This being an international forum we are probably going to come across many people from different cultural backgrounds who are looking for love online. Would you be willing to have a relationship with someone you met online from a different culture? If their cultural background was vastly different from yours how far would you be willing to adapt to theirs to make the relationship work?
And therein lies the problem. Let me give you some womanly advice. I myself am a single mom and I can tell you that you can't go about comparing every woman to this woman that did you wrong. That is just as bad as them comparing you to the father of their child/children or any man that has done them wrong in their lives. It is very unfair.
You would like to be liked for who you are not to be compared to some other man so the same goes for women. No woman wants to be compared to someother woman who did you wrong. They want to be taken on their own merits. In any healthy relationship there are going to be things you don't like about a person and vice versa. Are you going to end every relationship over things you don't like?
That is why there is a thing called compromise. You still sound upset and angry over this situation-not a good thing to carry over into a relationship, because you will find yourself always looking for these 'signs'. You need to sort out your emotions over this thing first and then move on with a clean slate, since any relationship you try to have now with that anger still there is bound to fail.
Um- can't you all this stuff with any woman? Why does it have to be a single mom, since clearly you are capable of having your own kids with somebody. JMO.
Does the amount of money a man/woman makes affect your decision to date him/her. Would you date a man/woman who is unemployed at the moment or has been unemployed for a long time due to some specific reason? If you met two different people who you felt a connection with, one poor and the other quite wealthy, they are both decent people and you seemed to share the same values with them, how important would money be in this decision to date either of them?
What's offensive is you tone. So you think its a great act of kindness and yes it is a great sacrifice to have to give up a child that you've carried for nine months - in fact that is what makes it an even greater act of love. The rest obout the 'baby mill' what's that about? I wasn't talking about women doing it as a means of exploiting the situation. But it isn't just women who can be affected by this? What about the men who are with these women? They too should have a say too in the decision making and if you're telling people who are against it to mind their business then that says to me that (probably if put in the situation where it was gonna affect you) you probably would be for it. See that wasn't so hard now was it.
Did someone drop some nails in your cornflakes? If you don't want to participate in the thread then don't. Everyone is entitled to their opinions and choices same as you. You are a man so its highly unlikely you will ever be asked to be a surrogate but others have thought about it, and yeah it has nothing to do with you.
Hi Sommer how you doing girl? I know a lot of women do it as an act of love especially in the case of mothers doing it for daughters, knowing that pregnancy can take its toll on an older woman, it is quite a sacrifice.
I have been noticing a lot of stories in the news lately about women who are unable to conceive are having their sisters or even their own mothers offering to becoming surrogate mothers and giving birth to their own grandkids. I know this is very complex and emotional issue but just wanted to know the views of others on this topic. Are you for or against it and why?
Fret not there was the OP and Readyornot did seem to express some interest -or have they suddenly disappeared, funny how men disappear when there is no girl on girl action
What doesn't sound right? Hunky,sweaty, good looking guys covered in mud or jello doing a contact sport. What's wrong with that picture? Sounds perfect to me.
Hey she can have fifty kids if she feels like it, back in the good old days out here you even heard of families with twenty kids-but like I said that was in the GOOD OLD FAR CHEAPER DAYS. It's her body and she can run free with it BUT here is the rub, once she know that SHE has the responsibility to care for ALL these kids then fine. Since it is now grossly unfair to expect ANYONE ELSE to pick up the tab for her decision.
Once she is prepared to provide for them herself, norish them properly and give them adequate time and attention because premature kids sometimes have developmental problems. I would have hoped she did all her research and knows all her responsibilites and realised what she was getting into because if she didn't look at all these angles - especially the fact that she already had six then woe be on to her because it is the height of irresponsibility to expect others to pick up the tab for you satisfying your fertility whims and fancies.
Look you have a right to your opinions and so do others on here. Not too many people like labels so I am not going to lable you as anything. You are who are and you like what you like - fair enough. But here is where I get ticked off. You make accusation of people being UPTIGHT, acting as if they are living in the middle ages,,afraid to take chances and being prudish. Well pardon me but isn't that their right to act so if they feel like it just as it is YOUR right to be so 'enlightned' If you were being judged then that was not right but then to turn around and then be the judge is also not right.
Adapting to a new culture for love
In what way are they different?