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RE: What is your opinion on Divorce Lawyers.

I have known several friends whose lawyers' expenses amounted to around $50,000. That seem s average when you cop one party who decides to drag it out...just because they can. So sad and stupid. All that wasted energy, and paying for their lawyers' lavish overseas holidays or new merc.!!!

RE: Snowtown

The irony of it all, is that in the course I'm doing, for next semester, we have to produce a major written project, with one of the options being a complete screenplay for a feature film. So, it's one thing writing about this stuff, but a very different kettle of fish, seeing someone else's work on a screen. Maybe I should write a comedy!!!...though South Australia is a treasure trove for the crime/thriller genre!!!!

RE: Snowtown

Well, they will certainly never be able to write their memoires, we can be assured of that. I doubt that any of them got past the first grade.

RE: So who would you like to have a few drinks perhaps and chat with....no strings?

RE: So who would you like to have a few drinks perhaps and chat with....no strings?

Exactly what I was about to ask?
S, what did you do to deserve being banished from whence you came?


p.s. Or is it the English summer that lured you back?

RE: What is your opinion on Divorce Lawyers.

Sorry to hear you all went through such trauma. Way too common, unfortunately.

Most divorce lawyers I've come across here are simply glorified clerks. In my own case, I was working full time in a professional capacity, plus raise a young school age son, I had to hand over so much trust to the lawyers concerned. Only to find a couple were almost socialising with my ex, all chummy sounding, over the 'phone! ....Until I had a friend of mine who was an ex-barrister, help me put my case together, then I ditched the lawyers and represented myself. I also got separate representation for my son who by then was 9yrs old. By that time, it wasn't over money, which he tried to get out of me, such as trying to get the house sold that I bought with my money pre-marriage assets...but over custody and access(he'd moved interstate).

Within months, my ex had hung himself(no, not literally!).
I had him all stitched up so that he could no longer make 'frivolous and vexatious' applications under section 118A of the Family Law Act. Yet no lawyer had wanted to do that for me, saying it couldn't be done. It could be done, and I did it.

So I always suggest to people to think seriously about representing yourself. If you can think logically, do some research, put an argument together and stay in control in front of a magistrate, you have half a chance of getting justice done. Copies of the Family Law Act are available and you can get a free one by contacting your local MP. Scour it and learn it inside out.

Btw, he is now a lawyer himself. On occasion, when we have reason to speak, he likes to reminisce and makes light of it. I can never quite share in the joke.

RE: Ambivalence: Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay

p.s. had I known that the person you eventually discussed in terms of your X behaviours and so on, was a fellow CS'er, I would have refrained from making any comment at all. Not an advocate of discussing such personal matters on an open forum, even though each of you have contributed in your openness. I wish you both all the best.

RE: If you could be anywhere

We have little choice, unless you can perfect teleportation.

I am due for my third long haul trip in 12 mths..

RE: sleeping with a woman/man describe..........

RE: Snowtown

Nope. Not closing my eyes to this stuff at all. I've worked with this population group in the worker rehabilitation field. I even had one of the likely relatives as a client, though for obvious reasons, cannot elaborate. So it isn't a matter of remaining in the dark. I am very much aware of the realities of these people's lives and their psychological makeup. I'm just choosing, at least for now, to not add more stuff to my head that will haunt me.

RE: Snowtown

Hmmm...it's way too much of a horror movie. Showing an actual murder graphically is as much horror as I can imagine. If it isn't horror, then what is it? Just because it's real life stuff, it doesn't diminish the horror aspect, but increases it. JMO.

Aint't watching it.

RE: on line shopping

I also buy all my flight tickets online, and now have a favourite site which provides really great after purchase service.
I've also bought a rowing machine online and recently sourced a new radiator for my car which I had delivered to my mechanic.

RE: on line shopping

I dislike ebay intensely and avoid it like the plague. Too much scamming goes on. But if you do use it, and something goes wrong, they are there to help resolve things. Besides, merchants don't like customers leaving negative comments either. But you do have to speak up or they won't be able to help.

Amazon is great for books, but whatever the site, I always read other customers' feedback. Anything less thatn about a 98-99% satisfaction rating, I avoid.

RE: How many cigarettes do you smoke in a day!

The question is relevant, as the OP asked 'how many'. My answer is zero. So why does it make one a 'freak'?

RE: on line shopping

You are protected up to a certain amount of money spent. It is specified through paypal. Even if you pay through other means, all you need to do is report the merchant and complain to ebay. They deal with it and contact the merchant for you. I had to do that a couple of times, and the merchant promptly contacted me and while I can't recall the details, I do recall the issue was resolved. No merchant wants to have their record smeared.

RE: Snowtown

It feels a bit driving through places like Truro, the site of gruesome serial killings, about 2 hrs north of Adelaide.
We've had doozies. I haven't seen Snowtown yet, but I recently watched Wolf Creek, after a pal in the UK told me he was watching it. I had really disturbed sleep that night.

RE: How many cigarettes do you smoke in a day!

None. Never have, and cannot understand why anyone would ever want to have even a puff of that s#@t.

RE: Making bread

I only ever use my hands...It's all in the wrist action and stamina.

RE: your biggest accident

And for your next trick???

RE: If you could be anywhere

Just like that street car..

RE: Random comments

Sounds like there's a new handbook out:

'Scamming for Dummies - 101'

RE: All new, songs for your mood right now (2.0)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0yA98MujNeM&NR=1

(I'm not expecting the link to show up though!! )

RE: All new, songs for your mood right now (2.0)

Cheery soul today, aren't you Joel!!

RE: I love you

p.s or it might go somthing like,

'I think yer bonza'....

RE: I love you

Ich liebe dich

(you forgot to say it in YOUR language )

(Can't say it in Aussie speak. We never hear it said!!!)

RE: do you act ur age

Yes, all the time!!!

RE: Ambivalence: Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay

p.s to my post above...

I'm not the least bit belittling your own personal issue.
What I am raising is that such intense ananlysing within relationships, is possibly more related to one's cultural practices and expectations, than anything else.

RE: Ambivalence: Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay

But I thought you both accepted each other's behaviours from the start?? This isn't the forum for you talk to elaborate on what these behaviours are (I'm guessing it's got to be something like Tourettes)...

Anyway, I am steeped deeply in Italian family culture, that this kind of stuff would be laughed at. Not happy with your partner's behaviours???......It's probably about not sweating the small stuff? What's small? I guess that's relative.

Maybe it is largely cultural. I can't imagine this discussion between say, Japanese or Chinese couples would be occurring. Certainly not to this degree.
(I'm rushing this post, so I have no idea how it reads..)

RE: Ambivalence: Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay

p.s. I just read Dandelion's post. Snap.

RE: Ambivalence: Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay

I think there might be too much thinking going on.

Go and meditate, and 'feel' the answer. Not think it.
Sometimes we can analyse something to death. Perhaps it's just another form of avoidance? ...Avoidance of what we might really feel, if we stopped thinking. Heck, she might even have to admit she loves loving you, despite the chatter in her head...