no last look goodbye
People come & go throughout our lives & leave a lasting impact. It doesn't matter how long they're been in our lives....briefly, for awhile, or for years. They can leave their impact whether it was positive or negative. And sometimes they make us aware of something we didn't realize.If you were given the chance or the opportunity even for a few minutes or even for a day with them....dead or alive....would you?
And they could answer your unanswered questions, that they hold the answers to. No one could answer but them. They know the answer you seek. Even if to know them better.
And you could tell them what you wanted to say but weren't given the chance to for whatever the reason. If you known it was the last time, would you of told them what you wanted to say even to say..."I love you". Would things have changed if you told what you wanted to say?
People have an impact whether its what you say/do or don't say/do. They leave a lasting impression. If we known it was the last time to see them again would we have done/said things differently? Would we?
Do we have any regrets?
What would you say or do?
Would you tell them?
Would you take back those words?
Or leave them unsaid?
And if someone didn't say back what you wanted to hear...do you disappear? Or even wonder why they didn't say it back? Or do you wait? Would you give them the chance to? Would you think that they didn't feel the same way?
Sometimes it takes awhile for to let certain things sink in....& when it does sometimes its too late. Because you were waiting for that right moment that didn't happen. Waiting for that next time. Why is it the simplest thing can the hardest to say especially when you're feeling it. Why can't you just say it? We look back at what's left unsaid...not even a goodbye. Or until we meet again.
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INDEED,I RECENTLY RESPONDED 'SHAMEFULLY' WITH MUCH REGRETTED WORDS TO AN UNPROVOKED ASSAULT BY ANOTHER MEMBER HERE BECAUSE I WAS HURT BY WHAT WAS SAID. IF I COULD TURN BACK THE CLOCK I WOULD HAVE RESPONDED QUITE DIFFERENTLY : WITH TOLERANCE & TACT.
THANK YOU ZWEET4U FOR MAKING ME REALISE THAT BEING HUMAN IS NOT ENOUGH, WE MUST BE BE ABLE TO GIVE SOMETHING OF OURSELF WHICH IS POSITIVE AND BENEFICIAL TO OTHER PEOPLE WHILST WE HAVE THE TIME AND THE OPPORTUNITY NO MATTER HOW DIFFICULT OR STRESSFUL THE CIRCUMSTANCES ARE FOR US AS INDIVIDUALS TO BE ABLE TO DO THIS.
Yes it feel good go get it off my chest but it'd be better to say it to that person. It feels like a weight has been lifted off the shoulders. And I'm thinking of you now
Thank you for your words!
And your welcome!
I myself have shed many tears by not expressing what I wanted to say to a partiular person that I haven't seen again. I can't turn back time & I could I would of said it... but I didn't. So now I just gotta move on. But I sometimes I wonder if this person & I met what would be said.
An somtimes I've said things that I wish I could take back but what is said is said. But sometimes we're given a chance to clear it up.
I've been hurt for not always expressing myself when I want to. And time I had the courage to I got different reactions. One time I got laughed at & another I got a cup thrown at me. Because of that I sometimes hold it in. It doesn't always benefit me.
It seems sometimes that its like...to be seen but not heard. Its not only you I'm that way at times.
we can save up the mistakes they made and bring that up next time ...
when we need to say something no matter how small or big an issue , we should speak out , loudly , and not hold it in ....
and the blogs here are a great way of doing it ..
so dont bottle it up anymore , " Get It Out "
Congratulations zweet you also broke the record for the amount of question ever ask in one blog...haha.
The good thing is you know why he left and what you should have said and done. When someone leaves like that, its not because of what happen that day, it was going on for ages and became so sicken and unrepairable that the only way one would learn something from it was to just dissapear without a word.
It should make you a better and stronger person cause of it.
Nice photo too.
Jana....words are standard & feelings are unique. Virgo....there is a first time for everything. That's true! To me its both I wanna feel it before I say it. Words have impact. My first time with "I love you". Its one thing to just say it but its another to say it & mean it. It can be the easiest & the hardest thing to say...& its those 3 words.
