is this normal ??

I had been with a guy for almost three years and everything was perfect.Perfect in a sense that we never had any rough moments.He's my best friend, my partner in crime, my loving boyfriend rolled into one... Should there be a problem, it was been discussed all through out and settle whatever small indifferences we had. We spent almost our time together(we live on the same building in the school)and work in the same department,ate together,doin stuff altogether as in we stuck up like being glued together.. And for almost three years of having each other...He just completely gave me up for some unknown reason.I never heard of him since he went back home to AUs... and no matter how I tried to connect to him,all messages (sms, calls, emails, chats)was blatantly ignored.

Now after a year,I thought I can go one with my life that I let everyone know I am not affected at all as if nothing happens but in my hearts of heart, I still care for him that I was having a hard time moving on .That still in my heart, I still hope he will get in touch with me. That when I missed him, I can't help not to cry ... I still long for him.

Is this normal???
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no its not normal . go on de beer for a good year and u soon forget about him...drinking drinking drinking drinking drinking cheers cheers
yeah but it's so hard.......
Hi edit, do not waste your tears my friend. If he was meant to be with you, he wouldn't be doing the things he did to you...forget about him, go out, socialise and start meeting other people...you will get over it with time and keep blogging here with us-...teddybear
forget him and start new.
it IS normal that unworthy men give you up without any reason,so do not regret at all!
be happy that you are free,without this bad man!
let him find a woman who is similar to him-he deserves on it:)
Sadly, he might have had an accident. sad flower
Or went back to an old girlfriend. dunno
Nonetheless, you should move on and find a new
partner. Best of luck. peace
Did he come back here or Austria...Dont matter anyhow forget him !!Start afresh !!!bouquet
jesus jim ur going to worrie her nowdrinking
Wind blows for all of us.What stayed behind,behind will stayheart wings
Jim..
I don't understand you..
'went back to an old girfriend'???
and left present girfriend like this???without any word of explanation?
is that an honest way to behave between people?
I think you are too tolerant...
anyone seein cats today . the DTS must be hittin..drinking drinking drinking
and once more Jim...

I wouldn't be your girlfriend..nether present...or an old one
I just think it is normal. Me, I haven't seen him for more than 3 yrs now, yet there are times when I can't help but shed some tears. I still include him in my prayers. No matter what he would always be a part of my life. And like you, I do long for him. If it's meant to be it would surely be. Good for you. At least you had 3 wonderful yrs full of good memories. I wish him all the luck in the world yet deep inside I really long for him. Indeed I do.heart beating heart beating heart beating
Time to move on edit. Any man that would leave without a word is not worthy of your love. Cherish the memories and move on with your life. Good Luck to you! cheers
Whenever a strong relationship ends (for any reason), it's normal to mourn the loss. blues

People can be rough on us... This is part of the reason for having a network of friends. Even in marriage, I don't think it's smart to put all your emotional energy into a single relationship.

Sorry for your loss... It will get better... a little better each day.

Be open to finding your next great friend! Good luck hug
it's normal for u to feel hurt and remember him and i completely understand what you are saying. hug and though it will hurt some more..it's time to move on. even if he didn't want to get back with you he should have left u a word at some point. after 3 years he owed you that much. ..people can be cruel at times. don't try to reason it in your mind.. just let it go. while u r pining for him..he might be just enjoying his life. u had 3 good years. leave it at that. move on.. love yourself..keep busy, go out with friends..and gradually it will get better. teddybear
This is normal as well as abnormal, psychiatrist can guide you better about handling such situation psychologically to prevent the illness due to such fluctuation if you feel uncontrol.
there's no exact standards when it comes to feeling, edit. but the thing is, life goes on with or without you. so, just keep in mind that you deserved to be happy. keep yourself busy, go out and hang with friends who really care and love you for who you are :)

just hang in there cheering
Hi! Edit

You never forget someone you really love......a part of them always stays with you......you will probably think of him even into your older age........allow yourself only a small part of you to cherish the time that you were together this would be healthy but don't let it consume you because this will deny you of any possibility of finding future happiness for yourself......

I remember this saying I read a long time ago......If you love someone set them free, if they come back to you its meant to be, if not they were never yours........


Hey take care.......wave
Hey Guys,

Thank you for all the nice words and advices. LOl makes me feel ashamed why I let myself felt so miserable when I know I don't deserve it. I am a jolly person by nature haha but at times it strikes me like I was being crushed and pinned down that i don't know how to get over it and just let myself cry( falling in love is my waterloo) sounds crazy but its true.

Anyways, may I just concentrate myself to work and do everything to keep myself busy.

Thanks GUys!!!!!
hi swissblueeyes,

u'r right. thanks for the thought. it wasnt easy to forget when there so much good memories but I know i really need to move on no matter how hard it is.

cheers!!1
idea Lauren, told Parti to look for him in Australia! detective laugh

Anyway, Lauren, I understand your feeling. He is nice and then when back home to his home place then he disappeared. Okay, welcome to the "why men disappear" club!

I told you. If he went back and didn't give any news since then, forget about him. Move on. It means he is not that into you. Really. This is bitter fact but it will turned sweet when you move on your life. You deserve another good man coz you are a good one.

I'm sorry for the bad experience, dear. Wish you good luck! {smile}

Smile! bouquet


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Summer
haha yup, thanks!!

Got alot of heartaches lately.And not good to dwell so much lol.
You deserve better.
You are beautiful inside and out. I hope you can get over him, so you can be with me.
;)
Bless you, and keep your head up, your time is coming!

Anthony
If she's not over him 5 years on, I doubt she ever will be.roll eyes

Go for it!


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