Friends with benefits (100)
Each to their own. If someone wants something without strings, a scenario like that is probably more convenient than heading out every weekend trying to pull someone. 
I got "offers" like that - well me, and probably 50 other women.
It's not for me, I don't like NSA of any kind, but I know it is fairly popular just from the sheer amount of offers that are out there.
I got "offers" like that - well me, and probably 50 other women.
It's not for me, I don't like NSA of any kind, but I know it is fairly popular just from the sheer amount of offers that are out there.
probably not. If someone does not like me well enough to make some sort of commitment I probably wouldn't even let him in my house much less anywhere more personl
....damn abbreviations....fwb/fb/nsa 
I actually don't have a problem with a friend with benefits (EXCLUSIVE).
I mean we all got to start somewhere....and friends is a great place. We don't just jump straight from the start line into a relationship....we slow dance a bit....don't we?
I used to dive straight in the deep end.
These days I like to submerge slowly down the other end of the pool.
I actually don't have a problem with a friend with benefits (EXCLUSIVE).
I mean we all got to start somewhere....and friends is a great place. We don't just jump straight from the start line into a relationship....we slow dance a bit....don't we?
I used to dive straight in the deep end.
These days I like to submerge slowly down the other end of the pool.
I agree berriesmoothie, friends are great. what I don't like is when some guy says he is not interested in friendship and wants to go straight to the benefits...OK maybe honest, but not gonna win me over....I also don't like the ones who offer up FWB with the expectation that the benefits start on day one....loser
felixis99: I agree berriesmoothie, friends are great. what I don't like is when some guy says he is not interested in friendship and wants to go straight to the benefits...OK maybe honest, but not gonna win me over....I also don't like the ones who offer up FWB with the expectation that the benefits start on day one....loser
Yep, agree Felix....just gotta be careful, is all.
Getting to know each other over time, should take time, and is kinda foreplay all in itself.
We matter.
I don't like being treated as an object. Been there, done that and been burnt....to a cinder....
You actually have to be quite daring to propose this. I mean you must value the friendship or is it friendship after all.
I think it would be hard for me personally. I feel strongly that I would be the one getting attached. I look at all my female friends and I care deeply about them all and if something ever turned that way I know those strong friendship feeling will somersault into something different and stronger and I know it probably would not be reciprocated.
I would have to think a bit also before. Is this person really my friend? Were they willing to lose our friendship if I felt offended by them asking? What does this say about how they feel? What happens if either of us develops stronger emotions for the other?
I guess I think too much. But I know me. I may know that person to an extent also being their friend.
I think it would be hard for me personally. I feel strongly that I would be the one getting attached. I look at all my female friends and I care deeply about them all and if something ever turned that way I know those strong friendship feeling will somersault into something different and stronger and I know it probably would not be reciprocated.
I would have to think a bit also before. Is this person really my friend? Were they willing to lose our friendship if I felt offended by them asking? What does this say about how they feel? What happens if either of us develops stronger emotions for the other?
I guess I think too much. But I know me. I may know that person to an extent also being their friend.
BerrySmoothie: ....damn abbreviations....fwb/fb/nsa
I actually don't have a problem with a friend with benefits (EXCLUSIVE).
I mean we all got to start somewhere....and friends is a great place. We don't just jump straight from the start line into a relationship....we slow dance a bit....don't we?
I used to dive straight in the deep end.
These days I like to submerge slowly down the other end of the pool.
I actually don't have a problem with a friend with benefits (EXCLUSIVE).
I mean we all got to start somewhere....and friends is a great place. We don't just jump straight from the start line into a relationship....we slow dance a bit....don't we?
I used to dive straight in the deep end.
These days I like to submerge slowly down the other end of the pool.
I agree Berry, we all have needs and if love springs suddenly, wow. Then it becomes no 1 g/f with exclusive benefits
tomcatwarne: I agree Berry, we all have needs and if love springs suddenly, wow. Then it becomes no 1 g/f with exclusive benefits
Hi Tom....lots of smiles lined up there....sounds like you've got your #1 already....
tomcatwarne: I agree Berry, we all have needs and if love springs suddenly, wow. Then it becomes no 1 g/f with exclusive benefits
The troible is some women put so high a price on themselves, they price themselves out of the market. Then they scream foul when he goes with someone else and falls in love. While they stay on their virtuous shelf forever
tomcatwarne: The troible is some women put so high a price on themselves, they price themselves out of the market. Then they scream foul when he goes with someone else and falls in love. While they stay on their virtuous shelf forever
I think that can go either way for both parties.
We don't reach our age without accumulating some crap unfortunately.
It can be more a case of being wary, fearful of getting into something new than anything else.
...or it could be that person is not in a great place to be starting anything with anyone, having too much on their plate, for instance.
Having too high a price is not always the reasoning behind a woman not stepping out more freely.
We all need to protect ourselves a little....
BerrySmoothie: I think that can go either way for both parties.
We don't reach our age without accumulating some crap unfortunately.
It can be more a case of being wary, fearful of getting into something new than anything else.
...or it could be that person is not in a great place to be starting anything with anyone, having too much on their plate, for instance.
Having too high a price is not always the reasoning behind a woman not stepping out more freely.
We all need to protect ourselves a little....
We don't reach our age without accumulating some crap unfortunately.
It can be more a case of being wary, fearful of getting into something new than anything else.
...or it could be that person is not in a great place to be starting anything with anyone, having too much on their plate, for instance.
Having too high a price is not always the reasoning behind a woman not stepping out more freely.
We all need to protect ourselves a little....
