how long after divorse should you wait before you commit to another(try to guess a time) ( Archived) (88)

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we discuss the issues at the forum HOW LONG AFTER DIVORCE,,WHAT NEEDS TO HAPPEN..

the answer seems to be properly letting go...

thanks again...i really mean it..

No one can tell you that, only you kno when you have sorted ur feelings out, and are ready for another relationship.

usually depends on how long you've been married.. but then again, i've never been so im probably not the best person to say..

yea how long is a ball of string??been on my own now 8 years,and stil looking mind you,all my money is mine,am morgage free,my kids hav growd up and im lonely shal i carry on ladies serious tho i chose this way to be where i am today,,,finding my partner....now thats hard.....it is my destiny to find that partner to carry on who i am.......

You never can put a time on these things. I do suggest though that you have your head and heart sorted out and know where you are going prior to beginning to think of starting a new relationship. Allow yourself time to heal from the last so as you can improve on the next. Good luck

thank you morgan5

take time to to be fair to yourself and others..


very wise words and very mush appreciated





kenneth

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i did not see myself taking this direction...but i can see now how important this all is time to heal..


thanks very much

kenneth

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i appreciate your comments

kds

Depends on when it quits hurting. Some folks hurt longer than others. Some aren't hurting at all!

I couldn't vote on here since my time scale wasn't listed. It probably is like everyone else has said, depends on things. The divorce care class I attended at my church way, way back, says that on average, it can take up to 5 yrs. before someone is ready to move on.

My own experience, it's been 7 yrs. now, and just now I am feeling ready to go forward with my life. I tried a few dates in-between, but never went past the first date - and a few flaky women (no offense) at that matter too. I'd say yes, it depends, and on alot of things. Doesn't help for those with depression issues and low esteem either. There's my 2 cents worth.

This is a hard question to answer because every situation and person is different. I think if the couple is young, they both should wait at least 5 years before getting married again. Especially if they got married right out of highschool. Kinda like I did. I needed time to figure out who I was on my own since I had never been single before. And I definitely needed time to get my head straight. For me, I was no where near ready for a serious relationship after 5 years of being single. Took me some time. And I would be a little suspicious of a serious relationship with someone who has only been divorced for a few years. JMO Of course this may be different for some folks, especially if you have been married a few times.

Oh, and I have been single since 2000. Had some flings since then but I'm just now ready to start over and meet someone for the real deal. Long time I know...

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you know it...

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thankyou very much for sharing that

I have heard it stated that the best way to get over one, is to get under another.

thank you for that...i was wondering ...but there is all this talk of baggage....perhaps if i take an air liner flight i might loose some baggage.

Not sure about Air Canada, but America Worst (now US Airways) can lose baggage on a non stop flight between Reno, NV & Phoenix, AZ.

BTW, thank you for the email thanking me for posting in YOUR forum.

it does vary from person to person. it's been about two years for me, still not sure if i'm ready, but thinking about it. my best approximation , she started about two years before the divorce.