Why do you think women agree to a date then never show up, hey ladies need your input here ( Archived) (61)

I agree with snugglysenior it goes both ways... Men do not show up either so it not just us women

I can't ever remember not showing up for a date. If a woman changes her mind about a date, I am fine with that, but being notified would be nice. Even after the date if she feels this isn't going anywhere, please tell me. I would do the same. Not everyone makes a perfect match. it happens.... just be open and up front. I don't get mad, I understand.

zee

could be they lost their nerve at the last minute. Personally I always show up for a date but have been in the position of a guy not showing up either way man or woman not showing up it shows bad manners to not even phone to let your date know you cann't make it

I can't really say why because I have never done it. But on the other hand, and this has happened to me with everyone who has contacted me lately, why do men write to me, I respond nicely, we write a couple of more times, then they ask meet if I could meet them, I don't ask them. I say yes, they make the plans, then they cancel at the last second. Why oh why even bother going through all of that? What a waste of time!

Thank you for listening.

I agree. To just not show up and not give any call or whatever to let the person know you won't be there is just plain rude. It's something that just shouldn't happen to anyone. I can appreciate however, that in a real, honest-to-God emergency, it might not be possible. After the fact though...an apology could go a long way toward mending hurt feelings.

"I meant in general.Some guys are too assuming when
it comes to a woman stating her opinion."

It hasn't happened to me YET and I've not done it to anyone. It's rude. Plain and simple.

There are legit reasons and I've been late before where I've gotten lost or stuck in traffic, but there's always a cell phone.

Methinks they didn't call because they didn't want to have to deal with the question: "Want to meet next weekend instead?" and were too chicken to say "no". That's m.o. Sorry to be so blunt.

Before I reply to gypsiekisses please let me address all the ladies here, I did not start this poll to be one sided but to get the ladies opinions on why the ladies who were to date me didn't show up. I am most assured there are men like that to and why they don't show up for dates I have no idea. If I tell a woman I am going to do something like meet her for a date I always follow through but then thats me I do what I say and say what I mean. So please ladies don't take the poll personally, As for Gypsiekisses, When I talk to a woman I get to know her well before I ask her out on a date, I never rush things and I am a perfect gentleman. When dating I always suggest a public place like a nice restuarant like applebees or poncho and lefties, this is thoughtful for her safety and with hopes it makes her more comfortable, having said this how could it be my fault they don't show up? Thats they're responsability to show up for the date not mine and if they can't its thier responsability to call me and let me know, one date I traveled 70 miles to meet her and she never showed never called. I'm sorry but I can't see that I am doing anything wrong to cause them not to show.

You could be right scubadiva and I dont mind the bluntness, as for them being stuck in traffic well thats doubtful because I take that into consideration, I have waited as long as an hour and a half passed the time we were supposed to meet and I am always early for my dates, I live in a small town so its doubtful they were stuck in traffic for an hour and a half lol, thankyou for your reply.....

You are not doing anything wrong. It is the woman who needs to show up or call and tell you she can't make it or changed her mind. As long as she has your cell phone number, then you have done your part.

However, there was one time (before cell phones) that I was in a car accident and did not make it. I called the restaurant and left a message, but the restaurant never relayed the message to my date, so I did feel bad, but they guy read the accident reports in the newspaper and came to visit me in the hospital.

So check with the restaurant staff, to see if she called the restaurant to say she was not going to show up.

mate you not doing anything wrong, females are mostly rude anyway, they think cause they get 2 zillions emails a day, they can do what they like, and to whom they like....

why do you think they are on dating sites, its because of their actions, but i can tell you this, if you were handsome, and younger, they would be out in their droves, wanting to meet you,

and the ones that go defensive on this forum, its because they have done it themselves, and dont have a reasonable reason for doing what they have already done... its guilt...

Yeah all dressed up with no place to go, something as a simple phone call would be nice before I went through all the trouble of getting ready. Its just courtesy to let someone know if you can't make it regaurdless if you a man or woman. Thanks for the reply

Very correct...and I also would say ,it shows a lack 'Ethics',I have being Stood up three times.....I email the Ladies concerned just to say 'Thank You' for showing your 'True Colors'.....And,'Yes' I personally think both 'Genders' are Guilty of this....Best Advice I can give is...'move on'....all the best to you....

John Dutchie

After they made the commitment, being that it's a "blind" date, perhaps they "chickened out" and are too embarassed to call.

I think that is very rude and inconsiderate. Be thankful that you didn't get involved with these women--consider it a blessing!!

'Tut'....'Tut'....You Insensitive Man,you should by know by now, not to 'Criticize' the 'Western European Sisterhood'.........Now they are allowed to change the Subject....We are not....!!!!

John (Unpolitical Correct)Dutchie

'Some guys are too assuming'........What do you mean by that Statement......'Guys are to Assuming'.....??????

John Dutchie