations.
NO GENERALATATIONS here!
Some might