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Belonging to somebody...advantages/disadvantages
Is the concept of belonging to somebody becoming something of the past....belonging in a way that marriage promotes or exclusive relationships promote.
What are some of the advantages and/or disadvantages of somebody belonging to you or you belonging to somebody else.
The point is to weigh the pros and cons of each.
Happy Saturday all.
What are some of the advantages and/or disadvantages of somebody belonging to you or you belonging to somebody else.
The point is to weigh the pros and cons of each.
Happy Saturday all.
The questions to know each other better for real.
The dating world amuses me now for real, not always in a good way. The online environment is very different from the real world dating hugely and not everyone seam to spot it.
1) We can just type the figures and search like shopping products.
2) we don't have the feromones, body language nor facial expressions the matching communication is based on in the real world.
This is now very interesting that we all can look at our prospective 'datees' in purely technical way. What they wrote is now everything. Different but interesting so, to get out of people the most about them in the way they will remain real in their answers and showing their true colors I was looking the brain/mind puzzle to solve with someone and see if we will enjoy solving it together. Life together is a big puzzle after all. This is where I came up with a hypothetical question but, the answers were not what I thought it may be. I always thought that intelligent person can talk about everything (not being an expert), ....wellllll..., I was wrong.
The question was 'If the black holes could speak, what their story would be like?'; only one going into theoretical philosophical path, no one gone for science path, one held for research topic further (curiosity and growing is noble) the rest of answers made me to love online, black guys lecture me on racism (haaa ha ha), Asian dudes reacted to the word 'whole' and run for sexval paths (nooooo!), white guys combined both of those nonsense paths and concluded that I'm up to black guys (ha ha ha, no!)
In one moment I appreciated online dating as some of those guys turned into vishous name calling. How wonderfully I don't have to meet those people.
1) We can just type the figures and search like shopping products.
2) we don't have the feromones, body language nor facial expressions the matching communication is based on in the real world.
This is now very interesting that we all can look at our prospective 'datees' in purely technical way. What they wrote is now everything. Different but interesting so, to get out of people the most about them in the way they will remain real in their answers and showing their true colors I was looking the brain/mind puzzle to solve with someone and see if we will enjoy solving it together. Life together is a big puzzle after all. This is where I came up with a hypothetical question but, the answers were not what I thought it may be. I always thought that intelligent person can talk about everything (not being an expert), ....wellllll..., I was wrong.
The question was 'If the black holes could speak, what their story would be like?'; only one going into theoretical philosophical path, no one gone for science path, one held for research topic further (curiosity and growing is noble) the rest of answers made me to love online, black guys lecture me on racism (haaa ha ha), Asian dudes reacted to the word 'whole' and run for sexval paths (nooooo!), white guys combined both of those nonsense paths and concluded that I'm up to black guys (ha ha ha, no!)
In one moment I appreciated online dating as some of those guys turned into vishous name calling. How wonderfully I don't have to meet those people.
The problem of fake profiles and copied photos and how to test them
Its so easy for people to download an image from the net and post it as their own. All dating sites seem to be vulnerable to this. Basically if its a profession looking photo and the woman is good looking the chances are extremely high its fake. Check by going to (better than Yahoo, Bing or Google I found but you can try them as well) after saving the image on your device. Then you upload the image to Yandex/Google and the search engine will look for the same image online. Takes just a couple of seconds. Get ready to be disappointed and hopefully you haven't wasted too much time talking to Miss Wonderful who mysteriously never is available to voice chat (no privacy, no mic, no internet, and on and on). Probably a 300 lb Nigerian guy!
