I don't know who has been here for a long time or not...maybe people just leave because the time is up...for whatever reasons, they want to move on. Yes, we should be welcoming and respectful of new people, especially when they present a thoughtful and honest demeanor. And this guy has certainly done that. Kudos to him.!!
My point is primarily that given the thousands of years of oppression, and the continued bias agains aging women...it isn't really a matter of having a sense of humor....in the same way that the 'n' word will never be acceptable...some things just are not funny and can't be because not only of historical issues, but those that continue.
Most women have great senses of humor....but do not laugh at things that cut too deep in an area that has been injured over and over again and has not had the opportunity to heal.
Oh and to answer this question: Who knows if would want to be in a serious relationship? Lots of people do. That's what lots of people are looking for...including lots of older women.
So, if you were to meet and date an older woman, would you tell her up front that you were not at all sure what you wanted...that you were just going along to see what happened? I wonder because I know a lot of 'older' women who would essentially only be interested in getting involved with a man who was looking for and intending on finding a soulmate, someone to spend the rest of his life with. You are prevaricating a lot on the queston of whether or not you'd want to have a long term committed relationship with anyone...so I just wonder if you are thinking an older woman would be fun for a while, but...
Okay, that's reasonable. Do you think of an older woman as someone to "show a thing or two" and then you would move on...or are you thinking of an older woman as a lifetime mate? Again....just wondering...serious question, hoping for a serious reply--not being judgemental at all.
I'd really like to know....we've been dealing repeatedly with this question since I came to CS only two months ago, and I imagine it came up before that too. What is it about older women that you are interested in?
May I ask what is it about 'older' women that interests you? And also, what do you consider older...what age? I'm not asking for myself, but in general. Hoping for a thoughtful, honest reply. Thanks.
I was responding to this thread: Where have all of the beautiful 45yr olds gone?
Have seen other what I think is really unfair criticism of older women on this site, and have seen a lot more and a lot worse on another singles site with a forum. In Europe, men in their 40's and 50's look almost exclusively for women 15-20 years younger, women my age or younger. When I talk to them and ask why they are not looking for women their own age, wow, do I hear a lot of bashing of older women....so it may be more prevalent in Europe. Funnily, these guys are balding, have saggy bellies, etc. They are far from perfect, and hardly a young woman's prince charming....So, I started noticing the older women around me, and at least over here, they are generally fit, fashionable, intelligent, etc. I think it also applies around the world, as I travel a lot, that women do not age worse than the men...it is all a misconception. That's what I have observed.
Bashing women over 40 or 45 seems to be a great international sport here and in the real world. It pretty much staggers me, because I work with, know and continually meet women in their 40's and 50's who are bright, lively, good looking, loving, creative, successful both personally and professionally, etc., etc. Many of them, it is true, are married, which may suggest that all the 'good ones are taken.' Don't know. But for the most part, they are not:
DEAD FEDUP TOO OLD SENILE FAT UNHAPPY GAY SPINSTERISH SAD NARCISSISTIC
What do men and women look for or expect in a mate who is in his or her 40's or 50's?
I would think that women are looking for the same thing in older men as men are looking in for in older women, in general:
Someone who is in reasonably good health. Someone with a positive attitude. Someone who has zest for life. Someone who takes care of him/herself physically. Someone who is fairly/reasonably happy. Someone who is not too self-involved.
Since I have been on singles sites, I have seen over and over again criticism of older women... And so I have begun to notice more the people around me. What I have noticed in the real world is that it all depends on the individual, how one ages. There are certainly older women who have not got really positive attitudes and who have not taken care of themselves, but there are far more who do and who have.
And what is equally true is that the same applies for older men. There are just as many older men who don't take care of themselves physically and don't have positive attitudes as there are older women. And there are plenty of older men with postive attitudes who do take care of themselves
The poll had no real or realistic choices...just seemed bitter and mean spirited. If you want to attract quality women over 45, and they do exist in multitudes, you need to be a quality man.
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J/K!! 
except for feeling a little bit under attack today and maybe needing a 
Great! Good for you! Well done!!!!
RE: Older women?
awwwww....thanks...back at ya!!