Friends with benefits (100)
Elegsabiff: If you knew someone wasn't The One, but they were offering a straightforward honest no-strings-attached arrangement?
Every relationship should start out as straight forward and honest, and I don't see any of them being no strings attached. No eternal commitment doesn't mean there are no feelings, or that one or both might want more than it started out as.
Try it, never know, it might be the best relationship you ever had.
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I like friends.
I like benefits.
I like benefits.
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dogs without a leash
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Elegsabiff: If you knew someone wasn't The One, but they were offering a straightforward honest no-strings-attached arrangement?
I'm no traffic-stopper but even I've had two offers from guys I know socially. One is 58, one is 47. The 58-year-old first made his offer over a year ago, repeated at regular intervals. Any time. Just pitch up. (We have NOTHING in common.) He has never had, and doesn't want, a serious long-term relationship. He is apparently a genius in bed.
The 47-year-old is newly out of a relationship, doesn't want to plunge straight into another, or start the Oh Darling crap to get what he wants. He's been a friend for a while, we get on well, and he suggested we could be of mutual benefit to each other.
First reaction? You must be joking
Second reaction? You have a point. Not a great one, but a point
Third reaction? No, but ask me again in 3 months ...
Of course I'm hoping they'll both be happily fixed up by then, and not as persistent. Of course I am.
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sounds like an extension of an "open relationship"...
oh wait...no
just until i meet "the one"...
oh wait...no
just until i meet "the one"...
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kidatheart: Every relationship should start out as straight forward and honest, and I don't see any of them being no strings attached. No eternal commitment doesn't mean there are no feelings, or that one or both might want more than it started out as.
Try it, never know, it might be the best relationship you ever had.
Try it, never know, it might be the best relationship you ever had.
I'm scared of exactly that. That I might be the one ending up wanting more, with someone I already KNOW isn't right for me in any other way! Playing with matches.
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mollybaby: I like friends.I like benefits.
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cgedvr1: sounds like an extension of an "open relationship"...
oh wait...no
just until i meet "the one"...
oh wait...no
just until i meet "the one"...
No strings at all. Call me conventional, but I'm more used to relationships where there is at least the pretence of caring.
The honesty is refreshing, though 
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Foxworth: dogs without a leash
That's a never, then.
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Elegsabiff: No strings at all. Call me conventional, but I'm more used to relationships where there is at least the pretence of caring. The honesty is refreshing, though
conventional... caring...
c'mon...get with the times
finding someone who cares for a little more than 30 minutes or so???
sorry eleg....don't pay any attention to me, i'm yanking your chain
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cgedvr1: conventional... caring...
c'mon...get with the times
finding someone who cares for a little more than 30 minutes or so???
sorry eleg....don't pay any attention to me, i'm yanking your chain
c'mon...get with the times
finding someone who cares for a little more than 30 minutes or so???
sorry eleg....don't pay any attention to me, i'm yanking your chain
I did say the pretence
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Elegsabiff: I'm scared of exactly that. That I might be the one ending up wanting more, with someone I already KNOW isn't right for me in any other way! Playing with matches.
Elegsabiff: No strings at all. Call me conventional, but I'm more used to relationships where there is at least the pretence of caring. The honesty is refreshing, though
If you don't care about the other person in the first place, maybe you shouldn't entertain such an idea at all, and vice versa. That's just too cold for comfort, and could lead to someone getting hurt.
However, if you do actually like and respect each other as people, and do care about each others feeling, then you never know 'til you try.
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Elegsabiff: If you knew someone wasn't The One, but they were offering a straightforward honest no-strings-attached arrangement?
Sounds like a "substitute" until the "real thing" comes along...
That could work for some folks,....not moi'...I will wait on the "real authenic crazy about me one..."
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KittyHugs: Sounds like a "substitute" until the "real thing" comes along...
That could work for some folks,....not moi'...I will wait on the "real authenic crazy about me one..."
That could work for some folks,....not moi'...I will wait on the "real authenic crazy about me one..."
Hope he does, and is worth the wait
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kidatheart: If you don't care about the other person in the first place, maybe you shouldn't entertain such an idea at all, and vice versa. That's just too cold for comfort, and could lead to someone getting hurt.
However, if you do actually like and respect each other as people, and do care about each others feeling, then you never know 'til you try.
However, if you do actually like and respect each other as people, and do care about each others feeling, then you never know 'til you try.
Nice profile, BTW. So you're being ambidextrous in your reply.
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Elegsabiff: If you knew someone wasn't The One, but they were offering a straightforward honest no-strings-attached arrangement?
There probably could be strings attached with the no strings attached arrangement.
Learned long ago that there is always a catch to everything.
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Ccincy: There probably could be strings attached with the no strings attached arrangement.
Learned long ago that there is always a catch to everything.
Learned long ago that there is always a catch to everything.
No such thing as a free lunch
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Elegsabiff: No such thing as a free lunch I just said much the same on your blog - although that wasn't a FwB offer. Well, not an honest upfront one ...
You must mean my blog about the man who sent $100,000 to that woman in Nigeria.
About the free lunch.Obviously.
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Elegsabiff: If you knew someone wasn't The One, but they were offering a straightforward honest no-strings-attached arrangement?
A lot of good friendships have been ruined with that kind of arrangement...think I'll pass.
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pedalguy59: Not my cup of tea.
Glad to hear it
(scared you, huh?) I did think most of the guys would be nodding wisely and saying it sounded like an excellent arrangement.
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Ccincy: You must mean my blog about the man who sent $100,000 to that woman in Nigeria.About the free lunch.Obviously.
That's the one. Scary stuff.
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2intrigued: A lot of good friendships have been ruined with that kind of arrangement...think I'll pass.
Too right.
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kidatheart: Oooops!!
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kidatheart: Oooops!!
How did I miss this.I read your opps.
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Nah, nah honey, I'm good
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eleg..I think most women would start out being ok with something like that, but end up getting too Emotionally involved , the risk of getting too attached, and caring too much would stop me getting into this type of partnership might work for some------ This poll is Archived ------
I was being chatted up by a young 26yr old yesterday. Strikingly handsome and I was tempted but for the fact he had the same name as my son who incidentally is over 40.
I have a friend without benefits and I fancy him rotten. You just can't have it all in life.
I think it could be quite unhealthy to fall for your part time guy and then have to wave goodbye when he finds the love of his life or vice versa.
I know a woman who gave up her young, live-in lover to free him from her ageing self. She broke his heart.
I have a friend without benefits and I fancy him rotten. You just can't have it all in life.
I think it could be quite unhealthy to fall for your part time guy and then have to wave goodbye when he finds the love of his life or vice versa.
I know a woman who gave up her young, live-in lover to free him from her ageing self. She broke his heart.
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Elegsabiff: Glad to hear it
(scared you, huh?)
I did think most of the guys would be nodding wisely and saying it sounded like an excellent arrangement.
(scared you, huh?)
I did think most of the guys would be nodding wisely and saying it sounded like an excellent arrangement.
I've had friends and I've had benefits but we didn't put a label on it. If it developed into something more OK.
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serena123: eleg..I think most women would start out being ok with something like that, but end up getting too Emotionally involved , the risk of getting too attached, and caring too much would stop me getting into this type of partnership might work for some
If emotions grow in both parties then a worthwhile relationship can develop. I suppose it all depends what they are both looking for.
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