You both make valid points. But it has to be said, this is a dating site...so logically, manya re here looking for a potential date. So, do the real life protocols of dating apply, or are there special ammendmants we should be making because this is an internet dating site?
For instance, in America, multiple dating is practiced by some if not many. Is this the same as writing letters to several different potential women/men on a dating site?
My opinion is pretty straight forward on this matter. Yes it is possible but somewhat frought with complications and dangers. And no, I would never consider any form of long distance relationship because of the above reasons.
Ok...protocol. Do you focus on one member on this dating site and limit yourself to them, or is it reasonable to perhaps write to several members at one time, and gradually, as you get to know each one, whittle the number down to just a single individual?
Which approach do you favour...or do you use a different method?
As individuals, we kind of change throughout our lives...tastes...attitudes...preferences...that sort of thing. What could be a perfect partner during our 20's could be much less so during our 30's or 40's. Maturity doesn't end once we've hit a certain age.
For that reason, I think there are many possibilities in terms of partners...many good potential matches. I for one have become much more mellow as the years have passed by...certain qualities in a person have become much more attractive to me lately...and the desire to find someone of outstanding beauty is only applicable if that beauty is total...inside and as well as perhaps outside.
I've had a beautiful girlfriend, and believe me, the novelty of all that lovliness wears off if she doesn't reflect similar beauty as a personality. This I have learned...and it's opened my mind to many more possibilities.
They're mostly witnessed in various parts of America...by individuals who just happened to have had a few drinks...well lots of drinks actually...that same night.
I loved Geoffrey Rush in that film in particular...wow he's a watchable actor! Great, great film though! Queen Elizabeth made this country...oh yes. Good choice!
Have you seen 'Elizabeth' with Cate Blanchett? Wonderful film...a real fave of mine.
My choice...a Muslim...Saladin the Great. Cool dude...chivalrous...principled...generous...respected by Christian Crusaders during the struggles over there. Blimey, that takes some doing!
Ideally, it's best to use ones own judgement...that's what I do. And the point you make about negative attitudes is absolutely an important factor in this whole issue.
It should be as simple as you put it...but it's sadly not. As Turkish says, there are players...and perhaps it's a reasonable thing to do in warning other vulnerable ladies/men. Oh well...
Good point...we inspire something in our potential partners...we are special to them, and they to us. Both of them could be the most ordinary people in the world to outsiders, but it's that special chemistry that exists between them that counts.
It's kind of a relief to me when looked upon like that!
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Thanks for reminding me Felicia...I will try.