Shedman01 Forum Posts (1,029)

RE: Gentlemen....

A thank you for a thread intended for kindness Sommer.

And a song...


(Celtic Woman - One World)

Just one I like...

Take care,
me

RE: A Time of Weakness

Thanks for the laugh Windsong!

RE: A question for Americans.

Having been through half of them and having looked at the other half through the Internet I would say that top ranking for me is the South Oregon coastline, it simply has a kind of scenery I truly enjoy being surrounded by, and is close enough to other very wonderful places such as the Redwood Forrest in CA and the Puget Sound area to the north...not to mention being on the Pacific Ocean.

Least ranking for me is a toss up between Kansas and New Mexico, neither really seem to have much in the way of scenery that I would enjoy seeing day after day for any length of time beyond visiting...

take care,
me

RE: Too good to be true

You ask me how that is and all I can say in return is how could I not?

Because they shared part of their life with me, and part of my life with me. It is something that is very special because the time we have available to us is one of the most precious things we will ever have. They helped me become who I am today, they showed me ways to 'see' things that I may not have known if they had not shared the time with me that they did.

I was given some truly wonderful memories that I will always be able to have, all because they shared some very special time with me, making moss gardens in a park, sitting on the bank of a stream dreaming of a future neither of us could know, holding children on my lap as they fell asleep, watching the stars and 'creating stories' of what kind of aliens lived on the planet around one bright star, these kinds of memories and so many more I have because of those eight women allowing me to have a part of their lives mixed with mine.

If the above is not enough then the only real solid answer I can give is simply because I do not stop loving someone once I know I love them. It just is not something I am able to do(?) or it is something I just don't know how to do(?). Either way all I know is that I have never stopped loving them. It is not something that very many people have understood about me but it is still the way I am, so hopefully at least that part is understandable...

Take care,
me

RE: Some Things Are Too Good

Chances improve only with the number of ways in which you make it possible to come across the path of those who were meant to spend time with you. It doesn't matter if it is through a paid web site membership, free one, local paper, etc it just matters that you are comfortable in being seen in that way wherever that may be. If you feel it is a good place to be then there is very likely a reason for that and you will find something, even if it is only a single friend and nothing more...

Just thoughts, take care,
me

RE: Too good to be true

There surely is the true of true, of this I have no doubts. I have been very lucky to have found eight women I am able to Love even still. They have all sought other paths now and I walk mine alone for the time being but it does not mean that the time I was able to spend with them was anything less then a true of true. Each gave me the feeling of having what was to good to be true and none failed in making it very wonderful to spend the time I spent with them. I think it merely is a matter of being able to cherish the time spent and given then it is to see it as a failure of being a wonderful experience.

Just thoughts expressed, take care,
me

RE: HOW DID IT COME ABOUT

LOL I can hear it now..

"Hey all meet my "DINNER!!!" He's a hunk of meat worth roastin ain't he!?"

RE: HOW DID IT COME ABOUT

Druidess, very much the truth that each has their inner heartfelt word that signals a deeper meaning for them. And I would not be against being called someones partner or any other term they viewed as endearing. It is just one more of those things that makes life so fascinating.

RE: Every pulse from my heart send for you love

Deep emotional feelings that have been expressed quite well! Good Job!

RE: age

I think it may have to do with people becoming guarded. As they age and experience relationships that they view as "failed" they begin to "shelter" or "protect" themselves from what they think caused the "failure" of past relations.

When people do this they begin to narrow down what they will accept and as time continues to go by they grow more and more "sheltered/protected" because their judgments of others begin to happen faster and faster so that even one small thing that did not used to be a big deal can now be included as a sign that if that little thing is there then all the others are too so the person is shunned completely without ever even being talked to.

Basically the stereotypes we experience as we grow older become roots to assigning character traits to someone. Just some thoughts for possible reasons age might bring difficulty in finding romance.

Take care,
me

RE: HOW DID IT COME ABOUT

Maybe it is because I have had business partners, but partner just doesn't hold a loving relationship status with me either SS.

Perhaps it is a sign of the times as well, that people do not seem to be looking for emotional relationships as much as they are looking for a 'logical' life 'partner', someone to 'split' the 'work' of life with instead of just sharing all that life offers?

It kind of seems to fit really when you see how many views have become hardened as to how much 'work' goes into having a 'partner', even this kind of site it seems to be a profile becomes more of an 'application for employment'...

These kind of terms just make it seem like it truly is more of a business venture in logic then a heartfelt adventure of emotion. I honestly have no idea I just know that a partner to me is much like you stated and does not define what I would consider a relationship to be.



