That must have been so hard, knowing you were steadfast in your devotion to your husband, despite the changes brought about by the brain injury.
...Certainly some diverse opinions here. it seems to highlight wide differences in how people form judgments of others.
Mind you, the research findings are obviously behind the speed dating concept. I'd wondered who on earth had cooked that up. I'm tmepted to attend one just for the experience!
"...forget it, says a psychiatrist and relationship expert who insists the myth of love at first sight is not only untrue but is to blame for many unhappy relationships and failed marriages.
"It's impossible to make those kind of judgments until you really know someone," Livingston said.
"There's certainly such thing as attraction at first sight, and in retrospect you (may) have been right that this was the person, but often those initial chemical surges betray us."
"We're automatically drawn to (those deemed beautiful) on an almost instinctual basis but they may not have those inner qualities that make for satisfying marriage," he said.
"This is why it's so important to know somebody."
In his new book, How to Love, Livingston explains the key to a long-lasting loving relationship is finding a person who possesses most of what he calls the 10 "essential virtues" - kindness, optimism, courage, loyalty, tolerance, flexibility, beauty, humour, honesty and intelligence.
He says a fulfilling relationship is achieved by picking the right partner in the first place, rather than learning to deal with differences.
"...forget it, says a psychiatrist and relationship expert who insists the myth of love at first sight is not only untrue but is to blame for many unhappy relationships and failed marriages.
"It's impossible to make those kind of judgments until you really know someone," Livingston said.
"There's certainly such thing as attraction at first sight, and in retrospect you (may) have been right that this was the person, but often those initial chemical surges betray us."
"We're automatically drawn to (those deemed beautiful) on an almost instinctual basis but they may not have those inner qualities that make for satisfying marriage," he said.
"This is why it's so important to know somebody."
In his new book, How to Love, Livingston explains the key to a long-lasting loving relationship is finding a person who possesses most of what he calls the 10 "essential virtues" - kindness, optimism, courage, loyalty, tolerance, flexibility, beauty, humour, honesty and intelligence.
He says a fulfilling relationship is achieved by picking the right partner in the first place, rather than learning to deal with differences.
No aircon at our place. The compressor blew a few seasons ago, and am going to install split system units but ...NOT by tomorrow, when it's gonna be 43C for NYE!!!
She eventually became U.S. embassador to France, and prior to that, was greatly responsible for financially backing Bill Clinton for the Presidency of the Unites States.
She had several high society husbands. she understood men really well.
well, if you're here to find a partner, then it's best to narrow the 'market' as it were. To attract a man who would love an instant family, or add to his, I think you would be better served to write about that at least to mention it. I notice you ahven't said anything at all about that. Then you would weed out the men who would run a mile, and know that whomever contacts you, apart from scammers, would most probably already be happy with this fact.
yes, it's important to mention that you like having cuddles on the couch. But it's also important for the man to know you might be joined by a few young uns. JMO.
Actually, some indigenous folk still practise their hunting skills, for both roos and also wombat and other - all good meat. And guess what, some 'whites' do, too. I buy mine from Coles, though
Hi daisy, there are certainly countless stories of similar injustices. One of the worst has got to be how the Australian government treated Albert Namatjira, the now very famous Aboriginal artist, who way back in the 50's had perfected the fusion of western method of painting with the richness of aboriginal colours and landscapes. He was treat like scum by the authorities when he was alive, and even denied the right to vote. Now he is held as the nation's pride and joy.
Let's also remember the harsh reality of the many aboriginal camps dotted on the outskirts of township such as Yalata, Alice Springs, Tenant Creek and so on, to name some more local areas, where many folk live in squalor; the glue sniffing and alcoholism rampant in many outback and rural communities. With solutions being as remote as these regions themselves.
It is something that frustrates many elders and other members of these communities who are not caught up in the above. Many hold highly responsible positions in government and private organisations, and they, too wish so desperately to see change.
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Love at first sight - Is there such a thing?
That must have been so hard, knowing you were steadfast in your devotion to your husband, despite the changes brought about by the brain injury....Certainly some diverse opinions here. it seems to highlight wide differences in how people form judgments of others.
Mind you, the research findings are obviously behind the speed dating concept. I'd wondered who on earth had cooked that up. I'm tmepted to attend one just for the experience!