Do you guys go around saying 'age is nothing but a number'..because it's the nice thing to say. Am I the only one who has age limitations. Okay I get ragged on for my age range... A LOT. Its one of the only things I won't budge on...I've tried (in order to please others) and frankly I didn't like it and I hate not being true to myself. I hate being made out to be some shallow person because I don't want to be with someone significantly older or younger than me. Younger guys make me barf and its not their fault. They have a lot of living to do..I was there once. Older guys...yeah I just can't. They have lived twice as much as I and I can't relate. Many things I do (and frankly like doing) will be extremely immature in their eyes. Also the whole thing with them having kids my age or a few years short of me...I can't do it. Plus not to mention the whole I still want to have kids and grow old with someone. I have more..but these are just relate to me...
As far as dating is concerned age is more than a number I am not comfortable dating although I will befriend people younger than me and if they are significantly older I don't tend to be interested either. However there are people that defy that for example Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher have been together for quite a while and she is almost twenty years his senior so there are always exceptions where people are a good fit.
i think you should do what you are most comfortable with period.
if you did happen to meet someone that was an exception to your rule, then that must be a special person. but until such time, you have a right to have a preference. someone is trying to tell you what your preference should be? really?
It all depends on the person, some 19 year olds are very mature some 30 years old are very immature, there cannot be a set rule, especially if you believe that you have no control over who or why you fall in love with. My last wife was a lot younger than me, we had a wonderful relationship and I can honestly say our age gap never had any effect on us, that we broke up was not age related it was down to something that can occur in any relationship.
When you find you are compatible with someone, enjoy the same things, can chat and talk about any subject at any time, age is irrelevant in my view.
However, I would say that having had a young wife has its drawbacks, in as much as I now would prefer to be with someone younger than myself, I enjoyed the way that she made me feel younger and livelier and would love to have that back again.
Azu. we joke a lot and flirt, but I dont think I could see myself with a woman younger than my kids. Now if I was a ..uhhum..few years younger.... But that dont mean we cant be friends, and even go out and raise hell together. It means that we dont see each other as life partner material.
azucarmorena: Do you guys go around saying 'age is nothing but a number'..because it's the nice thing to say. Am I the only one who has age limitations. Okay I get ragged on for my age range... A LOT. Its one of the only things I won't budge on...I've tried (in order to please others) and frankly I didn't like it and I hate not being true to myself. I hate being made out to be some shallow person because I don't want to be with someone significantly older or younger than me. Younger guys make me barf and its not their fault. They have a lot of living to do..I was there once. Older guys...yeah I just can't. They have lived twice as much as I and I can't relate. Many things I do (and frankly like doing) will be extremely immature in their eyes. Also the whole thing with them having kids my age or a few years short of me...I can't do it. Plus not to mention the whole I still want to have kids and grow old with someone. I have more..but these are just relate to me...
Thoughts?
I agree, I would not date anyone old enough to date my sons or daughters. People go through life experiences, what does someone who is 18 generally know about health issues that a 50 year old may have. In 20 years that 50 year old may pass away, and that 18 year old is left a widow in her 30's. Is it fair to that 18 year. NO it isn't. So I agree with you, age is very important.
Catt1960: I agree, I would not date anyone old enough to date my sons or daughters. People go through life experiences, what does someone who is 18 generally know about health issues that a 50 year old may have. In 20 years that 50 year old may pass away, and that 18 year old is left a widow in her 30's. Is it fair to that 18 year. NO it isn't. So I agree with you, age is very important.
what health issues? I am as healthy now as I was 25 years ago and I now a 22 year old who has far worse health issues than my father who is 92, taking that into account had he married a twenty year old when he was 40 she would be 72 now, where's the problem
rizlared: what health issues? I am as healthy nowknow as I was 25 years ago and I now a 22 year old who has far worse health issues than my father who is 92, taking that into account had he married a twenty year old when he was 40 she would be 72 now, where's the problem
It's the keyboard I tell you, it really is, honestly
azucarmorena: Do you guys go around saying 'age is nothing but a number'..because it's the nice thing to say. Am I the only one who has age limitations. Okay I get ragged on for my age range... A LOT. Its one of the only things I won't budge on...I've tried (in order to please others) and frankly I didn't like it and I hate not being true to myself. I hate being made out to be some shallow person because I don't want to be with someone significantly older or younger than me. Younger guys make me barf and its not their fault. They have a lot of living to do..I was there once. Older guys...yeah I just can't. They have lived twice as much as I and I can't relate. Many things I do (and frankly like doing) will be extremely immature in their eyes. Also the whole thing with them having kids my age or a few years short of me...I can't do it. Plus not to mention the whole I still want to have kids and grow old with someone. I have more..but these are just relate to me...
Thoughts?
Hey..in my opinion, you are totally correct..I even took a chance and asked an older gentleman (i think he was 50 & his age range started at 20! =) why he thought to put that age, i mean, ok, she JUST became old enuff to vote, and here in The USA, she ISNT even legally old enuff to drink! Also, i asked if he feels its ok for a man his age to date a 20 yr old, would it then have been ok for him to date her just 5 yrs ago when she was ONLY 15 & he was 45? Come on !!! I mean, not only would they NOT have ANYTHING in common (other than the fact that he would be old enuff to be her GRANDFATHER (THEN & NOW) but also due to the fact that he would be Arrested! HIS 'answer' ? He started saying things like 'look at Oriental women, they LOOK younger even when they're older' (they may look the same, old or young, but emotionally, they are STILL barely out of their 'teens') and something about how in some other 'cultures' girls as young as 14-16 are set up in marriages..well, thats THERE (AND its still 'wrong' and in my opinion, again, a crime and a shame for the poor girl!) NOT HERE IN THE USA!! The ONLY thing i believe a much older man OR woman would want with someone THAT much younger than themselves is S E X ! And these men and women (especially the '50+' yr olds) are NO BETTER than the p*dophile filling our prisons!!! I also take MY 21 & 30 yr old daughters feelings into 'account' when choosing MY 'age range' because i care MORE about how THEY would feel than i do about just being able to say 'ooh, look at me, i'm a sicko dating a guy YOUNGER than my YOUNGEST daughter' ? Un Huh...NOT GONNA HAPPEN!! :) Just my opinion, Girlfriend!! Have a Blessed week..
Well i've got a phone number, social insurance number, bank account number, people have said i've got your number lol, a house number, a credit card number so ya age may as well be just a number too lol cheers :)
I feel comfortable with attractive women in their late 30's to mid 40's.........but married women slightly older than myself in the past.
I wouldn't want to date a woman over 80 and certainly not a woman under 30 either.
However, I ENJOY the company of people of all ages, genders, races etc.......... communicating with other human beings is both a privilege and a pleasure.
Age IS more than a number........I might feel mentally like some teenager on heat but it's about time I acted as if I was a mature serious guy..... but Lord, it's so hard!
USThumper: Azu. we joke a lot and flirt, but I dont think I could see myself with a woman younger than my kids. Now if I was a ..uhhum..few years younger.... But that dont mean we cant be friends, and even go out and raise hell together. It means that we dont see each other as life partner material.
rizlared: what health issues? I am as healthy now as I was 25 years ago and I now a 22 year old who has far worse health issues than my father who is 92, taking that into account had he married a twenty year old when he was 40 she would be 72 now, where's the problem
Health issues aside...I'd like to increase my children's chances of growing up with their dad and their dad being around for his grand kids. Or course I am not talking about someone who is 10-15 years older than me.
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Am I alone in my beliefs that age is something more than just a number?(Vote Below)
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