Take care,
me

RE: tell me your defination of happyness

Your very welcome,

and to everyone posting thus far... thanks for sharing.
Take care all,
me

RE: tell me your defination of happyness

A very shared thought on that one I like the term 'smile' applied like that. And there are just so many things that make a heart smile... I am agreeing with everyones lists thus far!

RE: tell me your defination of happyness

That's a great view, that being the "out of" instead of where some may say "inspite of" Congrats and thanks for sharing that!

Take care,
me

RE: tell me your defination of happyness

Define happiness...hmmm...

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The smile of a child looking up at me,
sounds from a flower of a humming bee,
The touch of another person caring hand,
the smell of ocean water caressing sand,

Tasting the air of a bright spring day,
a mind that helps me find my lifes way,
These things and others of the same kind,
bring the feeling os happiness to my mind,

But more then these defined thoughts above,
happiness for me is found because of Love,
Not from another's heart given to my own,
but from my heart to me, even when I'm alone.

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Take care, and thanks for another good thread.
me

RE: Hardship...End Result!

I have found Hardship to bring the following traits to a person if they deal with the hardship well...

Humility
Ambition
Responsibility
Determination
Supportiveness
Honesty
Imagination
Pride

Just my thoughts, take care,
me

RE: Common Sense

It is a sad day indeed, Common Sense has passed and now so too does it look like we are losing Common Courtesy.

Such a tender soul she is, but sadly she has been severely beaten by some very nasty folks whose leader is named Self Indulgence. This criminal has been at large for a long time and though he never really does the 'dirty work' the gang that follows him around can be vicious. Arrogance is the right hand man, he is the most common instigator of the gangs foul deeds and always seems to be right beside Self Indulgence.

Blatant Disregard also hangs with this vile gang and never gives a second thought to anything, or anyone. His little brother Blatant Disrespect is a young upstart and often times can be run off with a simple boot to the backside, but if Blatant Disregard is with him it may take more then that.

There are some other members of the gang as well, Feign Ignorance is the idiot of the gang that always claims he didn't know what he was doing was wrong and of course, Uncaring, Inconsiderate, Selfish, and Self Centered round out the gang as lesser minions that just do whatever they feel like to whoever they wish.

So if you see any of these criminals by all means deal with them swiftly and directly if you can, or get a hold of someone who can! Common Courtesy still has a chance to survive her beating but we need to round up this vicious gang and wipe them out before they strike again!

Common Courtesy is currently forced to bed rest but if you ask around about things, say hi to someone you haven't before, give some flowers, and just show her that her husband General Respect is worried about her, she may be up and at it again real soon.

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*Just some thoughts added*
Take care all,
me

RE: let me tell you the secret of kindness..

I had not thought about the seperation of kindness between animals and people before. Perhaps because I have never tried to distinguish it since for me it is the same in both regards. I respect people and their feelings and do the same for animals and their feelings.

For me kindness begins with respecting that the other individual(s) that you are around have their own views of the world around them. It can be difficult at times to determine what exactly is percieved as kindness since some animals will only feel threatened if you are trying to help them get out of a jam, and in some cases this can hold true for people as well.

This is why for me the respect to ask someone what they would prefer I do for them, or to try to be very calm and submissive to an animal I am trying to help, is important. I also try to show respect in letting people know I appreciate their kindness toward me if they have done something for me that I feel was kindness given.

Just my thoughts, indeed a very nice thread to see here.

me

RE: the chat room

You are able to create new rooms so this could be done actually.. Just checked it out myself looks fairly straight forward, though I have used userplane chat systems before so that might be why...

Just thought I would share that it is possible to create new rooms there.

Take care,
me

RE: Excessive Compulsive Disorder

And here I thought I was the only one who alphabatized his closet by type and color, not to mention I agree on hangers and they all have to be the same hanger and color... Plus all my clothes have to hang in the same direction...oh and Pants hang first then shirts of course l,m,n,o,P,q,r,S.... sigh

I am also the same with Bathrooms and kitchens in regards to counters... Do you take everything off the shleves in the cabinets to dust them off regularly?...uhm... me either...nope...never...*cough* I'm just glad I am not inflicted with OCD...



*snicker*

RE: What song are you right now? PART 2.

Ozzy Osbourne - Dreamer



Lyrics:

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Gazing through the window at the world outside
Wondering if mother earth will survive
Hoping that mankind will stop abusing her, sometime

After all theres just the two of us
And here we are still fighting for our lives
Watching all of history repeat itself, time after time

Im just a dreamer, I dream my life away
Im just a dreamer, who dreams of better days

I watch the sun go down like everyone of us
Im hoping that the dawn will bring a sign
A better place for those who will come after us this time

Im just a dreamer, I dream my life away, oh yeah
Im just a dreamer, who dreams of better days

Your higher power may be God or Jesus Christ
It doesnt really matter much to me
Without each others help there aint no hope for us
Im living in a dream, a fantasy
Oh yeah, yeah, yeah

If only we could just find serenity
It would be nice if we could live as one
When will all this anger, hate and bigotry be gone?

