Shedman01 Forum Posts (1,029)

RE: For The Ladies: What type of guy do you really prefer?

So THAT is what I am doing wrong... I have long hair and am a nice guy...

For crying out loud why was I not informed I have to be a bad boy if I have long hair!! I should have been told something this important!! Now I am going to have to completely redo my entire personality... Someone is SOOOO getting fired for this oversight.

*snicker*


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RE: Having to get used to another personallity, it really get's to me at times

Welcome back to the land of the licking...er...uhm... living... sorry had a Burt Reynolds moment there... (Cannonball Run) hehe


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So honesty is the key is it?

Your up

1) You know what you enjoy doing and you won't let anything stand in your way of doing it.

2) You are able to see what makes people who they are and recognize people who are not being what they could or should be.

3) You don't need material things to feel good about who you are or what you have done with your life. You know what is important and what is not when it comes to achievements.

4) Your not afraid to go for what you want in life and are very willing to do what needs to be done to get where you want to be.

5) You find pleasure in sharing fun moments with those you love, because your stealing the duvet is actually a hope that a little fun tussle will follow... (getting cold and moaning is NOT a flaw )

6) You prefer to do those things which you enjoy over doing things that are not necessary and only take time away from doing what is enjoyable.

7) You are not afraid to show your inner self and the true compassion you have for what others go through regardless of it being joyful or sorrowful, you will show how you feel.

Some very fine qualities I think, thank you very much for sharing your list I enjoyed finding out some of your very positive qualities!! Very much appreciate the time given to post.


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So honesty is the key is it?

Thank you so much for that... way to funny. reinds me of a guy that used to do stand up comedy and was a guest on "Comic Relief" for a couple years. They always ran subtitles to say things like, "he's lying." ... "Now he's REALLY lying" Good fun memories thanks for reminding me of them!


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So honesty is the key is it?

Here are the positive things I see in you from the list you gave...

1) You like to be challenged mentally, you are able to handle situations in which you have to think quickly and remain calm doing so.

2) You are not easily influenced by the changing world around you or by others telling you what to do, you know yourself and are willing to stay as you are even when others would walk away from you for doing so.

3) You give of yourself to others even when those others may not be worthy of what you give, and even in spite of having been taken advantage of it has not changed the fact that you are still compassionate and giving.

4) You try to do what you feel is best for others that you care about. If you think they deserve something you try to see that they get it even if it means sacrificing your own desires to do so.

5) You defend those who might be considered the "underdog" or those who are being given harsh treatment by others without justification. Again it shows your compassion for others.

6) You are not afraid to indulge yourself in the things you enjoy and do not shy away from things just because they are viewed by others as something you should not do.

7)You are direct and not afraid to speak your thoughts in the way that you see fit. You apply your own style to the communication you offer which shows thought and time being taken, both signs of a good communicator.

8) You have never put a run in a pair of nylons from unkempt toenails. (small toes is NOT a flaw)

9) You are not afraid to let yourself be you. If you do not feel like doing this or that at that time then you allow yourself to simply not do it, other times you do all you can to get everything done that you can. It creates a balance within your life that you accept for what it is.

10) You are able to stand up and say what you want to say in spite of the reaction it may bring. A pretty good quality to have in today's world of political correctness that tries keep people from this ability.

So there ya go, those things that you list as flaws can reveal positive things about you as well, at least in my eyes. Thank you again for taking the time to post your list. I wish you the very best,


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So honesty is the key is it?

gave you a for all you said plus an "exactly" for the part I left in the quote! Nice post, thanks for the time spent writing it.


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So honesty is the key is it?

Well I never really expect to get a date! I mean sheesh man LOOK at me heck YOU could get one before me and that;s saying something... (kidding!!!)

But yeah I always figure why mess around.. here I am in all my uhm...reality.. like it hate it love it your call but it's me for the most part... but man do I have stories to tell to those who still find me worth talking to Always have to have some mytery too, and whats more mysterious then someone willing to be this open?

