Can you love somebody so much that it hurts? (60)
No. You can be so infatutated with someone that it hurts, but this isn't love. The only time that I've honestly loved someone so much that it hurt was my late husband, while he was dying. I hurt for him, I hurt for me, I hurt for all of the years we weren't given together, and I hurt because I couldn't fix it. That's the only time I can honestly say, "I loved so much it hurt." And it hurt for a long time. Sometimes, though the moments are fewer now, it still does.
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I believe so...
either that or I'd better see a doctor quick!
Not to make light of the subject, but I have felt the intense pain of love. I'd prefer rejection over it.
either that or I'd better see a doctor quick! Not to make light of the subject, but I have felt the intense pain of love. I'd prefer rejection over it.
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When you truly, deeply care for someone and they don't feel the same, then yes it hurts.
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I think so.
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lanabyte: When you truly, deeply care for someone and they don't feel the same, then yes it hurts.
Yes, but that's not my interpretation of "loving someone so much it hurts"...that's just hurting because you love someone who doesn't love you. And yes, I've certainly been there. I finally got myself to the point that I can deal with it when I see him, and just be good friends. Yes, I'll always love him, and yes, he'll always love me...but I can't break through his wall of fear. I've tried...and he almost let me in.
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Definitely.
I loved my ex husband so much it hurt at times. It hurt sometimes when we fell out, and ironically, it hurt when we were enormously happy.
Pain is often brought on by strong emotions, both negative and positive.
I loved my ex husband so much it hurt at times. It hurt sometimes when we fell out, and ironically, it hurt when we were enormously happy.
Pain is often brought on by strong emotions, both negative and positive.
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druidess6308: Yes, but that's not my interpretation of "loving someone so much it hurts"...that's just hurting because you love someone who doesn't love you. And yes, I've certainly been there. I finally got myself to the point that I can deal with it when I see him, and just be good friends. Yes, I'll always love him, and yes, he'll always love me...but I can't break through his wall of fear. I've tried...and he almost let me in. Yep, it hurt. Now it doesn't. "What will be will be."
Yes, but it wouldn't hurt if you didn't love him so much. I guess it's just the way you look at it. I've been there too many times. That's why I gave up.
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I don't think love should hurt
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Don't do polls...but I answer in threads like this question....
simple answer.....
Yes you can....and it is not age orientated either....
can happen to you when your a teenager......
like it can happen to you if you are middle aged....
simple answer.....
Yes you can....and it is not age orientated either....
can happen to you when your a teenager......
like it can happen to you if you are middle aged....
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lanabyte: Yes, but it wouldn't hurt if you didn't love him so much. I guess it's just the way you look at it. I've been there too many times. That's why I gave up.
Ah, but it's love him and hurt, not love him so much it hurts. It was while I was also infatuated with him that I "loved him so much it hurt". Real love should not hurt.
However, the ache of separation in a LDR I can understand.
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druidess6308: Ah, but it's love him and hurt, not love him so much it hurts. It was while I was also infatuated with him that I "loved him so much it hurt". Real love should not hurt.
However, the ache of separation in a LDR I can understand.
However, the ache of separation in a LDR I can understand.
Right, D. It's not love itself which hurts, but rather some of the consequences of loving someone.
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gozoman2: Don't do polls...but I answer in threads like this question....
simple answer.....
Yes you can....and it is not age orientated either....
can happen to you when your a teenager......
like it can happen to you if you are middle aged....
simple answer.....
Yes you can....and it is not age orientated either....
can happen to you when your a teenager......
like it can happen to you if you are middle aged....
What about when people get to your age.......
And OP............Yes I have hurt.........Just thru loving......
And it was a good hurt............
Gr8 Thread......
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Ambrose2007: Right, D. It's not love itself which hurts, but rather some of the consequences of loving someone.
Yep.... I think I've gotta go with that!!
But Ambrose is such a sage indeed.....
