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I have this question,that bothers me ,when you get a few mail from someone, and you like them and you ask if they would like to be a friends, and then they don't reply
what am I do wrong. this has happen a few times now
any ideas
Nowra, New South Wales, Australia
when you get a few mail from someone, and you like them and you ask if they would like to be a friends, and then they don't reply
what am I do wrong. this has happen a few times now
any ideas
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It happens to me also. I begin to think that most people on dating sites just can't face reality, and prefer playing on-line with words and imagination.
Maybe other see it like a restaurant and would order just their preferred dishes and never get involved.
I think fears in such situation are normal, but if you're honest with yourself and sincere you can face them.
So you're probably doing nothing wrong, just were not lucky enough yet
I understand you don't mean that, but it's a thought.
Second, if you are enjoying email communication, just let it flow naturally. Don't ask if you can be friends, just become friends.
People are strange creatures and get nervous easily.
All the best!!!
Exchange of a few mails is enough evidence in itself that you are initiating the process of becoming friends and they are responding. So you must not push it to become a strong tree in a flash. It will never happen.
Don't make too much an effort that is not needed.
Move with the flow, be patient, don't press people, give room, let them have their space, don't ask too much. And you'll have friends before you know it.
Eventually, birds of a feather, flock together. So you will meet likeminded people I am sure.
I think if you put weird formalities around being someones friend, they might start to question your intent and reasoning abilities. If it doesnt happen on its own then let it go.
Also, I could see how some might think its a sign of neediness, or insecurity...but I suppose it depends on the conversations that were leading up to the question being asked...
But if I was emailing with someone back and forth a few times, and then they asked me if we could "be friends" I would be a little weirded out, because in my mind we probably already were friends. Why would they ask that if we already began establishing a friendship?
If you mean you ask "Can we be JUST friends" that would change the whole question....and then I suppose I could understand it....maybe the guys are taking it as you just want a pen pal. I say just make it clear on your page what you are looking for to avoid any confusion.