it depends on how you and specially your friend have defined the relationship.for us,men,if ignore the negative signals and go,it may cause a ruined trust for the lady which affects her.
Boban1: I was posting the same thing, some time ago ...
but who knows ... we could both be wrong
yes we could be wrong, but personally i have tried so many times to have pure friendship with a guy but never worked, they ususally ended up wanting more than just friendship.
I am fortunate that my female friends are not what I'm interested in and vice-versa.A couple of times we tried and decided friends are better than someone you dont want as a lover.It was worth it .Not that I am not good enough
sweet_saucy2008: I have always had more guy friends than female friends. Never had the problems that occur with female friends. Even now I still have more guy friends.
amelie13Sydney, New South Wales Australia327 posts
RoeDeVinna: just wondering what everything thinks ??
I'd be very hesitant. I know people who have slept with friends and it made no difference to their relationship at all, but that hasn't been the case for me. There are a couple of really good male friendships I wish I still had; I acted on lust and curiosity & in hindsight, I'm regretful because it was never the same afterwards.
I guess if you end up falling in love with them, no matter how hard you try not to, that's a different thing. And a bummer too - every time they meet someone new you have to pretend to be happy for them, suffer through meeting their new girlfriends. In some situations like this, just being friends may be too painful.
RoeDeVinna: should say what everyone thinks sorry..
Hard lesson learned. Loved him as a friend, married him even and in the end it didnt work out, now we dont even speak. I would say NO NO NO. Its not worth it after learning that one.
RoeDeVinna: just wondering what everything thinks ??
How could you be best friends with someone you didn't like?
Seriously, of course you should. Your desire's already there - trying to suppress or hide that is likely going to negatively effect your friendship anyway. If you're rejected romantically, there's no reason why your friendship can't resume - unless you don't allow it to. After all, the only difference between the two scenarios is that in one case your best friend knows the truth. How can you live a lie with your best friend without severely compromising your relationship?
RoeDeVinna: If you liked one of your best friends would you go 4 it ? an risk your friendship if it didnt work?
just wondering what everything thinks ??
It would depend entirely on who it was. Some epople if it did not work out, it could be easy to resoume friendship with. Some, not so easy. Both because of my reactions to them AND their reactions to me.
I have a friend right now I surely would like to and vice versa. But he is too far from me and too busy and I am an impatient person. If I started something, I would want to see him more often than he has time for me right now. So, it is easier to be friends only.
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