I am the type of person that tries not to involve others when coping with something in life that is difficult. I guess being a cerebral type (thinker), I feel I can manage thru whatever comes my way without burdening someone else with my issues. But I would guess my stubbornness and pride also contributes to that as well.
I do like sites like this wirh forums and blogs where others are experiencing similar things and feeling as myself. I can bounce ideas around, and while giving others advice and insight it sometimes help me think about what I have going on, and in turn help myself realize some things.
I spotted my first grey at 18 or 19. Now at 32, I've got quite a few. I get the "old man" comment from my buddies at work, but I don't care. I suppose I could dye it, but to me that would be a waste of money since my hair grows fast. Now I've spotted some in my beard and eyebrows. I'll just let nature take it's course and be thankful I have a full head of hair, some guys my age or younger cannot say that, lol
I started doing my shopping a couple months ago. I only am buying for my parents since I am single. I'll be going over there to their house on Christmas, and more than likely I will cook again like I did this year for Thanksgiving.
I have quite a few, and I am only 32. I see no sense in trying to dye or "cover" it, it will be an on going thing if I do since my hair grows really fast. I figure I will let nature take it's course and be grateful I have a full head of hair and not going bald.
I too often wonder what is going on today. It seems like relationships have become disposable like so many of the things we buy at the store. It's like if it becomes a little dull or not working exactly the way the want, into the trash can with it and on to finding a new one, without trying to talk or figure out what is going on.
And there's like what some have mentioned. Some people have been burned and hurt so badly by one or many in their lives, and they put up walls as a defense mechanism and do not let anyone get too close to them. Some of them figure if they hurt the other person first they won't be the one who gets hurt this time. Some have lost faith in there being long term meaningful relationships anymore, or never believed in them in the first place.
There are people out there who want them, it's just you have to look hard to find them. You can't get discouraged or lose hope, and that can be tough and more easier said than done sometimes.
Hope you enjoy this crazy Buckeye weather, and have a wonderful time with your family. I'm gonna be on the go till I go back to work on Monday it seems.
ED, I see a contridiction, or should I say confusion, in your statement. People must not have a religion but must have a relationship with god? This does not make sense to me.
Christianity is a religion, with God and Jesus (God's son) being the 2 "people" that are called upon in prayer and whatnot, and many denominations of said religion. Buddhism has Buddha. Muslim has Allah. Jehovah's Witness has Jehovah. These are religions that have a god as the focal point, without them there are none of these religions.
Some just can't handle the truth, whether it be telling it or hearing it.
I lay it out there, and on more than one occasion I have been told I can be brutally honest. I'd rather be disliked because I am honest than to be liked for being a liar.
It broke my heart to see how bad he was getting when I would go over there. He might not have been able to hear me, but he knew me when he saw me and would lean against me like he had always done when I petted him. He was a good dog. The vet said in dog years he estimated him to be 110 years old.
I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I have lost many a loved one, and it's never easy.
I posted a blog about a Rascal Flatts song "when the sand runs out". I think your statement about not taking anything for granted made me think of this. Not sure about your musical taste, but check the song out and see what you think.
Mine will sometimes sleep on the bed, usually Bell or Pretty Girl. Romeo likes to get under the blanket and lay at me feet when it's chilly enough for me to need a blanket when I'm on the couch.
I used smokeless tobacco for almost 15 years, I quit a year ago and haven't used it since. I still smoke, but I have been slowly weaning myself off of them as well. Smoking has been tougher, at times it feels more habitual than needing to.
Getting the engine put in isn't as big of a deal as coming up with the cash to buy it and have it done. If I had a garage and an engine puller I could do it myself, I'm good with a wrench. The time of year this happened was bad timing with it getting cold, rainy, and snow right around the corner. Time, expense, and distance is what's slowing it all down. But somehow I'm gonna figure a way to get this done one way or another.
you have to take a moment and think where you were and where you are now.
You said you were the poorest in your neighborhood then, and now you are doing fair.
You said the people "friends" you looked up to, envied, and were jealous of are now locked away in prison. You are not.
You have given back to your community.
Sounds to me like you have overcome a lot and came a long way from where you started as a child. That is something to be proud of, and something to hold your head up high about.
I do not have the answer to what you need to feel happy or fulfilled, but from what I have read I can say you seem like a good person looking to find your way, whatever that may be.
I too grew up poor, I understand how that is. I have worked hard to get where I am, and looking back I see my past has helped drive me to be the person I am today. I look back at how things were and how they are now for me, and I have come a long way. I have seen how others who I grew up with that had money and everything given to them, now have less than me now because they took for granted what they had back then and did not strive to carry it over into their adult lives.
Do not look at the things of your past as bad, look at them as stepping stones to where you are now. Times may not have always been easy then or now, but do not let the rough times drag you down. Cherish what you have accomplished and keep moving forward.
I played the Battlefield 3 multiplayer Beta (demo), and was not impressed at all. I have played the other Battlefield games in the past, and have not found any of them close to as good as the Call of Duty franchise. I'm sure sales of Battlefield 3 versus COD MW3 will be proof of Call of Duty's dominance. EA Games should stick to Madden and NCAA football, those games are good.
I have MW3 pre-ordered, and await getting my hands on it.
I find myself both looking forward to it and kinda dreading it.
I'm looking forward to it because of what I'm trying to do for my parents to make it a good christmas for them. I've been working on it each paycheck for the past month or so.
I'm kinda dreading it because unless something changes between now and then, I'll be alone except for when I go to my parents' on christmas day.
I could care less that I won't be getting any Christmas gifts, it doesn't bother me in the least bit. To be able to accomplish my goal I've set for making it a good Christmas for my parents, is more than enough for me.
I have a one bedroom apartment. It's all I need with it just being me. I'm a simple man, I don't need anything fancy.
I would like to have a house of my own, but it is just not practical for me. I don't need a whole house being by myself. Besides that there's the upkeep, property taxes, and so forth that I don't have to worry about with my apartment. I take care of what needs fixing within my apartment, I feel I should not have to call the property manager if a light bulb burns out or if I would have a leaky faucet I am more than capable of doing most home type repairs myself.
If I were to find someone to spend my life with and raise a family, then a house would be more desirable. But for now I reside in my apartment that is perfect for me right now.
In the 2nd relationship I was lead to believe I was the reason for it going the way it did. After being at fault in the 1st relationship, I was afraid I was doing it again so it was easy for me to want to believe the 2nd was because of me, until I figured out what was really going on. The ex in the 2nd relationship was a good manipulator I learned the truth after she slipped up in the game of deception she was playing. Once I figured out what was going on I did not blame myself for it.
Yeah itchywitch, it does seem at times like I put way more into it than what I get back. I'm just not a quiter though. The thoughts have been there sometimes, but that is not me or who I am.
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RE: how to cope with life on our own before involving
I am the type of person that tries not to involve others when coping with something in life that is difficult. I guess being a cerebral type (thinker), I feel I can manage thru whatever comes my way without burdening someone else with my issues. But I would guess my stubbornness and pride also contributes to that as well.I do like sites like this wirh forums and blogs where others are experiencing similar things and feeling as myself. I can bounce ideas around, and while giving others advice and insight it sometimes help me think about what I have going on, and in turn help myself realize some things.