There's a lot of scammers here, but you must have a special kind of luck to contact 8 scammers in a row.
I don't know your selection criteria, but if you try to approach a woman living in your town, belonging to the same socio-economic stratum and reasonably close to your age, then a lot of issues, as visa or travel expenses or granny's hospital, won't even appear.
Well... agree, though a bare "Hello" won't bring you much success on a dating site, it takes more than that.
There might be a lot of reasons why people don't speak language of a country they say they currently living in. Most obvious: recently arrived and have no plans to stay long. Besides, she can be an Anglophone and Anglophones, from my experience, don't hurry to learn "inferior" languages. N'est pas, Jimmy?
And in general terms: those, who expect other people to behave in one or another way, expose themselves to disappointment.
I get a lot of mail from gentlemen living in Sweden who don't speak a word of Swedish or any other Scandinavian language for that matter. They also all non-Caucausian. One can find some pattern in the fact :)
Thank you for feed back. Forgot to mention that in both cases my counterparts were Irish men. So I's wondering whether there is some kind of dead line for answering when it comes to Irish people, after which you become persona non-grata and would be blocked.
You see, I correspond with a Canadian man: he replies once in a while and so do I. Then I correspond with a German man in the very same fashion: an extensive exchange and then we leave each other in peace for a good while, few months or so. I find it convenient - why to bother your pen-pal when there's nothing to tell about or you are just too busy to write. Or just not in the mood... (I broke my hip last March and still not well after that. Then my father died 3 weeks ago and I don't always feel like entertaining strangers. Then, in order to write something in English I have to make some adjustments in my brain. In short, some things have to co-inside for me to reply and I always thought that my counterparts are able to understand that.)
I would block someone who's bothering me after I've told him that I don't want to correspond anymore. But blocking for a few days' delay... Ain't that too dramatic?
And once again, it's my experience only with the Irish gentlemen. Is it the weather or some such?
Chose "New Members Area", as I'm new to the Irish fora.
Twice experienced a very same thing: when I try to answer to a person, I get a message that I'm either blocked or the participant doesn't exist.
In both cases it was they that contacted me first, we kept a correspondence for a while and then, when I tried to reply, I couldn't. My guess is - they blocked me. What for? For being late with my reply? Is it a crime in Ireland?
I'm here for a date. While it's incredibly pleasant to be noticed from a long distance... it's that - incredibly pleasant. It's not a date. A correspondence is good for me to keep my variation of written English alive, don't know what good it does to my counterpart though...
For me: yes. It's actually the main requirement for my partner - to belong to the same axiomatic system. You don't want to spend all time discussion subjects that are given from your point of view: as "same pay for same job" and the like.
Well... indeed, I didn't think thoroughly before answering. Here is the second thought:
You are always 10.
Looks? It's your looks and there are no other looks that you can have at the given moment. So it's 10. If you are not content with how you look and plan to "improve" them somehow (get a trout pout or something?) you are still 10. When you got your trout pout you will again be 10, as it'll be how you'd look at that moment.
Intelligence? The very same: it's your intelligence and there's nothing else. Even if you play dumb of one or another reason, that doesn't change your intelligence level, so it's 10.
Personality? That's your 10 as well.
There's no way to escape yourself, whatever you do or don't do.
Of all the above, only income matters. Anyway, it reflects your intelligence and personality. Looks are irrelevant if it's all you have. I personally value sense of happiness most: happy people look good and have good personality. Then intelligence is irrelevant.
For income I'd give myself 6 and 8 for sense of happiness
The site is called "Connecting singles", hence, it's expected that the majority of the users are single. Widows / widowers are deemed to be overrepresented here, comparing to any given group of people in the total population.
On the other hand, scammers often impose as widowers. If it looks fishy - it's fishy.
I am so terribly sorry that you had to endure a match with the unwashed ones.
But I also hope, that the prospect of a "real" match would keep you happy enough for some while to deter from reporting people left, right and centre for nothing.
80% of information is transferred non-verbally - tune of voice, gestures/body language, facial expression/mimic, pace, pauses etc... Hence, while corresponding in written, we lose all that. There's brazillion ways to say "Yay" or "Nay" and only one way to write it.
Not a wonder internet dating doesn't work. :)
As to cold feet... People get cold feet when they misrepresented themselves on the net. I don't see you as one of those. Perhaps, you sensed that the date in question wasn't the one you wanted, but were reluctant to say so... Well, those things happens. It's life.
There actually is a discussion behind the curtains if you know the "right" people and belong to the "right" group. And if you so inclined, of course.
But to tell the truth, I don't understand what the man in OP's story did wrong. He wanted to move to Skype, OP agreed, he "withdrew". What harm is done?
Read somewhere a while ago, that on these kind of sites ca 30-40% of people (mostly men), who are marketing themselves as single, are married or in a long-term relationship. Hence, the probability is hight that a letter (scammers excluded) a woman receives here is from a married man. If you'd want to discuss every one of them with someone else... you'd have no time for your own life.
And then there's warning: you move from this site on your own risk, don't cry you haven't been told.
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