Bloody hell... I hope I've spelled everything correctly, no typos, AND... definitely no inappropriate use of apostrophes....??
Or is it apostrophe's??!!
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roseofsharon: Yep.... I think I've gotta go with that!! But Ambrose is such a sage indeed.....
Bloody hell... I hope I've spelled everything correctly, no typos, AND... definitely no inappropriate use of apostrophes....??
Or is it apostrophe's??!!
Bloody hell... I hope I've spelled everything correctly, no typos, AND... definitely no inappropriate use of apostrophes....??
Or is it apostrophe's??!!
Cripes.... I am SOOOOOOO dead!!!
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Sommerauer71: Ambrose, just wonderful, you have written how I feel.
Aside from the last paragraph, where I do not have muscular arms.
So I use my thighs to run and jump into his arms and wrap my thighs around him.
Still, for us the communication is good, but it is never enough, if it was enough then I would have to question the whole affair.
It is not that I love so much that it hurts, it is not love if it is not crazy.
Aside from the last paragraph, where I do not have muscular arms.
So I use my thighs to run and jump into his arms and wrap my thighs around him.
Still, for us the communication is good, but it is never enough, if it was enough then I would have to question the whole affair.
It is not that I love so much that it hurts, it is not love if it is not crazy.
Yes, T, I think we easily can empathize with each other! I'm not sure what you mean by "it is not love if it is not crazy," however. What's crazy about longing for someone...unless you're referring to my desperately lonely heaving chest, which does suggest some passing acquaintance with insanity. ------ This poll is Archived ------
roseofsharon: Yep.... I think I've gotta go with that!! But Ambrose is such a sage indeed.....
Bloody hell... I hope I've spelled everything correctly, no typos, AND... definitely no inappropriate use of apostrophes....??
Or is it apostrophe's??!!
Bloody hell... I hope I've spelled everything correctly, no typos, AND... definitely no inappropriate use of apostrophes....??
Or is it apostrophe's??!!
Its sometime's hard to say about such thing's, Alison.
Great job, my friend!
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druidess6308: Very well stated, Ambrose.
Thanks, Dru. I can only hope a certain someone has heard my heart-throbbing scream of loneliness and will agree to see me more often, before my convulsing arms turn on myself...
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Ambrose2007: Yes, T, I think we easily can empathize with each other! I'm not sure what you mean by "it is not love if it is not crazy," however. What's crazy about longing for someone...unless you're referring to my desperately lonely heaving chest, which does suggest some passing acquaintance with insanity.
Happy to explain J, more than happy.
See, I am a planner, I plan each day, each month, each year, I know where I will be in five years.
Then I began trying to plan, this, until I got told straight, but beautifully.
And yes, that is exactly what I am referring to, because the want of that feeling is bordering insanity, but you just cannot grab it, you know you are sane, you just know it, but you want her there.
See, I feel the same, exactly the same and it does drive me to distraction, off the rails, when I am normally such a controlled person, it catches my breath, it makes me stop in the street, when a memory of him, floats to my mind, and that to me is what makes it love and what makes it just that little bit crazy and hurt because we are not together everyday.
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Sommerauer71: Happy to explain J, more than happy.
See, I am a planner, I plan each day, each month, each year, I know where I will be in five years.
Then I began trying to plan, this, until I got told straight, but beautifully.
And yes, that is exactly what I am referring to, because the want of that feeling is bordering insanity, but you just cannot grab it, you know you are sane, you just know it, but you want her there.
See, I feel the same, exactly the same and it does drive me to distraction, off the rails, when I am normally such a controlled person, it catches my breath, it makes me stop in the street, when a memory of him, floats to my mind, and that to me is what makes it love and what makes it just that little bit crazy and hurt because we are not together everyday.
See, I am a planner, I plan each day, each month, each year, I know where I will be in five years.
Then I began trying to plan, this, until I got told straight, but beautifully.
And yes, that is exactly what I am referring to, because the want of that feeling is bordering insanity, but you just cannot grab it, you know you are sane, you just know it, but you want her there.
