is a relationship a relationship if you never physically met the person? (92)
ruby27: I met a guy on here in July and we have been corresponding through the site as well as by phone daily. I feel more comfortable talking to him and have shared things with him that I wouldn't have shared with others. We have talked about meeting up but I don't want to spoil what have with this guy. We are not sure what we would call ourselves friends/acquaintances???
Even though it is not a relationship we have definitely formed an emotional bond which I will treasure for a long time.
Even though it is not a relationship we have definitely formed an emotional bond which I will treasure for a long time.
Do these two guys know about each other??
They will now hehe
Sorry about the double post
Sorry about the double post
No, it's like dating an imaginary friend A bit like being a kid and having an imaginary friend Obviously, some people never mature at all
A bit like being a kid and having an imaginary friend Obviously, some people never mature at all the only relationship it can be is a friendship, how can you be in a relationship with someone that you dont know, you can porttay yourself as being anything over the net
people who think yes need to get their heads out of the clouds and live in the real world and have a rel relationship
people who think yes need to get their heads out of the clouds and live in the real world and have a rel relationship
OK this is easy for me...Virtual vs Reality...Now as I c it...I have lots of friends on here....but my potential man has got to come out from behind the computer into REALITY....before we move over to a relationship building process...
Buffy327: OK this is easy for me...Virtual vs Reality...Now as I c it...I have lots of friends on here....but my potential man has got to come out from behind the computer into REALITY....before we move over to a relationship building process...
Zellarrone1: No, it's like dating an imaginary friend A bit like being a kid and having an imaginary friend Obviously, some people never mature at all
Absolutely, I agree, sort of like dating yourself and always getting stuck with the check...What's the point???? Don't need an imaginary boyfriend to talk it over with...LOL...
Boban1: I see the whole relationship issue as a connection .Therefore it can be physical, metaphysical or spiritual ..
okay Im gonna take my meds now...carry on folks...
okay Im gonna take my meds now...carry on folks...
Buffy327: OK this is easy for me...Virtual vs Reality...Now as I c it...I have lots of friends on here....but my potential man has got to come out from behind the computer into REALITY....before we move over to a relationship building process...
not at all. A relationship ISN'T dating onwards. It's those little intangibles, knowledge of someone's humnour, knowing their likes and dislikes, their pet's name as a child, etc THOSE are the foundation of a true friendship and FRIENDSHIP is the foundation of a 'relationship'. Many people here are confusing 'relationship' with 'going out together'.
You can build those foundations online and take it inti reality later. But ALL that previous stuff WAS 'relationship building'
GingerBe: In the strict sense of the word it is, because you are relating to each other, on whatever level.
I agree it is a relationship, and not a whole lot different than the pen pals we had back in the dinosaur days - same kinds of things apply - can't really know if an attraction will exist until you meet. I think the internet makes it easier to have that kind of relationship because it's possible to communicate more frequently, and in "real time."Buffy327: Absolutely, I agree, sort of like dating yourself and always getting stuck with the check...What's the point???? Don't need an imaginary boyfriend to talk it over with...LOL...
ReadyToTryAgain: A Penpalship?
I agree. It is a relationship in the sense of penpals. When we say 'relationship' and mean a man & woman together involvement, I don't think it is a real relationship unless you are meeting and dealing with each other face to face. Physical reality is so very different from cyberspace.Does this also include all those who say they have a " relationship " with God ? ? ? ? 
illu_66: not at all. A relationship ISN'T dating onwards. It's those little intangibles, knowledge of someone's humnour, knowing their likes and dislikes, their pet's name as a child, etc THOSE are the foundation of a true friendship and FRIENDSHIP is the foundation of a 'relationship'. Many people here are confusing 'relationship' with 'going out together'.
You can build those foundations online and take it inti reality later. But ALL that previous stuff WAS 'relationship building'
You can build those foundations online and take it inti reality later. But ALL that previous stuff WAS 'relationship building'
definitely agree
[quote=midavell...get a real live one and look into their eyes and then you will ko if the relationship is real...