Who knows we'll see what happens !


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So honesty is the key is it?

I list some good stuff in my profile :) and added my flaws to it tonight too.. oh and btw I love George LOL what an awesome picture... he looks so ...hmm... Royal..(in a good way) waiting for a servant to come carry him to the liter box...

sorry side tracked a bit.

Thanks for the posting, I'm not so great at posting what I think are good qualities... 10) loyal 9)obediant 8)trustworthy 7)intelligent 6)light hearted 5)emotionally stable 4)conversationalist (including listeing) 3)compassionate 2) honest 1) house broken...er..I mean able to see the lighter side of life regardless...

Those might sound like the traits of a dog but you have to remember I AM male


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RE: Why Not To Question a Drunk!

Now how is THAT as an insult!! oy vey... usually its the beer that HELPS the looks... wow...

So honesty is the key is it?

and they say women are poor sports... any women who handles nuts for sport is ok in my book.... *evil grin*

hehe had to rib ya Merc

thanks for posting!
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So honesty is the key is it?

Oh I don't know, I think that there is some truth in what you say but I also think that honesty does hold its weight when it comes to modern relations especially in those of us who have had long term ones which kept us "out of the scene" so to speak for over a decade... a lot has changed in the 15 years since I was single last...


thanks for the posting!
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So honesty is the key is it?

hehe, most assuredly I wouldn't yell at a love for interrupting me, but my frustration would flash in a frustrated "what???" then of course if it is important no worries at all...

As for advertising, why waste someones time in trying to hedge aroubd and find them out... might as well have out with them... yes?

Thanks for the posting and for the well wishes!! I hope yours goes smoothly for you as well.


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So honesty is the key is it?

Alright then here is the thread idea, list your flaws, what is it about you that potentially would drive the one your looking for away...

I'll start;

1) I smoke,

2) I swear,

3) I don't shave every day,

4) I have false teeth because I drink a lot of Mountain Dew and don't brush after every soda I drink,

5) I fixate on what I am doing no matter what it is, to such a degree that often times if I am interrupted in an abrupt manner for something that could have waited until I was done doing whatever it was I was doing, it can frustrate me.

6) I have Obsessive Compulsive tendencies, ie. my clothes hang alphabetical by type style and color, I wash dishes as I use them when I cook and hate leaving dishes in the sink, etc

7) I tend to sleep facing away from anyone sleeping next to me with rare exception.

8) I have long hair and basically will refuse to cut it, trim and up keep sure, cut it short, hell no.

9) I am far from wealthy and I don't care.

10) along the lines of number 9, I am technically unemployed right now and have yet to be able to find an actual job. (not because I haven't looked)

So there are 10 of my flaws laid out. I have more trust me but I figure 10 is a good number to start out with. Anyone else wanna step up to the "honesty" challenge for this thread? Anyone think I will still find that one who can look past the above to find the heart and soul that make me love who I am including the above? Just thought I would throw this one out here see what became of it since the rest of mine seem to drop away so quickly.


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RE: how long do u wait to tell the person that you're interested in to meet?

So what does it mean when someone says they want to meet you, say they will try and stop by...then simply not contact you again or read an email you sent them...? Just curious...


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Oh btw, I have to agree, why wait? if it is feasible to meet someone in person just go for it or make it known your willing to at least... whats to lose?

RE: Credit Card

Wouldn't complain that's for certain.

RE: Credit Card

LOL seen this one before. But good to see ya Des keep the jokes comin, been to few of em lately.

RE: What Funny Things...

My oldest boy was always one who enjoyed telling his younger siblings various different fallacies such as having his sister convinced that the way she said the alphabet was completely wrong. Another thing he had managed was to scare his brother to death one night...

We had bought the boys a trailer to live in in the back yard when they were younger because we ran an adult foster care home in the main house and so wanted them to have private space for themselves. One night I was going out to make sure they were getting to sleep since it was a school night.

