Yep, being happy is a conscience decision, no one else is responsible for your happiness & you're not responsible for theirs. It's a choice that has to be made. I learned that after listening to my ex tell me how unhappy he was, and that I was responsible. After 17 years it dawned on me that it wasn't me, he was choosing to be unhappy.
Seeing as how I will love to get rid of the association with my ex (I never changed my name back to my maiden name after I got divorced, figured it would keep things from getting confusing with the kids) - if I ever get the chance to get married again I'll gladly change my last name to his.
Several years ago I met a man from a different site....his profile had said 45....after meeting him & spending the evening with him he fessed up that he was actually 50. Although he explained it was for the same age cut off reason, it did make me wonder about what else he might "fudge" on.
Everything on my profile is accurate....although I could probably get away with putting my age about 10 years younger.
I have seen men on here & other sites who look 10-20 years older than their stated age too.
Course now I just looked in my IM Request box & there's like 5 that were sent to me that I never received. And looking at the times they were sent, must've been after I'd done a quick mailbox check while at work.
But I don't recall ever seeing the senders name on the request because I always try to go to the IM request box to try & see who it is and it freezes the screen so I can't.
The chat window opens on the senders side regardless of what the receiver does.
It's also possible that they may have accepted it, saw who it was & didn't know you so they closed the window (I don't think the sender gets notified that the window is closed).
If I remember right, when an IM request comes through it doesn't say who it's from, so we have no idea who it is unless we actually accept it. So like caller id....if we don't recognize who the caller is, we don't answer the phone.
It would be nicer if they put the user name of the sender on the request with a link to their profile so it could be checked out before accepting or declining.
I just hope he's as excited about me finding him as I am. The last time I had talked with him was right after I moved to Redding, back in 2005. Last time I talked to his brother was in 2006.
My mom has found some of her half siblings that she didn't know about in a similar way you did.
I sent my son a message & hopefully he'll respond *keeping my fingers crossed*
I searched for the younger one too, but he doesn't have anything posted. I'm hoping the older one will let his brother know I found him & help him to contact me.
Oh yeah, and I've been on 2 dates with the same guy...lol
For those of you who may know some of my "background" you know that I've had a very estranged (non-exsistent) relationship with my two sons for several years now. Tonight I was searching on MySpace (like I do occasionally for my kids) and found my older son!!!!!
Of course, I cried when I realized it was actually his page, and that I could see recent pictures of him. If I saw one correctly HE'S ENGAGED!! I called my parents to give them the addy so they could finally see the young man their oldest grandson has turned into.
He looked so happy in the pictures. Dang it, I'm crying again
How about....Our likes & values are too different and I think I've met a new friend.....doesn't take much to figure out it had nothing to do with likes & values
Since I'm going to be painting & it's still rather cool....jean & a t-shirt with the sleeves cut off. If it warms up then I'll change to a pair of shorts.
Once I'm done painting & have cleaned up, probably a tank dress (sorta like a tank top that goes about mid thigh)....won't be going anywhere
hrt4lse Forum Posts (1,233)
RE: HAPPINESS!!!!!!!!!
Thanks, although apparently I was a slow learner