Nothing wrong with entertaining short term relationships in my book, as long as each individual involved is aware of the terms.
Two people can stand a lot to gain from each other, even if it's not something that is meant to lead into marriage, on a lot of levels. Inspiration, love, ambition, passion.
It's interesting, I think, that there is so much objection for short term, age-differing relationships, what with such strong concepts of love-based intimacy. As if we've all gotten over the color barrier, but you're not allowed to date a young man, even if only for a while.
I think, perhaps, it was actually on a forum here that I once read what really summed up the idea of importance of the age-difference in a relationship..
I have a pretty eclectic taste in music, and I won't attempt to pile all the songs I've ever loved here..
But I'll at least give you the names of some of my favorite albums- The kind which I listen to from start to finish, not just the ones that have a 'few good songs'.
Tracy Chapman, 'A New Beginning' Cowboy Mouth, 'Are You With Me?' Final Fantasy X-2 Piano Classics Trans-Siberian Symphony, 'Beethoven's Last Night' Joan Osborne, 'Relish'
I also like Ani DiFranco as an artist, but couldn't recommend any specific album.
Five of my favorite albums, and they cover a pretty broad scope in terms of individual flavor.
I believe the popular conception is that men prefer skinny (hence, petite) women, although actual opinion polls show that (american) men prefer a more full-figured woman than you would expect.
But, what I think it actually comes down to.. Isn't so much whether you're a size four, or six, or eight, but that you are generally below the average body weight for your size.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that it should be important. I'm just saying that it, apparently, IS. Men don't mind a taller/wider woman at all, and can often times find them even more appealing- BUT, what their total body weight is will play a big roll in that.
And while what I'm talking about is probably quite close to the body mass index concept, I think there is certainly clear bound for preferences outside of the general notion implied therein.
I felt it was something like the epitome of your comment! lol
Seriously, people, men or women, rock hard abs and finesse don't amount to much other than obsession from a partner if you can't find a way to connect!
Sure, some people are infatuated enough to just sit and hear the engine roar, but if you want progress, you have got to burn some rubber!
And now might something perhaps even useful with you all? ;)
I'm 6'6". I'm a pretty tall fellow, as it goes. Granted, not by any means the tallest, but of a particular variety.
When I meet guys my height, I don't see them as 'equal', I see them as tall.
Because, even if I am somewhat of a taller person, I still spend most all of my time around people who are shorter than me, so they are the norm, and when a guy as tall as I am comes in, I think 'Wow, he's tall!'.
How this applies to women: If she's beautiful and intriguing, height doesn't matter. I would eat a watermelon if it fit in the palm of my hand, or if it all my strength to lift.
The idea of being with a taller woman is in itself somewhat mysterious and alluring, because of the predominant lack of such an option.
If you aren't willing to do any of the above, how can you really say you're legitimately apologetic? #3 is very important to distinguish people who are sincerely sorry, versus those who just want to make friendships over for their benefit.
The idea, perhaps, is that forgiveness something you do to get over the initial problem, and 'forgetting' is something you do to prevent your perhaps still-lingering emotions from affecting your future responses.
From the OP, there isn't any concern over masculinity.
All she wants is someone who can hold an engaging conversation? Is that so hard?
You don't have to be able to lift a car, or have model good looks to be engaging.
You don't even have to be especially interesting to be engaging.
I think it comes down to awareness, and personal effort. Realize that it's more than about you. Realize that when someone asks you a question, it's very possibly because they are in fact interested in what you might have to say, other than 'uh huh' and 'yup'.
It doesn't matter if you're a sports car, or a dump truck- If you don't engage the transmission, you're not gonna get anywhere.
I could go on about all my own personal interests and accomplishments, and what might interest a woman, but that's really not the point at all. The point is that whatever your interest are, whatever your accomplishments are, share those things! Volunteer information, have a social conscience, listen to the woman who showing interest in you, and offer things you think she might enjoy, because if you don't do anything, you're not going to get anywhere!
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RE: ipods and gym
Oh, oh, and Third Eye Blind's self-titled album is also great, but I lost that some time ago, forgot about it!