The first time I heard it was with a guy that I thought we'd have a future with. And so did he. He told me that he loves me & asked me to an event that was a year away. I said i'd go to the event but I couldn't get the words out.
When I got home it hit me why didn't I say it. I felt it but didn't say it. That was the last time I saw him. We communicated for awhile after that. But it stopped. With no explanation. Today one year ago that's the first time I heard those 3 words. It still hurts. And now I wonder...
Thanks!
I don't know why he disappeared maybe I didn't say those 3 words.
I have a typical experience about these 3 words. A man I dated used to say them to me but I never reciprocated since I didn't feel it (and I knew he didn't actually mean them either). I said them only once, just to express my nice attitude towards him. A pause followed, then he said: "I love you, too". And I knew it was the end
nobodys tieing you down , this is a equal partnership if you dont want to put anything in ,then dont or do as you want !
If you change your mind ,thats ok ..new idears are most welcome
If you come up with a better way of doing things ,then lets try that , ok
...and then nothingness...
That's true that no one is tying us down. Usually its ourselves hoding us back for some reason or another. We must speak up for ourselves because someone else won't . Its up to us. Speak up or forever hold your peace/piece of mind.
I like what you wrote.
Its making me think!
I'm building a steel yacht between blogs ,and the weather is good , so I'm going to do some welding ,be back soon , ok
I think relationships have personalities. You both get to build the personality and to limit the personality of the relationship. Wouldn't it be nice to build a personality that allows caring and sharing (nearly) without hesitation? If the other person wanted "no limits", would you be the one to limit it?
Not an easy question...
Personally, I don't worry about words not said... I say some of them... and with some, I figure what I feel about them, they feel about me... and things happen for a reason... and it's all good.
And this is true... most of the time.
If his feelings are as deep as what he says he feels, then he would try to find out your response and given you an opportunity to express yourself in your own time. Please don't blame yourself if you weren't ready to say the words "I love you". These words are precious and has to be said when you are ready. If his feelings were really deep, then he would be willing to wait and work things out with you, just like you would have done the same for him, if the situation was the reverse. As you say, every person who comes in our life, comes for a reason and we learn from them. If the person leaves, then it is meant to be, so that they make room for the right person coming to our life who we need to be with.
I know it is hard not to look back at the past with some regret…..but be confident that your future is just as bright because the one who really loves you will not let you go! Good Luck Zweet!
Irrespective of the course of action which we take, some thing WILL happen. We can alter the course of our lives by the decisions we make, and usually I believe that we do what is right, whether we see it at the time or not.
However, our actions do not necessary dictate the other persons response.
In this instance, I believe that to be true . . . he would have found a reason to break it off, because that was meant to be . . . for him
Don't beat yourself up about it.
Not always an easy question. I still wonder "why?" he did what he did. Even if two drift apart there still should be something said, even a call. Perhaps a text to give explanation.
It doesn't matter who I ask they give me different scenarios of what could of happened. But only he knows why he did so. All I do is wonder at times
Do I wanna hear certain things...yes.. but only if its from the heart & he means it. Sometimes you can feel it even without those words. If I don't hear it its not the end of the world.
Thank you for your words!
When I think back that day other things seemed odd of what he said. I didn't really say anything. If I were in that situation I would of waited I wouldn't of assumed otherwise. But I would of wondered....
Yes things happen for a reason. And if it weren't for him I wouldn't of joined cs & have written blogs. And I wouldn't of met many nice people here in the blogs. But he will be a small part of my heart, he's someone I can't forget there's just something about him.
Its true it doesn't matter what we say/do or don't say/do something does happen whether we like it or not. Yes sometimes there's too many what ifs. It drags us doen in a way. Even if he felt it was over he should of least told me & not disappear. Break ups aren't easy but avoiding it feels worse. I just wish he talked to me & had that talk.
I'm trying not to beat myself up but certain things bring back those memories. I almost forgot until a friend asked about him & that opened up old wounds & made me cry again.
Thank you!
Thanks for the laughs!
I think I counted 14 questions lol