I entered the trailer and heard my youngest crying (he was 12 at the time) When I asked what was up my oldest, through giggles, said he's scared of turning 13. I knew instantly he had said something to him the way he was giggling about it all. I was not however prepared for what came next.

My youngest leans over the top bunk rail... tears rolling says... Dad I don't want to get my period when I turn thirteen, I don't want to administrate I want to play baseball.

through my own fits of laughter I reassured him he had nothing to fear in that area and proceeded to beat his brother with a pillow for making him think that... was a fun pillow fight that ensued and before they went to sleep we were all laughing about the situation.

Fun thread!!

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A challenge for honesty, read post then vote, please.

This has truly been fascinating to read. I can not thank everyone enough for their responses given and honesty expressed. Very much appreciated. Very much.

- for the fella's
- for the ladies

Thanks much all,

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RE: Dreams interpreted

Well on the hand of enjoying nature and being balanced within it, yes, I am indeed that way and have always been.

I have many various beliefs and thoughts that are in fact quite stable, they always remain open to further exploration but as yet have found no better basis then the ones they already have. So again the stone analogy comes within reason.

The rest however I must sadly say has no bearing and has not had any since this dream became recurring so many years ago. So I am not sure where the other things you mention fit, I understand why you relate the fish to pregnancy however I haven't played in the pond for a very long time LOL and again this has been a recurring dream for several years.

I do thank you very much for the time given to it and the offer of your thoughts regarding it. I very much appreciate that you would freely give that to me. I wish you the best.


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RE: when is too old for School

Almost 40 here and just getting halfway to a degree... never to old!! Go for it!


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RE: Having to get used to another personallity, it really get's to me at times

Just a for ya HG... well a couple of em.. You have more then one fan.


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RE: What Do You Know.....What About The Glass

I think very very few people give the answer I do, in fact I have yet to meet one who does, though all agree with me when I give my answer to it...

Half full = optimist??
Half empty = pessimist??
I don't think either of those are very accurate in my experience of asking the question of people...

Half full = positive outlook (usually)
Half empty = negative outlook (sometimes)

are more of what I have found fitting to those I have asked after knowing them for a while.

As for my own answer I am a literal person who does his best to see the entire picture so the glass is always full, 1 half water and one half air. This makes both halves full which in turn fills what the two halves are in so, the glass is simply always full in my mind. It is just a matter of seeing the balance of it all and how each part no matter what it is, comes together to make the whole.

I was going to not answer this until after letting it go a while but since I typed it all out, there it is.


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RE: Age Difference...

Well here is a thought for you...

One of my sisters is a year older then my mother and my father was a year younger then my grandfather... :grn:

So it has been known to work out...


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RE: Did the Great Biblical Flood actually occur?

Subscribing to tectonic plate movement helps to argue against the evidence of seashells and various sea creature fossils found at 10,000 feet and higher elevations too, but it is kind of interesting how many of those seem to stop at very close heights all around the world...

As mentioned though there are many historical accounts of flooded areas that suffered enormous floods of very catastrophic nature and one even includes a historical link to the name Noah. I can't remember where that one was located though.

Anyway it is interesting to think about sometimes. There are other theories too, such as the ark being a spacecraft etc :) fun stuff.

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RE: Is every man shallow?

I am about as deep as a puddle of ant pee...

*sorry* had to say it.

I'll just step away from the thread now...

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*wave to Big J, liked your first post in the thread.

RE: You're gonna miss me when I'm gone

I have thought about that from time to time... answer remains about the same each time...

My mom, anyway she could.
My Sister, anyway she could.
My brothers, maybe, would depend on the timing.
My Sons, if they found out about it, and could afford the trip.
Maybe one or two other people if by some fluke they found out about it.

That about sums up my guest list. Most others would have no idea I was gone. I don't tend to linger in peoples minds much and I am not missed by folks very much when I am not there simply because of that fact. I tend to be very unobtrussive and as such easily forgotten about unless a specific need comes up that reminds a person about me.

