Are We All Victims and Innocents?
Where are all the wife beaters ? Where are the irresponsible drunk husbands or cheating boyfriends? Where are the two-timing girlfriends and nasty nagging wives? I can't seem to find them here on CS ?
All I've read here on blogs and forums are mostly victims of love...cheated by their bf/gf...abused and neglected by their husband/wife...
Are we all victims and innocents here? and worse, are those who preach about morals and respect as if they are perfect!
Is there another dating sites for the guilty ones?
I think I would fit better there
I mean, every time we blog about love and relationship, we can only read stories of how we were taken advantaged by someone we loved...we only read one side of the story...
What about their side? Maybe you cheated first so they cheated on you too Maybe you're a nasty nagging wife, he got fed up and left you? Why is it so difficult to acknowledge and accept our mistakes and short comings ? Is it to difficult to be honest? Must we fool ourselves and those people around us inorder to feel good about our failures?
I highly respect someone who's brave enough to admit their mistakes and say : " given a second chance, I will do better "
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And another of how my then husband woke up as i was about to put a pillow over his head
but as you ask, if given another chance???
yes i'd do a better job with the pillow one
Oh yes! yes, I remember that blog....and what happened to those two now?
as for the pillow job, don't do that again
There are only 'loving husbands and beloved mothers ' buried in the graveyards.
but it was a long long time ago.
As for the pillow, ah sure we all have our crazy moments
I can kinda see my inbox comming to a sudden stop now
Such a sad story
as for your crazy moments,I'm sure the good still outweighs the crazy ones way way a lot..
we all have crazy moments...I have, I just can't remember a significant crazy moment I had in my life...just mild ones, you witnessed them here on blogs from time to time...nothing really to be scared of
I've heard it's a jungle in the forum...it's a lot safer here on blogs...I won't be able to handle all those wild species
I am definitely not a victim, and not an innocent either.
We all have our imperfections. Some just more than others
As the saying goes, "you can attract more flies with honey than you can with vinegar"! jmo.
a) I'm very honest and loyal
b) I'm a different person now
c) I've never lied in my life
d) I tried so hard but
e) I'm very generous
f) I'm very witty
g) I'm deeply religious
h) you have a radiant smile, dear
so no back stabbing...just face punching...
I'll stick here... I still prefer the fake smile, hug and laughing icons
but what if somebody have in fact change....my Indonesian Ex try 2 years to prof me as a bad guy,then she gave up,but then it start to slide in the other direction,she start to be scared about her own weaknesses and even I accepted them,she clearly start to create problems from nonsense .....an other case was,that when I told who I was and what I had been before,she told me,that she had preferred me better as imperfect as I was before and cut completely the contact to me.
So what do you Women really want,I have questioned that so many times already,so perhaps I can get the answer here now
Rolf
Moody ? is all ? That's very easy to cure! a hug, a kiss, a flower will lighten up that mood!
so it was all about your mood and the rest was on him?
I've been told many times that I'm a handful...if they say so
Yep! I Remember Itchy Blog.
Whew! Now That Was A Wild Blog____
By The Way!
I Am Perfect! Nah.___
That's very true
but wouldn't it be easier if we are truthful ? If they can't handle your honesty then there's no point in pretending...it will have to end sometimes...
I was actually thinking of you while I was writing this blog...I wanted to put you and few others as exceptions but for some reason, I got distracted and forgot it...
Not many people are lucky to have a marriage like yours
you are an angle...you're perfect
but even angels do have a dark side...now I know you went with Johnny to Las Vegas last week...so how much money did you make there?
oh,like that,then it's in fact very simple indeed
Rolf
You are somewhat correct in your response to my comment. There has to be "give" and "take" in a relationship! Nobody is perfect.....well, maybe except me.
one or two are normal...seriously
who would that be?
we have to set them as good examples here...and they deserve some acknowledgement you know ...some award maybe?
just kidding, JJ
that means you're somewhere in between...safe!
yes, there has to be give and take...and I'm not referring to money or materials things here...it's about knowing and understanding each other's weaknesses...work on it...know when to be quiet, know when to talk....know when to give and know when to take
We always tried to protect our son from any unpleasantness. My son did see some of that rage and I covered it up...
and when he replaced me, I wasn't aware of it...he did it while he was in Europe...it was kinda shock to me when he came back with his other wife and need to divorce me. He was already away for 3.5 years so wasn't that difficult for me...divorce wasn't that big issue...it was when I started going out with someone else...
no one is perfect...here's something that would help us understand men better.
You really pick them!
Any chance you might pick one who actually stays around you next time?
so here's something that could help the men understand us better..
Yes, 3.5 years of waiting only to get divorced he finally came back!
Now I'm in an LDR, 2 years together here... hide and seek relationship... and 3 years of being apart...just few weekends in a year
see what a loyal and trusting cat I am?
Just pick somebody within travelling distance, who you can actually meet regularly!
Getting dressed up for date nights is great. And it keeps it fresh when you don't have to be with them 24/7, but still a few times a week, or at least every weekend.