I take your points
protect ourselves from what?
tomcatwarne: Right to the end, just like a friend.
I tried to warn you somehow,
You had your way,
Now you must pay.
I'm glad that you're sorry now.
I tried to warn you somehow,
You had your way,
Now you must pay.
I'm glad that you're sorry now.
Elegsabiff: If you knew someone wasn't The One, but they were offering a straightforward honest no-strings-attached arrangement?
If he would not be "The One", he would be the One though for exactly this kind of relationship. That means, he would be truly happy as friends with benefits and we would trust each other and would do each other good. I would be fine with that.
Elegsabiff: If you knew someone wasn't The One, but they were offering a straightforward honest no-strings-attached arrangement?
Opportunity only knocks once.. If it knocks, go and answer the door!!
Celtictrekker: Opportunity only knocks once.. If it knocks, go and answer the door!!
In your case maybe, but some relationships are worth waiting for.
Celtictrekker: Opportunity only knocks once.. If it knocks, go and answer the door!!
I couldn't care less how many time opportunity knocks a meaningful relationship is worth waiting for.Not that I'm looking.
Ccincy: I couldn't care less how many time opportunity knocks a meaningful relationship is worth waiting for.Not that I'm looking.
Knock, knock.
pedalguy59: Knock, knock.
ped No one is home.tomcatwarne: Right to the end, just like a friend.
I tried to warn you somehow,
You had your way,
Now you must pay.
I'm glad that you're sorry now.
I tried to warn you somehow,
You had your way,
Now you must pay.
I'm glad that you're sorry now.
,,
oldie but goldie warn ,,
Lolette: ,,
oldie but goldie warn ,,
oldie but goldie warn ,,
Yes I love her.
tomcatwarne: Yes I love her.
Who doesn't ,,
kidatheart: It's not a silly question at all, and it has been asked many times in the past. There were usually more people chiming in with their views, and more varied replies than there is now. Sad, it seems there's so little diversity in discussions such as this, compared to before.
I do believe there are quite a few members on the site that might like to comment on topics like this, but are afraid to, or apprehensive, for whatever reason(s). I don't think it has anything to do with being PC either, I'm not. It's more the attacks or criticism they might face, which has become common place on the forums.
I do believe there are quite a few members on the site that might like to comment on topics like this, but are afraid to, or apprehensive, for whatever reason(s). I don't think it has anything to do with being PC either, I'm not. It's more the attacks or criticism they might face, which has become common place on the forums.
Yeah, people can be very judgemental (glass houses comes to mind).
Lolette: Mike,, here's my CV ,, Jolie Louise ,,,,
Don't lose your head, don't lose your mind ,,,
Don't lose your head, don't lose your mind ,,,
Hi Lolette
Sorry luv
Like Buddy Rich said when his heart surgeon asked him if there was anything he was allergic to - "Yeah - Country & Western"
MikeD12: Hi Lolette
Sorry luv
Like Buddy Rich said when his heart surgeon asked him if there was anything he was allergic to - "Yeah - Country & Western"
Sorry luv
Like Buddy Rich said when his heart surgeon asked him if there was anything he was allergic to - "Yeah - Country & Western"
Hi Mike
,, opps, obviously i don't know Buddy Rich ,, i should have posted for you "One Night in Bangkok" ,, kidatheart: It's not a silly question at all, and it has been asked many times in the past. There were usually more people chiming in with their views, and more varied replies than there is now. Sad, it seems there's so little diversity in discussions such as this, compared to before.
I do believe there are quite a few members on the site that might like to comment on topics like this, but are afraid to, or apprehensive, for whatever reason(s). I don't think it has anything to do with being PC either, I'm not. It's more the attacks or criticism they might face, which has become common place on the forums.
I do believe there are quite a few members on the site that might like to comment on topics like this, but are afraid to, or apprehensive, for whatever reason(s). I don't think it has anything to do with being PC either, I'm not. It's more the attacks or criticism they might face, which has become common place on the forums.
True nuff people do love to put up their dukes. By responding you created a lot more comment and offered another option yay you!
Ocee102: That's why I called it a guess.
It's a guess based on a decade of reading people's stories here,
but a guess just the same.
It's a guess based on a decade of reading people's stories here,
but a guess just the same.
After reading what people say on the forums and what they say in PM, I can only come to the conclusion that many are afraid to speak their minds in public.
I don't know when the topic changed to jumping on anything that moves, but whatever floats someone's boat.
Wonder where the OP has gone to?
Elegsabiff: True nuff people do love to put up their dukes. By responding you created a lot more comment and offered another option yay you!
Oh, I thought you'd abandoned the thread. Good to see you come back.
People always have options, even if they deny them, or are afraid to express them. It's the berating of those that do express their opinions that bothers me. Calling people users, losers, pathetic, isn't the way to promote open and healthy discourse.
IT HAS IT BENEFITS ,YOU DONT NEED TO BUY NEW BATTERY'S AND IF YOU NEED A SCRATCH YOU CAN CALL HIM 
AND HE WILL COME AND SCRATCH YOU 
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The greatest upside is the scariest part and that's the friendship.
As most of us are aware one of the most fundamental elements of any good relationship is that the partners must be friends first.
The friendship is what separates the two systems mentioned above. The friendship allows for knowledge of the other and their wants and desires and in quite a few cases FwB evolves into full blown relationships as the two get to know more about each other on another level. Sometimes the two stasis blend into each other.
I guess what makes FwB beautiful is also what makes it so dangerous. It can become an all or nothing vs Open where if the other breaks off you just move on to another.
I believe survivability leans towards FwB over open but both are very fragile situations that could go south in a hurry.