Im just a dreamer, I dream my life away, today
Im just a dreamer, who dreams of better days, ok
Im just a dreamer, whos searching for the way, today
Im just a dreamer, dreaming my life away
Oh yeah, yeah, yeah

Just a place to post my poems...

*I don't know you yet, do you know me?*

For the love of my life I have yet to meet,
eight others before you gave my heart heat.
But I would tell you this so that you know,
love they let me give them still does grow.

Yet for me they may no longer feel the same,
but each love I have, gives me no shame.
For you see all those loves combine in me,
so that whomever my heart next does see,

will acquire that love which now flows out,
and it will all come to you with no doubt.
For love is not an emotion I control at all,
I keep it not behind any kind of hidden wall.

So when at last we find each other someday,
know all the love I have, will come your way.
I may not have much else to give you though,
but wherever you would lead me I would go.

Yet not as a follower of your commands alone,
see I would also wish to be your rock, your stone.
So watch for me and maybe your heart will be,
in tune with what my heart always sings to me.

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And yet another...

Just a place to post my poems...

A dreamer in the misted night of time,
wondering if life will once again rhyme.
For a heart that beats only in one tone,
is a song with out a chorus, sung alone.

See love brings a harmony to that sound,
a rhythm that nowhere else can be found.
The rise and fall of drums that ring true,
should be how your heart sounds to you.

If you hear the melody and enjoy the tune,
you may even swear your roping the moon.
If the sound you hear is by others unheard,
please never think you are being absurd.

For some you may find will not hear the rhyme,
for them, and for you, love has a different time.
Keep your beat pounding no matter how alone,
someday you'll find the the right harmonic tone.

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Just another. *smile*

RE: name 3 things

Thoughts

Emotions

Understanding of the above

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Freedom

Senses (sight, hearing, touch, feeling, tasting, smelling, etc)

A beautiful world to explore and live in.

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Just the basics for now, I may get more specific in the days ahead.

Take care, and thanks for a good thread!

RE: Are You Annoying?

LMAO now that's funny... Mine do too does that annoy people?

:)

RE: how you define yourself?

Gifts such as love that he describes in the seven people he has shared his life intimately with, or the three children he would easily lay down his life for. Gifts such as compassion from strangers and friends who have supported his choices in life even though they have seemed crazy at the time they were made. These and so many other things like, respect, gratitude, understanding, and even simple acknowledgement are what he considers treasures for all else can be easily found but these things are becoming more and more rare.

Even as he gets many of what are to him rare gifts, so too does he try his best to give them as often as he can. He shares them with the man who sits in the intersection at the turn light holding his sign by acknowledging he is there and remembering his name. He gives respect to those people who serve him in restaurants or other business by calling them by name or asking them for it if he does not know already. He tries simply to be the person he wants to meet and would most enjoy calling friend. Yet never does he expect anything in return for what he gives, because he knows that no matter where he is now, the next breath of fate can place him somewhere completely different.

He is after all just like all of us, he hopes for love, he wishes to not know sorrow, he laughs and he has fears, he is far from perfect and will be the first to tell you so, but he tries to do the best he can the best way he knows how. He makes mistakes and he has had success, and like many others he owns the mistakes he has made and often times gives the success to others, but still he loves the life he lives and finds a way to make every part of it special and cherished. no matter how the breath of fate has blown him he still holds faith that it is for a reason.

He has ridden the high breaths and the low breaths with them same expectation for each, that it is the place he is supposed to be. He lives on the breath of fate because he does not seek to be more then he is, nor does he accept settling for less then he can be. This is a little about a friend I have known.

Perhaps by my sharing a little about him others may see him a little differently. I have had the honor of knowing this un-named person for some time now so to him I say thank you for the past 26 years of allowing me to know you for who you are.

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That's about it really, I am all those I have met, I am my flaws, my strengths, my own understanding of all that I have done and desire to do at this stage in my life, I will become more of me as I do more, meet more people, and grow through the understandings that those things bring.

Sorry for the length of babble, just a topic I kind of enjoy, though I enjoy it much more as an observer, but it is only fair to give when you take. *smile*

Take care all,
me

RE: how you define yourself?

If I were to define myself in the third person it usually comes out like this...

