What Do We Want in Our Partner?
That's easy: I want a male version of my self, with these sentiments precisely: "Whatever you ask for, that's what I'll be." Because that is precisely what I feel. There is NOTHING MY Beloved could ask of me that I'd refuse. That kind of committment is rare in my experience -- which makes it all the more precious.I want something SACRED. And I won't settle for less. What is it you want (/are willing to give/commit) -- in a nutshell?
Once I get my hands on that man, he's gonna be useless to any other woman. Spoil, SPOIL, SPOIL!
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the way i see it if you deny your partner a reasonable request how can you complain when they dump you to seek it in another .
You deserve only the best, don't settle for less
Hugs and Kisses
Why settle for second best when you can have the best?
Something "sacred", ummm... sounds good to me too!
"Once I get my hands on that man, he's gonna be useless to any other woman. Spoil, SPOIL, SPOIL"
ha ha ha!!!
I think that I have found such a man. He is in fact the one who is spoiling me for other men!
And this beautiful tune, love this song:
Did I use the wrong word again? Just when I tought my English was getting better. Eishh, the perils of writing in a second language!
Yes, please name them, so I can know what to ask for when next I go in for service and modifications.
I would describe myself as a realistic person and there are things which are important in someone's character for me - which is having someone with a similar outlook in life and similar values, someone who is kind, caring and I can rely on as much as he can rely on me. Other things like looks, social/financial standing etc. is not important for me.
I do know what I can give or offer to a person, but I'm realistic enough that I won't always get this in return. It's usually not something you realise at the start of a relationship either.
I am also aware of a degree of flexibility, and a bit of
of compromise is essential. On that note, good Karma comes
back to me quite frequently.
Adam: Vows have gone out of style. People don't appreciate so much anymore how important they are. It makes it hard to find "something sacred".
On spoiling: It's my personal philosophy on relationships. Spoil each other and you can't go wrong, but it has to be a two way effort. Both sides of the equation have to be giving it all they've got!
Callio! I have been married twice. The first one was much like me and the relationship was very good. If I had known then what I know now, we could have saved it. The second man was my compliment/opposite in most ways. It was a constant battle. No thanks!
Daaaa-aaaaan... I'm beginning to wonder if you are a little sweet on me, young man.
The secret of happiness is just this: No matter what you are up against, no matter what needs doing, the relationship is Job #1. HOW we go about getting it done together defines how well the journey goes. It's not about reaching some endpoint. It's about HOW you get there: The journey it self is both the means AND the end.
Angel: I'd need a pretty big microwave for the sorta man I prefer. (I love to move mountains.)
Minerva: Congratulations to you! You know I am keeping you in my prayers.
KNenagh! I find it is precisely in the beginning of relationships that you do get the sort of reciprocity and devotion I am pointing at. Relationships often start out great, both parties putting their best foot forward. Then things begin to change as the best foot gets pulled back. It should not be like that because it will not work like that. Many people are confused about what real strength looks like. They think that saying "Whatever pleases you, Beloved," means you're weak. The case is quite the opposite. It takes the strongest sort of man or woman to be indulgent and that sort of strength andcharacter are irresistable (at least for me) in a man.
Yes I have. And I have just met mine...
Cailin. Thanks for your words and lovely energy
if its sacred your looking for, then i will give you my sacred man.. but just on loan so i'll want my barry back.
I have reached of late a turning point and I have wondered what I am still doing on a dating site. I guess I might be encouraging or inspiring others and, if that's all I do here, that is grand. On the other hand, I have come to care for all of you with whom I regularly interact and, as reclusive and somewhat secretive as I tend to be, I have, of late, peeled away one layer of veneer I used to often employ on this site. I feign being menacing and also a bit of "studied psychopathy" from time to time. (Thanks to Guadal for pointing that out.) It is entirely "studied". I am a very benevolent and stable person: very nearly unprovokable. And I enjoy you all very much. Thank you for being good friends.
I also know in theory PRECISELY what I want, but I don't think it will just appear in one man. There are values I don't compromise on, but that doesn't mean that there are other parts where I don't have to compromise.
Best of luck finding him and I don't mean that in any way negative and really wishing you the best for your quest - I just hope it's not a long, lonely road.
I always found you "quirky" and not one bit negative btw. and do enjoy reading your blogs.
Life is for living and that's what I'm trying to do - I lost too many years through some stuff. I enjoy my life and going out meeting people is something I like and try to do frequently (I need a plane to see my family).
Have fun base jumping!
am always there as a back up