Do Danish women expect their dates to pay for them?
PS Pay attention (now if Danish men are able to pay that much) that the poll didn't "include paying" bills as a favourite thing to do on a date. So your spiteful remark is sorta kinda off topic.
What's so funny? While gathering firewood, you might meet another scout occupied with the same task and who knows how it'd turn from that point. Can happen that he's also tired of his date just lying there accumulating cellulites and would be happy to bump into someone like-minded, a sibling-in-firewood, so to say. Then we can make a fire from our findings put together... and voilà!
Well... ghettos never disappear, they just change inhabitants. There are rich ghettos, you know. Language skills might get you out of a ghetto. Would it help to get a ghetto out of you? With that I'm asking, would the natives accept you as one of their own if you speak their language perfectly (or perhaps even better than the majority of them) or the other factors, as skin colour or a particular bit of cloth, would be the first and only criterium you'd be judge by?
Checked the net and Wiki says that nationality isn't the same as citizenship, as I've suspected.
I am of an opinion that if an individual applies to a citizenship in a certain country, she or he must prove not only knowledge of the official language, but as well of history, literature, cultural heritage and understanding the current values and laws.
Well... with my IQ=128 last time I've bothered to, I'm close to 2 deviation point of the normal distribution in the population. They don't say what population.
If you are interested in what I feel and think... then a cliché in my opinion is a bad performance. And I think, that a person, resorting to a cliché - is a stupid one.
I'm glad that you still care about your ex-dates. Someone has to after all. I don't care about my ex-dates: we met once and it was obvious that we had not much in common to meet again, let alone to maintain the acquaintanceship.
I parted rather friendly with my ex-husband, 'coz we reached the line where there wasn't anything more to argue about. We still phone each other, well... he does and I answer and try to maintain the conversation while I'm completely indifferent about his life whatever it is. I guess, this site would call us "friends". I call it "nuisance". And while typing this I decided to tell him never to call again the next time he calls. Not to waist his time and get a life.
I hoped that this tread would bring some positive results - and here it is!
I was talking about the "staff" I get in my mail-box and in profiles I read here. (And 95 % of them contain "friends first" nonsense.) But for me an internet dating site is a tool to make an acquaintance and get a date. Nothing more. Not "bonking" (as someone nicely put it), not "friendship" with someone I never met. But an acquaintance, a date... What's so difficult with it? A date don't oblige you to anything. While friendship does. Or this "move with the flow friendship" doesn't? Why then do you call it a "friendship"?
By the way, you forgot to explain what "real friendship" means for you in the context of internet dating.
I don't rush into anything myself: a brief exchange on line would give you an idea about some of his traits; intelligence level, for example, you can assess from his vocabulary. A discussion about books, music, films, outdoor activities would give you insight into his preferences. Then you can decide whether there's meaning in meeting in person. You don't have to be friends - it's just a date. After a couple of hours in each other's company you'd know if you would like to meet again. That's it.
A friend is the absolute final destination - a friend is a part of the family for me. I don't date friends. I help them and they help me. I ask them for advise. I cry on their shoulder. I brag to them about my achievement (real and imaginary). I irritate them. I lend them money. I forgive them. But I don't date them.
5th option: a scammer. I get a lot of messages from scammers (as I'm sure, you also do), who want to be friends first.
Who are those "other people"? Those, who don't want to be "friends first"?
By the way, what happened with your friendship after you stopped dating each other? Are you still friends? If so, how does it manifest? You meet each other on regular bases, you keep in touch, you care about each other?
Liking somebody isn't being friends. It's just... liking :)
I don’t know what people mean with stating ”friends first”. (I’ve asked on a few occasions, but never got any comprehensible answer.) For me a friend is the same as family, just not blood relative. You do everything for your family; it comes first no matter what. Why someone I never met, someone from a dating site of all places, wants me to shoulder that kind of loyalty for him is beyond my understanding. So when I see “friends first” I have 3 options to choose from:
1. He is an impotent, but doesn’t want to admit it straight away. Holding hands is all he’s capable to.
2. He’s got some kind of agenda, but is reluctant to air it, hence – he’s a hypocrite.
3. He doesn’t know what he wants, hence – he’s an idiot.
I don’t take people I don’t know for hypocrites or idiots without further information. So my sentiment when I see “friends first” is that – he’s an impotent.
Just looks like there are too many of them. Well… given my preferable age range it’s not a wonder… but still…
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RE: Poll for the Ladies - When you're with a guy, whats your favourite thing to do
Sure. The Amber room is still not found.