Geeez... Just posted the blog a moment ago, dashed off to answer a mail and come back to 22 comments...
I was always told when ending an affair to be complimentary and polite... Please (for those that mentioned it) tell me how this woman will be confused with this letter?
Ian... You have always got something to say, so when you have cleared up your perhaps you would enlighten us all
I have relocated to so many countries I have lost count. Have to say in a couple of instances I have relocated to another country to leave a woman, not find one!
As for your other question.. "You really think its possible to find and fall in love on CS?"
Some people have found love on CS and remain very happy, I also believe love can be found, just takes a little patience and a lot of open mindedness.
I have suffered sufficient painful comments from what I post on this site. I cant imagine the torture I would have to endure if I was the one making the list.
When two people get together it is usually because they like each other for the way they are, so why would there be a need to change?
I accept that in a relationship people "merge" by adjusting some of the things they do, however, if one was required to give up a part of themselves I do not see the relationship enduring.
Just let the "date" do all the talking whilst you sit there wide eyed looking interested, nodding your head from time to time and grunting agreement at all the appropriate moments.
The spelling mistake was deliberate to see whether people were paying attention, have you noticed you are the only person that picked up on the mistake?
I did not look at your profile as I feel you are too young to be on a dating site.
The is not a reproach, but if you are outgoing and get involved with community work then the oppostunities of finding someone are greater there than on a dating site.
Try and get past the notion that every guy is only looking for one thing, this could be tainting your view of each guy you meet thus the boat has sunk before the oars are even in the water.
Take things slowly, keep an open mind, subdue your expectations... When I was your age we used to call it "Going with the flow".
Luck to you, keep us posted as to how you get along.
There have been many blogs from both men and women asking the same question. Although this offers no comfort, at least you are not alone.
Perhaps I have been one of the lucky ones as everyone I have been in contact with has been genuine. Like you however, I live on an island, this greatly limits the number of possibilities of finding someone close by so you may have to consider an LDR if you are to find what you are looking for.
Finally, In answer to your question, yes, there are loads of real people out there, finding them is not easy, getting in touch with them is even harder. Just keep trying.
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perhaps you would enlighten us all
Dear Jane letter
Cake....Sorry to have burst your bubble... but it's over between us