Love Across the Miles
A scenario:A man and a woman met here. They have a beautiful love affair for almost a year now. They have already met each other in person and found the connection. The man wants the woman to move in with him. The woman is willing to, BUT NOT IMMEDIATELY. She said, "I love to be with you but could you wait for me to settle down some things with my own family before I move in to have our own". She's single and no children, she just have some "lending a hand" to do. She wants to fulfill a promise to her family and she is sure she can do that in 2 years time. The man answered, "No I can't wait that long. Its now or never".
The woman was sad but she can't do anything about it. The man has said his piece and he meant it. The woman is willing to work the relationship even on long distance. She knows its not easy to keep a relationship miles away, but she is willing to try.
How about you? Would you at least try long distance love affair?
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I have tried LDR for 4 years. It worked at first, but can't keep that long.
The woman is 33 and the man is 39.
One of the easiest ways to destroy a perfectly healthy relationship is to poison it with jealousy and drama. When starting a long distance relationship, we must be realistic of the difficulties ahead.
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Never Say Never... what should be - will be. It is exactly what I think.
After years of unsuccessful fight against destiny
Once the relationship should last, will be... time will show. No relationship is wasting of time, just people think so... they try to live future, they do not understand - today is important.
LDR - is a great experience, learns a lot, gives a lot of joy ( expectations, no routine, breaking barriers, plannig, timing ...to meet
So... enjoy. Enjoy LDR. Enjoy joys and accept worries. That is life.
Shay, I think if I am sure he's the right guy for me, I'd go on with it. I had done that kind of relationship before and I failed, but that doesn't mean I quit and simply giving it up. There are many factors that can be obstacles during the long-distance relationship but if the two parties can work through them well...it's not an impossible thing to do. I have witnessed friends who had through this kind of situation and they did it good ^_^
As for the waiting part...maybe it's best for them to sit together to discuss the length of time they can devote themselves in order to make the relationship worked JMO.
I love what you said, a real optimistic ... Never Say Never... what should be - will be.
The willingness to try and make a long distance relationship work is very essential. Staying positive and focusing on the positive aspects of a long-distance relationship is important to keeping the relationship blooming. Being away from each other is not all bad news. There are also added positive in it. Its up to the couple to discover those good things.
With me I don't want my hopes broken & my dreams dashed. You start to develop feelings & the feelings not returned. I also have to trust him. And its kinda hard when you haven't met & miles away. Its sometimes hard to trust guys who are local.
For me to have or try a LDR there has to be trust. Especially trust with my heart. But I'm sure there have been success stories with LDR. Would I try it depends on the guy & if it works out. Its a big risk but if it works out then its all worth it in the end.
I always believed life was is for living, as we grow older our expectations change. If you meet somebody whether it's on C.S. or in real life & the only barrier is the distant, to me then it's a challenge for both parties to work on.
As I said to you last week, the magical mystery tour is a beautiful experience that I feel we should all embrace in our lives with excitement, an open mind, respect, understanding. If you don't try this experience you will always be left wondering - what if
As the lovely Aswina said you have to go for it
Have a beautiful day
Nice to know that the both of us are willing to try it again. I could and I would definitely try it again.
There are many factors that can be obstacles during the long-distance relationship but if the two parties can work through them well...it's not an impossible thing to do.
And I agree with you that the time of waiting should be taken consideration. A real, heart to heart talk would be necessary for this matter to work things out.
The magical mystery tour is a beautiful experience that I feel we should all embrace in our lives with excitement, an open mind, respect, understanding. If you don't try this experience you will always be left wondering - what if.
'Though this story is not mine, I can feel what she must be feeling right now. Me and the girl have the same situation. And if this same thing will happen to me, I would and I could certainly enthusiastic to work out the relationship. Its up to the man whatever he decides.
Good luck, Shay!
Yeah, a bit sad story.
I do believe LDR could work to people who are willing and trusting enough. Things will get better with time, and even the relationship will become better.
Thank you.
A relationship is based on two people talking, understanding & finding a compromise if both are committed to the relationship. When you start a relationship with anyone you should not be thinking about the if's & but's but more of what I & you can bring to this relationship. If there are barrier's you must be willing to try - happiness is beautiful & makes the world tick nicely
Have a beautiful day - PS: I liked your Blog once again
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A relationship is based on two people talking, understanding & finding a compromise if both are committed to the relationship. When you start a relationship with anyone you should not be thinking about the if's & but's but more of what I & you can bring to this relationship. If there are barrier's you must be willing to try - happiness is beautiful & makes the world tick nicely.
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Sorry about yesterday! I couldn`t answer you!
Now about your question! I already had a LDR and it was one of the most wonderful relationship in my life. Yes it ended but not because of a distance. I think LDR has its advantages and maybe allow ppl to know each other better before taking the next step.
In any case the distance is the last thing which would stopped me.
Glad to know that you also have an optimistic mind about LDR.
Every kind of relationship takes hard work and dedication to loved one or partner, whether it's long distance or proximal. Its not always smooth, expect bumps and turns in the road. These bumps and turns will only help contribute towards a relationship.
Hope she had a decent lover
Trust, honesty, creativity (this one is important
This is easy, right?
For your scenario: They should be talking about how to use the 2 years ... how the 2 years can benefit their relationship ... how to enjoy the present while setting the stage for their future. Clearly, she is strongly loyal to her current task. If he values devotion as a character trait, he should see this as a positive sign.
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For myself... I agree with Aswina << smart lady
Morgen,
Thank you for the comment.
[b[There needs to be a hook... a connection both are capable of feeling regardless of where they are.
Nope, any relationship is never easy. As the willing persons will work together, what seems to be hard will be just little bumps along the way of building a more stronger relationship.
I do understand your point.