Love Is A Decision

"Love is a decision, it is a judgement, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgement and decision."

- Erich Fromm
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hmm... a deep thoughts though a little bit difficult to understand in English dunno

Is it mean an everlasting love should be on the basis of responsibility?
Socrates, I love this blog. Erich Fromm has mastered the profound with efficiency and grace. Such a short statement and yet it says so much. I agree.

But that loving feeling (great song by Hall & Oates) doesn't have to go away. Indeed, our commitment to love can sustain the feelings over the years. thumbs up
Hi phoenix
Yes, accepting one's responsibility in a relationship is an essential factor in "an everlasting love".
Hi chameleon
I assume you have read Erich Fromm's work. The quote I posted is taken from "The Art of Loving". I strongly recommend it to every one.
The second part of your comment is very good advice for those in the early stage of a love relationship. Thanks for posting it,
Very good thought..that's why somany relationship end!!! most of us don't make a decision to love just it remains by a feeling..
Very good thought..that's why somany relationship end!!! most of us don't make a decision to love just it remains by a feeling..
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I identify with the following words of Socrates:
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