Waisting time?
I was talking with a guy friend of mine last week and he began talking about his cousin's failed marriage. He said that his cousin was bi s*xual and had been married to a wonderful woman who he had two beautiful kids with for 22 years. He somehow was able to hide his sexuality from her for years and was having affairs behind her back with men. Now that she has gotten proof of his infidelity she blames him for "waisting 22 years of her life"My friend then asked me:
Why is it that women always blame the guy for "waisting their time?" no one was obligating her to be in the relationship and I'm sure there were clues in there somewhere that something was not right. He went on to say that "I'm sure there were some good times and good memories in there too so why do so many women put all the blame on the guy and then say it was a waist of their time?"
What are your thoughts on this?
Comments (18)
Could be true however, you have to admit that very rarely do we here about a man complaining about a woman "waisting his time" and I wonder why is this?
H hhm, yep I think it definitely makes a difference when the other person is clear and open with you rather than leaving you to guess...the question of what is fair comes into play here
Very interesting points......so perhaps the question would be : What would be considered a "waist of time " with a woman to a man?
Guys, you want to take this one??
This morning my son left for the seaside with his father and they will spend there some great time. My ex invited me to join them too but I kindly refused because didn't want to give him false hopes. So not all separated/divorced etc women are bitter! I know several non-bitter men over 40 too
danke and aps for me carelessness.
love u all
Sad perhaps, but not bitter .....
Most defnetly way to go i say, whay cry over spillt milk when there is still pleanty in the frodge!... specally if she brings her gf...
me man!
I agree with the comment of keeping the kids out of any conflict between two adults. Me and my ex are still on good terms and I have always given my children the freedom to see their father keeping in mind that his blood also runs through their veins and any negativity toward him would send them a message of "there is something wrong with you" and I NEVER would do that to them.
Self love and respect cannot be stressed enough. I am glad to have learned this from my father may he rest in peace. This is what has saved me from living with this type of mistreatment or accepting in into my life! Great comment BTW
inthemind,
Once again we will not allow ourself to put up with disrespect or an unfulfilled relationship if we value ourselves...I have always believed that self love comes first and have never been in a relationship which I am unsure of for very long.
Patience is a good thing (and should be appreciated, not taken advantage of) ... patience also shouldn't be extended without limits.
--- working on a vent pipe in the attic today --- been dreading this but it needs to be done --- anyone want to help?