See, I feel the same, exactly the same and it does drive me to distraction, off the rails, when I am normally such a controlled person, it catches my breath, it makes me stop in the street, when a memory of him, floats to my mind, and that to me is what makes it love and what makes it just that little bit crazy and hurt because we are not together everyday.
Okay, Sommer. Explanation received and acknowledged and appreciated.
I would like to believe that my lady feels something of what you're describing...though perhaps not while driving.
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roseofsharon: Ohhh Ambrose...!! You have me roaring out loud here.... truly!!
How sharp.... you are a wordsmith indeed, my friend!!
D'ya know... I suspect I am still gonna be chuckling on my way to bed!!
Cracking!!
Ohhh and BTW.... yes, I can't take credit for much, hun, but I DO have appealing cheeks!!
How sharp.... you are a wordsmith indeed, my friend!!
D'ya know... I suspect I am still gonna be chuckling on my way to bed!!
Cracking!!
Ohhh and BTW.... yes, I can't take credit for much, hun, but I DO have appealing cheeks!!
One of MANY of your appeals, Alison.
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Ambrose2007: Okay, Sommer. Explanation received and acknowledged and appreciated.
I would like to believe that my lady feels something of what you're describing...though perhaps not while driving.
I would like to believe that my lady feels something of what you're describing...though perhaps not while driving.
I have stopped driving,
I was becoming a menace, safer until I can get some control back in my life. Ask her, I am sure she will tell you.
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MysticalUnicorn: Can you love somebody so much that it actually hurts?
Yes
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Ambrose2007: One of MANY of your appeals, Alison.
Now you really ARE taking the p*ss, Ambrose!!
Sycophancy doesn't become you, my friend.... AND you know it!!
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laura225: Yes
But it's not the love *itself* which hurts, is it, Laura? It's what's happening between you and the person you love, right?
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roseofsharon: Now you really ARE taking the p*ss, Ambrose!!
Sycophancy doesn't become you, my friend.... AND you know it!!
Sycophancy doesn't become you, my friend.... AND you know it!!
Ah, you're so adorable and wonderful and charming when you're pointing out my sycophancy, Alison!
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Ambrose2007: But it's not the love *itself* which hurts, is it, Laura? It's what's happening between you and the person you love, right?
I know that was directed at Laura, but still, I have to say what a wonderful way of describing it.
I like that J.
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Sommerauer71: I know that was directed at Laura, but still, I have to say what a wonderful way of describing it.
I like that J.
I like that J.
Thanks, T. I can only hope Laura will consider it wonderful as well.
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Ambrose2007: Ah, you're so adorable and wonderful and charming when you're pointing out my sycophancy, Alison!
I rest my case.... of course!!
Love it, Ambrose..... too clever by far!!
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Ambrose2007: But it's not the love *itself* which hurts, is it, Laura? It's what's happening between you and the person you love, right?
It is, Jeff.
It's the intensity of the feeling itself as oppose to longing for someone.
One can feel another person (the loved one) from the inside out;
be besides him/her, hence there is no need for longing - at least not in a sense you described it...
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laura225: It is, Jeff.
It's the intensity of the feeling itself as oppose to longing for someone.
One can feel another person (the loved one) from the inside out;
be besides him/her, hence there is no need for longing - at least not in a sense you described it...
It's the intensity of the feeling itself as oppose to longing for someone.
One can feel another person (the loved one) from the inside out;
be besides him/her, hence there is no need for longing - at least not in a sense you described it...
"It is"? I asked *two* questions, L.
But I think you're saying the love itself hurts.
Why should an intense feeling hurt in itself, unless there's something inherently unpleasant about it (e.g., intensely enjoying a ski run as opposed to intensely disliking root canal surgery). So what's inherently unpleasant about the sensation of love (or is feeling another person from the inside out unpleasant? Certainly doesn't sound particularly sanitary ) 
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