Yes, It is a "Virtual-Relationship" ......one which is not tangible 
A virtual relationship as in penpals yes but like a relationship where you've met in person kind no.
illu_66: not at all. A relationship ISN'T dating onwards. It's those little intangibles, knowledge of someone's humnour, knowing their likes and dislikes, their pet's name as a child, etc THOSE are the foundation of a true friendship and FRIENDSHIP is the foundation of a 'relationship'. Many people here are confusing 'relationship' with 'going out together'.
You can build those foundations online and take it inti reality later. But ALL that previous stuff WAS 'relationship building'
You can build those foundations online and take it inti reality later. But ALL that previous stuff WAS 'relationship building'
Well call it what u will, and beginning to start the relationship, but officially it is not "REAL" for me, until u have met...
I have had two such long term conversations/telephone/internet, learning all about someone, liking what they liked, agreeing on many many things with two very nice men.....When we met, there was nothing, nadda chemistry for me.....so I would think they would be my friend....Right....NAH....Not the same for them....so now they are a part of my history....Different strokes for different folks...but chemistry means a lot...
Buffy327: Well call it what u will, and beginning to start the relationship, but officially it is not "REAL" for me, until u have met...
I have had two such long term conversations/telephone/internet, learning all about someone, liking what they liked, agreeing on many many things with two very nice men.....When we met, there was nothing, nadda chemistry for me.....so I would think they would be my friend....Right....NAH....Not the same for them....so now they are a part of my history....Different strokes for different folks...but chemistry means a lot...
I have had two such long term conversations/telephone/internet, learning all about someone, liking what they liked, agreeing on many many things with two very nice men.....When we met, there was nothing, nadda chemistry for me.....so I would think they would be my friend....Right....NAH....Not the same for them....so now they are a part of my history....Different strokes for different folks...but chemistry means a lot...
I totally agree that chemistry is vital. Your view of the term 'relationship' is simply narrower than mine. NOt wrong, just narrower!
elienebrazil: Whatever, it is a ship
titanic-shipillu_66: I totally agree that chemistry is vital. Your view of the term 'relationship' is simply narrower than mine. NOt wrong, just narrower!
Can be a better ship if the basis of a relationship is connection and finding mutual happiness, concern, and care for each other's well-being, then it's a yes. I know of several married persons who admit to having a stronger bond with people they talk to online than their real life partners with regards to thoughts and feelings. 
Good one
Boban1: I see the whole relationship issue as a connection .Therefore it can be physical, metaphysical or spiritual ..
okay Im gonna take my meds now...carry on folks...
okay Im gonna take my meds now...carry on folks...
how do you think Jesus was made?
illu_66: Sure.
It depends on your definition of a relationship. I have many online 'friends'. Not a single one can pop round for a coffee, but I still class some as friends.
I have been 'emotionally' involved with someone I never met, and was as committed as if we HAD met. Inasmuch as I'd not have looked elsewhere during that time.
I don't think you can 'fall in love', but I DO believe that you can experience feelings that could be considered close to that. For me, it's that look in the eyes and that first hug that will tell me whether I could love this person or not. And THAT cannot be achieved online.
(or offline )
It depends on your definition of a relationship. I have many online 'friends'. Not a single one can pop round for a coffee, but I still class some as friends.
I have been 'emotionally' involved with someone I never met, and was as committed as if we HAD met. Inasmuch as I'd not have looked elsewhere during that time.
I don't think you can 'fall in love', but I DO believe that you can experience feelings that could be considered close to that. For me, it's that look in the eyes and that first hug that will tell me whether I could love this person or not. And THAT cannot be achieved online.
(or offline )
You can enjoy online but you are right until you hold and kiss someone you are not in a real realationship. JMO
Of course not.....
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It depends on your definition of a relationship. I have many online 'friends'. Not a single one can pop round for a coffee, but I still class some as friends.
I have been 'emotionally' involved with someone I never met, and was as committed as if we HAD met. Inasmuch as I'd not have looked elsewhere during that time.
I don't think you can 'fall in love', but I DO believe that you can experience feelings that could be considered close to that. For me, it's that look in the eyes and that first hug that will tell me whether I could love this person or not. And THAT cannot be achieved online.
(or offline )