Part 1

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Born to a man of a time long past and a woman of a more modern era, he was a child raised in two separate worlds of belief. Worlds united through love and compassion even in the face of how the rest of the world saw them. It was this fated beginning that was to shape his life as time passed, and though he did not know that until his thirteenth year, even up to that point did he ride up and down on each breath fate took.

Some may view his life as charmed while others see it as blessed, yet others view it as carelessly thrown away or un-cherished by him. Yet he lives it as he does, and makes no defense for it other then to say it has not done him wrong, because where he is now is so right.

Those who know of the day of his birth view it as a sign. The sign is usually seen in a bad light merely because the number thirteen has the misfortune of being labeled poorly when attached to a day, and even more so when attached to a Friday such as the day he was born. But for him, and many who know him the day has begun to gather a more positive light. In fact he still lays claim to it being the luckiest day of his life.

When you get to know him it begins to make you feel that perhaps it has gotten a bad judgment as well. 32 car accidents in which some have resulted in loss of life, and others have been very severe and yet does he come through each of them with nothing more then a bruise or a scratch. Falling from heights over 20 feet and landing on a head that was always to large for his body and yet only having a couple stitches to prove it happened at all. These kinds of things are just to numerous in his life too think that Friday the thirteenth has bad luck attached.

Yet does he live his life in the embrace of fate. He does not seek out fame nor does he hunt for treasure, instead he finds those things in what comes to him and he accepts them as they come. Treasures he has found in the eyes of a beggar, and the touch of the dying, fame he has found in the hearts of those who he remembers thanking him for some small thing he did, and life eternal has he found looking into the eyes of his children and recognizing himself there.

He has been given gifts beyond what he can measure them with according to how he describes what he has, and yet when seen by the eyes of some others he is seen as having nothing at all. He seeks no pity nor does he accept charity well, and even the thanks offered him or compliments given may seem to be rejected when they are given, but each is truly cherished because they are some of his greatest possessions.

*continued*

Just a place to post my poems...

Hey thanks you guys, very much appreciate the time taken to read and comment on my poems. Very kind of you.

RE: Men and women are heartless!

I don't think people are heartless, I think they have simply fallen out of touch with the trust they should have of their own heart. (Not trust in someone else...trust in themselves.)

I have love for 8 women in the world that are not family or offspring. I felt that love within minutes of meeting each one of them. I spent no less then one year with all but one of them and one I spent 15 years with, and I still have love for all of them.

Each in time decided that the relationship we had was not what they were looking for and for the most part (two I did not agree with them when they choose to end things) I was able to agree with them when they felt that way. Even the two I did not agree with it turned out for the best.

The point is that I continue to trust my heart, I continue to believe that the love it feels for someone else is real, true, and worthy of being explored. The feeling comes instantly when it comes and it does not ever waiver, fade, or change. It has been this way for me my entire life and I have been very glad to allow it to be this way.

I just really think it is a matter of people trusting their own feelings of love and accepting that the feelings they have may not be returned the same way in which they give them, or may not even be returned at all, but regardless of any of that the feelings they have are real, true, and worth exploring, if for no other reason then to live without regret and to live knowing you have trusted your heart to make your life an exciting and fulfilling one, or at the very least a life that has taught valuable lessons you can pass on to others.

*crazy man will be quiet now and go sit in the corner* :)
Take care all,
me

Just a place to post my poems...

No worries on posting publicly or not, I would welcome a private reading of it just as much, take your time to consider. I have not been professionally published no, but I am working toward that end and will hopefully soon be launching my own website in which I will offer some of my other writing including short stories and various other types.

It is something for which I have always had a passion yet have only in the past couple of years begun to explore more publically so to speak. So I have a great many things written already but most of them have either never been read by others or only read by family, with a couple exceptions being one that was included in a letter to the editor of a small paper, and one that was in a school paper many years ago.

Thank you for the comment on the most recent addition it is another of my favorites followed closely by this one, which is basically homeage to parents who tended their childrens "Emotional Gardens"...

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**A Gardeners Reflection**

Upon the soft petals of the potted red rose,
the tender love and care given softly glows.
To all those who view this flowers deep beauty,
no thought is given to the gardeners past duty.

Instead they will see, only natures sweet graces,
their souls absorb it from visual embraces.
Praising the glory of a flowers blessed love
fed to it daily from a soiled and worn glove.

A glove on a hand so callused and ever sore,
a hand that gives whatever it can and more.
What it took to be we may not remember,
the love that was given we seldom consider.

But from time to time we really need to reflect,
on the one who cared and never did neglect.
For it was their love from seedling to blossom,
that radiates from the flowers light so awesome.

Without the love they selflessly gave for so long,
the petals and leaves would not be very strong.
Remember the gardener whose caring was driven,
they deserve to get back as much as they’ve given.