The guy who was good to me, obviously. That's like a rich guy who cheats or a man not so well off who'd be loyal always...i'd never pick the money over it, as I wouldn't ever truly be happy.
I had a 3 year old, i'm 22, and I haven't had a hard time dating? I found most guys were okay with me having a kid. And my boyfriend now is great with him. And I think if me and him stayed together long-term he'd be a good father figure(His real dad isn't in his life, by HIS choice.)
3 1/2 months we been in a relationship, all amazing. Not had any problems, or fights. It feels like we've been together quite a bit longer. The closeness. He said he loved me, and I said I loved him. Most people in relationships say it just because, but we didn't want to do that. And I know it seems like a short time to love someone but it's just there. We connect on every level even though we're different in our tastes of movies & music and stuff. We met online but not this site, all I can say is never give up. I truly thought I wouldn't love anybody again. And wow....I was wrong.
Just enough to be comfortably living. Ya know, food etc. so you aren't hungry, or without a roof over your head, or heat or something. But generally money doesn't buy happiness. I had a phase I was very unhappy and I spent so much money on myself buying whatever I wanted; movies and stuff...didn't make me happy if anything it just fustrated me that it didn't work!
Today my boyfriend said if we're together a year he'd concider us very serious relationship. I disagreed. 2 1/2 months, we haven't said I love you or anything yet, and I don't mean it yet anyway so even if he said it, I couldn't. I learned, 1 year is -not- that long. Having been with someone for 2 years, marrying them, and then breaking up after 3 years of marriage due to differences that we didn't know about eachother BEFORE we got married. Now he had a g/f for 3 years before, who left him for someone else. His main reason for saying 1 year is a long time "he's almost 25...." just cause you're getting older, doesn't mean you need to rush things. Age shouldn't be pressure on 'time'. So is 1 year a long time to you, or no?
Never married for me. Though, that's double standard cause i'm 22 and been married, and have a kid. But I look for someone who has no kids & never been married.
Buried, and no...I want to keep my organs thanks. Cause in order to donate you still have to be somewhat "kept alive" so they can take them....and the whole thing just gives me the jeebies. Though, I would have no problem donating something while alive, such as a kidney if someone in my family needed it, or part of my liver. Something that I can still live without.
I have no problem sharing. With my boyfriend now, he knows about my ex as I know about his and why they broke up. Sometimes it's important to know. If they say "ohhh she dumped me because I cheated" that'd be a red flag.
I used to be a girl who liked tall guys. Wasn't attracted to a short guy. Until I met my current boyfriend. I'm 5'1", and normally a short guy just doesn't 'do it for me' but he's 5'5" or somethin like that not much taller then me, and I really like him anyways. Though, i'll admit, i'm still attracted to tall guys more......
I can't believe people think jealousy, love etc. is a "choice". If love was a choice, nobody would have a broken heart as they'd just 'choose' to no longer love that person. I don't know if I will ever fall in love with my boyfriend, but I *want* to. I just can't make it magically happen, it has to be there naturally. And jealousy is like any emotion. I agree, you do choose how you react to it, and that should be by talking to your S/O about it, and why you feel that way, and they should listen and try to understand. But sometimes, things don't go that way. Sometimes jealousy leads to anger. Or if your S/O brushes you off, and it only makes it worse.
Jealousy for me is weird. I'd never be jealous over someone I hardly know, or whatever. Jealousy for me comes with 1) Time.....you gotta LOVE someone to get jealous 2) A reason...........why are they making you feel jealous. Usually it's when they're doing something you don't trust them doing, so why don't you trust them? And can you ask them to stop whatever it is making you jealous?
For me, i'd never feel jealous unless I was feeling like I was being cheated on, or my man is doing something like being a flirt, which I wouldn't go for.
Wait? How do you know about me? LOL. I'm in a very similar situation. Married, husband left July '07 to USA, I am in Canada. So we no longer live together. In fact, i'm even dating someone now. But neither of us filed for divorce, yet anyways. But I don't say we have a "marriage" anymore. We also have a 2 year old son together that I have full time, and his dad wont come to visit. Divorce to me, just seems like something I don't want to go through or deal with right now. Partly too because, my "husband" sends child support willing and such, he just wants to 'stay married' not get back together with me. I don't get why but whatever.
I feel bad because all my boyfriends 'free time' is with me. I told him I wish he had less schoolwork, more alone time, and he says he doesn't care. That spending all his free time with me is just fine for him. But I feel guility, because right now I don't work or goto school so I -have- free time.
If you like the person you were arranged to marry, sure. I think you two should try to date as a compatibility thing. I don't think you should be forced to marry someone if you really don't want to.
I'd like liposuction and a tummy tuck........ cause I always had a small "pooch" of a stomach that I hate and could never get rid of, and I had a kid so a tummy stuck to smooth stretch marks.
I never met anyone here on CS. I met my bf on POF. However, the forums suck so bad. I deleted my account on there. I stay a member here for forums only.
My worse date involved a bowling alley. Flag 1...guy looked nothing like his picture. Short, glasses, nerdy. Ok maybe can over look, but he sounded nerdy. Then all he talked about was Dungeons and Dragons and other loser/nerdy stuff. He was so boring to talk to, yet he seemed very "into" me even though I was not giving him much conversation about myself. He was talking about girls who ditched him after one date, and wanting a real relationship and stuff and I was so NOT into him. So finally I had my mom call and pretend I was needed at home, and I had to go. He wanted to see me again which at the time I agreed to, then I never talked to him again and on the 2nd "date" he blocked me when he didn't hear from me. Not a loss.
I had a 2nd date lined up once, the first was awful but I didn't want to be rude so I pretended I had to go home for my son(had my mom call me so I could bail). He wanted to see me again and at the time I just agreed because I didn't want to say "No, you're a loser" soooooo day came I just ignored him. Then he blocked me on MSN. Worked for me.
I'm only 22 so no need to lie/hide age though i'm always guessed to be a teenager I look young......Sometimes I don't even pass as 18. Which sucks now, but will pay off later.
If your mom doesn't mind, I say butt out. Though, a woman on the computer while someone else is watchin the kid doesn't mean "bad" parenting. Moms need breaks for their sanity, i take it she's a single mom? If she has no man to help watch the baby for a while this is likely her escape.
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RE: Ladies if you had a choice
The guy who was good to me, obviously. That's like a rich guy who cheats or a man not so well off who'd be loyal always...i'd never pick the money over it, as I wouldn't ever truly be happy.