Doesn't bother me at all really, I would hate to think people would be sad over my departing the world as we know it to discover whatever may or may not be beyond it. I just don't wish people to morn my passing or even really to miss me when I am not around. I just want them to know that if they ever need me, I'll be there if I can be at all. So far I think it has worked out very well for me.

So I think I do in fact make an impression, but it is one that is easily forgotten and therefore leaves no residule, "gee wonder where he is.." kind of thing...

Interesting thread Sweet, thanks for starting it!

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A challenge for honesty, read post then vote, please.

Voted: Combinations of the above.

What truly keeps me from contacting people are a few things.

1) Their profile descriptions. Poorly written or ( u rite lik dis - )
2) Their posted requirements (ie. never smoked, income level, etc - I smoke and am not stopping + I'm a poor S.O.B. )
3) Their lack of a profile image (why are you afraid of being seen?)
4) Sometimes a single comment made in a forum posting that simply red flags the person in my mind.
5) Their profile picture(s) show me something I would prefer not to have as a partner. (yup looks matter, sorry but true for me)
6) I simply do not feel I should approach them and they have never approached me. (silly I know, but I trust my gut)

Those are the top six reasons that I do not contact some folks that seemingly I would be a good match for or would be a good match for me based on the interactions I have had with them on the forums...

Anyone else care to share?

Just was something I was thinking about today.

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RE: Please help guys, not sure what to think... Story involved here...

A valid point and well taken. I myself have slapped a woman and I would indeed do it again... here is why I did and why I would...

If a woman slaps, hits, otherwise physically engauges me in "combat" so to speak I will grant them that one attack and will merely say literally,

"You have had your shot, but know I DO believe in equal rights and I will retaliate in the same fashion as I am attacked should you EVER do it again."

I had one say I wouldn't dare and hauled off and slapped me again and I did the exact same thing in return, slapped her right back. She screamed bloody murder and started to raise her hands to me again and all I could do was state "I meant it" she dropped her hands and just cut loose screaming. Her friends and mine were both giggling at the situation but to me it is a serious thing, and I do firmly believe in it.

It is however something I will not do unless there is at least one witness to the event though too. Any other time I simply shut my mouth and walk away regardless of what hits me from behind...

Now a guy attacks me, I will defend myself without warning first, so there is still a difference in my mind, but if a woman wants to go all out and attack, I will be danged if I am not going to defend myself at the very least. Just my thoughts on the matter.


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RE: Please help guys, not sure what to think... Story involved here...

Well even if it comes from someone you never tried to spot... that reaction begins in the brain and the second it does that memory comes in too.. that is what has helped me with the feelings that have come... Someone does something severe and the anger starts and right along with it comes that memory...anger fades and reason takes command... so even though it leaves you feeling badly right now, make sure to never forget it and it will serve you very well in the years ahead I am sure.

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One more just little note... Please do not keep laying yourself in front of a bulldozer... Let that slap be your closure and take the experience as a historical marker not a mid-point...k? Please? ...


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RE: Please help guys, not sure what to think... Story involved here...

Not trying to condone your action but will say this... I hope it left a HUGE red mark on the jerks face...

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As for myself having ever "reacted" instead of thinking and acting upon reason... yes I have... I didn't hit the person in question, lucky for us both, but MAN did I want to, instead I shoved my fist completely through a wall and into the next room, and it was right next to the persons head.

(HOLE)-----3 inches maybe------(HEAD)

They were kind of frozen until I very 'clearly' growled, "Get the F*** out of my sight!" they did not hesitate to run. I was 17 at that time and that memory still haunts me because I was ready to kill in just that fraction of a second, but very luckily I avoided it, but it remains a powerful reminder to always be ready for unexpected emotional reactions, and with luck and caution I have not 'reacted' in such a manner since.


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