First determine is she's female. Voice chat is the only way for that (hopefully software voice modification hasn't gotten popular with the scammers yet). Next is video chat so you can see the person talking. Does it match the photo on the profile
Second determine her financial needs. Does she bring up her money woes all the time? if she does she's probably doing exactly the same to 10-20 other guys. Even if they only send $50 a month (nothing for a developed country worker), multiply that by 20 and its a sizable sum for someone making a few dollars a day doing maid work. Enough they would never consider mopping another floor again. The financial motivation is enormous for poor people acting "friendly" on the phone. She may even rationalize it by convincing herself this is the best way to screen all her suitors. Or her children need it. We're all very skilled at rationalization.
Third determine her dependents. Many rationalize gold digging because their family is out of work and is destitute. Marry her and you have to support the whole family.
Fourth determine how open she is to you visiting. If you hang out with her a lot she won't be able to hide her many contacts online who want to talk to her, who she risks losing if she's not available as before. A con artist doesn't like to be observed closely.
What other ways do you guys use for screening golddiggers?
First determine is she's female. Voice chat is the only way for that (hopefully software voice modification hasn't gotten popular with the scammers yet). Next is video chat so you can see the person talking. Does it match the photo on the profile
Second determine her financial needs. Does she bring up her money woes all the time? if she does she's probably doing exactly the same to 10-20 other guys. Even if they only send $50 a month (nothing for a developed country worker), multiply that by 20 and its a sizable sum for someone making a few dollars a day doing maid work. Enough they would never consider mopping another floor again. The financial motivation is enormous for poor people acting "friendly" on the phone. She may even rationalize it by convincing herself this is the best way to screen all her suitors. Or her children need it. We're all very skilled at rationalization.
Third determine her dependents. Many rationalize gold digging because their family is out of work and is destitute. Marry her and you have to support the whole family.
Fourth determine how open she is to you visiting. If you hang out with her a lot she won't be able to hide her many contacts online who want to talk to her, who she risks losing if she's not available as before. A con artist doesn't like to be observed closely.
What other ways do you guys use for screening golddiggers?
interracial dating...
Interracial dating is a touchy subject for many.
I have no emotion about it either way!
I have no emotion about it either way!
Hens story
More about love and it's short comings.. 
Daily quotes ??
Relationship taught me that,
you should always find a reason to stay. You will get tired in the process and question your love but the most important thing is to understand each other & compromise. If you get tired, rest but don’t just leave and be patient. ????
Through Night and Day...
you should always find a reason to stay. You will get tired in the process and question your love but the most important thing is to understand each other & compromise. If you get tired, rest but don’t just leave and be patient. ????
Through Night and Day...
online now!
Using private email, etc. straight away, here on CS....
.....on the recommendation of others. Sure, often, scammers are just looking for valid email addresses to market. Their vetting away isn't hard, and even fun, at times. But what else could be going on?
Well, lots, it would seem. The most common is that most often search without reading profiles, and then beginning to THINK..
Next, private mail is more personal. But, really, what's to hide, and from whom? I know the CS cyberscrutinizer spends nearly every minute at work focused only on my every word. But c'mon, folks, showing the same interest in the private mail of the rabble? Highly unlikely.
Then some say they don't get here often, which, like saying that I'm "new" here, is often a clue to scammers. But not always. In the West we are lucky to have the wherewithal to enjoy lots of IT time, on different platforms.. But in some places, there are real barriers to such,,such as work, money, etc. My ISP is powerful and dirt cheap, but some aren't so crafty or fortunate.
I bet shyness enters in here at times. But again, on our awesome CS, access to our personal thoughts of love, and to my ruses to entrap the unsuspecting hottie tart, are quite private.
There are many other such reasons for not wanting to take the time to chat a bit here at first, while we explore possibilities. And some can be clues to character traits, that some may find undesirable. I value patience, for example, so there.
Now moving on to the darker side of human behaviors, these styles may also be a sign of the need to control. Shocked, I know, that there may be such types lurking out here in CS wounded warrior spaces. But beware. I see this regularly, and it can present with the request to use private mail, and then to effect a block. Yep, the marriage ring rests not only on the finger, but often under the nose.
