Stringman, I'm a bit concerned about the my pillow man walking backwards towards a moving forklift truck. It raises quite a serious health and safety issue.
Being the owner of a single bed that only ever has me in it, I don't feel able to advise you, Let. In fact, it is probably I who should be looking to you for guidance. All I can say is that I hope the thought you are putting into the question reaps the rewards you are aiming for.
RE: Alpha Male / Female
Yes, I've often wondered about that, myself.