You don't lack for looks so that isn't the issue. The hat isn't doing you any favors. Smoking is unattractive.
As for the profile it needs a bit of work. Never be negative. Some things don't need to be mentioned in a profile.
Such as:
"and I don't like talking about my mom or surtan things from my past." (fyi surtan s/b certain)
"who is trust worthy,open when it comes to talking and a women that can accept me for who I am and who won't wanna change me."
The first statement you made is just information you don't need to express in a profile. The second is fine except I would remove the part about changing you. Don't assume that women want to change men.
Just sell your positives only so that you can get a conversation started with a woman. Start with having just a couple nice pics where you smile, and project a more adult image. Once you start getting to know someone you can begin to express more of your personality and see if they are receptive.
Isn't possible they only seem dumb due to a language barrier?
If your spoke their language and they fully understood what you were talking about then maybe it would be different.
Also, what ages are we talking about? I've noticed here in the USA that many of the younger people, even in college are oblivious to what is happening in the world. I'm glad to say my son isn't one of them.
I don't accept everyone. Most of mine are from younger men in India and Pakistan. I have found two that I accepted that have become very nice cyber pen pals. Many times if you have regions blocks the requests come from those areas because they can't email you.
Sounds like you both have real feeling for each other. You are correct there are many differences that do keep you apart. Sometimes those differences can't be bridged and sometimes they can.
I too would need a man who believes in God or Allah as they are the same (for those who don't know and read this "Allah" means God).
I'm Christian but my son is Muslim and we have no conflicts. You can be with a man of a different faith if have respect for each other.
Only by being together more often can you find out if your feelings would turn to love.
You can have a very good friendship that does last for a lifetime if you both desire to stay in each other's lives. You just can't worry when there is no quick response to messages since you aren't a couple. You owe each other no explanations.
I have a Danish friend and he is very happy with his life. Denmark takes very good care of their people. Last year they were #2 and Finland was #1 and Sweden was #3.
@Honey I read Maylasia was now the MOST expensive place in the world to live which is probably why Malaysians are unhappy.
Maybe she just needed to talk, or had some unresolved feelings of her own to deal with. Wouldn't hurt to call her and ask what was on her mind. It doesn't mean you are going back in time. This is a person you once had a strong connection to. You know each other for the good and the bad. You shouldn't fear a conversation knowing you aren't going to be in a romantic relationship with her again but you could find out if she just needs someone to listen, someone who does know her.
When I was little my grandmother used a tub, scrub board and a ringer to wash clothes. It took til I think the 70's for my dad and uncle's to convince her a washer and dryer were much easier. Even my mom had a scrub board for washing some clothes and we didn't have a dryer the last 1970's. Just a clothesline.
Yes, there are many American who are unfamiliar with the items I mentioned.
Here in California it doesn't matter what gender you are you can't physically assault another person. A woman can't slap a man anymore than he can slap her. Same goes for all the inbetween genders.
@positiveone There are a lot of chubby asian chicks out there. Yes, they have McDonalds all over Asia. Genetics have a lot to do with any person being naturally thing no matter what they ingest but it doesn't mean they won't have heart disease, dibetes and end up dying. Just they will look good when they do.
Question is: Do you practice what you preach? I find that it's seldom true. The person preaching it usually has not achieved much of anything other than to regurgitate what they read on how to achieve life's goals.
Personally, you aren't attractive to me but everyone has different taste.
One problem is your profile picture is awful. Better grooming is a must. Be clean shaven, neat hair and neat clothes and take a pic with a smile in good lighting. Project the very best you. I don't see that you are trying very hard to do that and I've found most men are so much more attractive then the pics they put up but if us ladies can't get past the profile pic then??? Believe me I don't look for Brad Pitt but I do look at grooming habits and how a man presents himself.
Once again, I don't try to be mean but I don't come here to sugarcoat things when someone is asking an honest question.
First, I do agree you need a new pic with a smile which will make you more appealing. Show yourself to be a positive and happy person.
I do agree with angel that you have to first and foremost like and better yet love yourself and respect yourself before anyone else will.
Not sure its fair for her to say other posters aren't getting dates because how does she know what they are doing in their private lives. Many people only come to these sites for Forums. I don't care about dating on here. I don't date on another site either just participate in forum but I am dating 2 nice gentleman at the moment.
What works for each of us isn't necessarily going to work for someone else because we aren't the same person. Take advice with a grain of salt.
@angel From flowers profile: "I AM MIX OF SCOTTISH AND NORWEGIAN" He's not a Serbian he only resides there.
@flowers Don't you think your limiting yourself searching for just this one specific type of girl? Must be a redheaded UK or Norwegian girl when maybe you are simply overlooking the one who is meant for you? Maybe she's blonde or brunette and German or Italian or American or how about Serbian?
I have the feeling being an Artist, a writer and most obviously a dreamer you may never settle down. As I have loved a poet and he to this day is still a dreamer filled with beautiful words that won't ever be grounded in reality.
Why aren't your cats spayed and neutered. If you were a cat breeder you wouldn't keep mama and kittens in a dresser drawer. I hope you are being irresponsible and bringing more animals into the world that will end up unwanted. You might give them away but people seldom are forever homes. Go spend time in a shelter, talk to the person who has to put down unwanted pets and know why I'm bringing this up. Please be responsible and love your grown cats. They don't need babies.
One of the most beautiful things I witnessed one afternoon were 2 small children, a brother and sister, playing together and speaking English. Watching over them was Grandma. Though, the children who were no more than 4 to 6 years old with Grandma they spoke only in Japanese. Then it was right back to English with each other.
Women must love themselves whatever size they are and stop trying to live up to ridiculous standards set by the movie and tv and modeling industries which aren't healthy or normal.
Now, I'm far from a size 0 and wouldn't want to be one. What I can say that skinny women tend to look older not younger. I'm 50 and don't have any wrinkles at all. Most of which is pure genetics.
Difference between Aniston and Jolie is that Aniston is fit and Jolie is anorexic.
When people are two different they can also lack interest in each other and become bored. Not sharing interest in the same things is certain death in a relationship.
Rather I seek a man who balances out my personality but shares my same interests so we can enjoy being together.
For instance I'm an Aquarian and very much the free spirit and difficult to understand at times because I think way out of the box. I am best suited with a man who is calm, confident and has great direction in his life. Two of me doesn't just doesn't work.
Chances are if you blog or comment a view came from within here. Otherwise if someone is interested in you they will view you and follow up with an email. Obviously, they viewed and didn't see anything they liked so why check them out?
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RE: Why don't women find me attractive?
You don't lack for looks so that isn't the issue.The hat isn't doing you any favors.
Smoking is unattractive.
As for the profile it needs a bit of work.
Never be negative.
Some things don't need to be mentioned in a profile.
Such as:
"and I don't like talking about my mom or surtan things from my past." (fyi surtan s/b certain)
"who is trust worthy,open when it comes to talking and a women that can accept me for who I am and who won't wanna change me."
The first statement you made is just information you don't need to express in a profile. The second is fine except I would remove the part about changing you. Don't assume that women want to change men.
Just sell your positives only so that you can get a conversation started with a woman. Start with having just a couple nice pics where you smile, and project a more adult image. Once you start getting to know someone you can begin to express more of your personality and see if they are receptive.
Good luck to you.