Lots more reasons. I find that with real and grounded people, after a few turns at the keyboard, we can either, rarely, progress, or decide to look elsewhere. Saying good bye nicely. And rarely, this morphs into ongoing acquaintanceship. Which of course might even have covert, circumstantial chances at blossoming, in their own rights.
Lot's of reasons. Varying level of class.
Well, lots, it would seem. The most common is that most often search without reading profiles, and then beginning to THINK..
Next, private mail is more personal. But, really, what's to hide, and from whom? I know the CS cyberscrutinizer spends nearly every minute at work focused only on my every word. But c'mon, folks, showing the same interest in the private mail of the rabble? Highly unlikely.
Then some say they don't get here often, which, like saying that I'm "new" here, is often a clue to scammers. But not always. In the West we are lucky to have the wherewithal to enjoy lots of IT time, on different platforms.. But in some places, there are real barriers to such,,such as work, money, etc. My ISP is powerful and dirt cheap, but some aren't so crafty or fortunate.
I bet shyness enters in here at times. But again, on our awesome CS, access to our personal thoughts of love, and to my ruses to entrap the unsuspecting hottie tart, are quite private.
There are many other such reasons for not wanting to take the time to chat a bit here at first, while we explore possibilities. And some can be clues to character traits, that some may find undesirable. I value patience, for example, so there.
Now moving on to the darker side of human behaviors, these styles may also be a sign of the need to control. Shocked, I know, that there may be such types lurking out here in CS wounded warrior spaces. But beware. I see this regularly, and it can present with the request to use private mail, and then to effect a block. Yep, the marriage ring rests not only on the finger, but often under the nose.
Lots more reasons. I find that with real and grounded people, after a few turns at the keyboard, we can either, rarely, progress, or decide to look elsewhere. Saying good bye nicely. And rarely, this morphs into ongoing acquaintanceship. Which of course might even have covert, circumstantial chances at blossoming, in their own rights.
Lot's of reasons. Varying level of class.
online now!
What separates couples?
Sure, money, inlaws, illness, substances, military service, flings, politics, and much more. In our case it was differences in parenting. I was wrong. VERY wrong.
Today, a nice younger couple from New Hampsire bought my latest boat, in a fair deal to both parties. I spent the day with them teaching how to be good owners, so it will be fun and last a long time.
I think boat ownership should be added to the sad list of things coming between couples.These two were a nice match, and loved each other by all appearances. And they were good learners (of course they had a tree top teacher), and already had many technical sailing skills. And it was gratifying to see how they cooperated with each other, and with me. No kids yet, and both were educated and with good jobs.
A perfect picture. Until things started to go wrong, which of course on any watercraft, is bound to happen. Regularly. And at the worst possible times and circumstances.
She seemed better at technical things than he did, yet he seemed to try to do more than his share of tasks. He made his share of understandable errors, all of us as novices make. She and I were calm and understanding, as we all made our share of the usual goofas well.
But then I saw it, and heard it. As his frustration grew, he also began to speak a little more harshly with her. Once saying, in a slightly angry voice, "I can't believe you did that the way you.did." She kept her calm supportive demeanor.
Overall, it was actually congenial. But couples who have been there will know the worrying signs.
Here I am signalling virtue, when in fact, in younger years, I wish I was more patient.
Experientia docet.
Today, a nice younger couple from New Hampsire bought my latest boat, in a fair deal to both parties. I spent the day with them teaching how to be good owners, so it will be fun and last a long time.
I think boat ownership should be added to the sad list of things coming between couples.These two were a nice match, and loved each other by all appearances. And they were good learners (of course they had a tree top teacher), and already had many technical sailing skills. And it was gratifying to see how they cooperated with each other, and with me. No kids yet, and both were educated and with good jobs.
A perfect picture. Until things started to go wrong, which of course on any watercraft, is bound to happen. Regularly. And at the worst possible times and circumstances.
She seemed better at technical things than he did, yet he seemed to try to do more than his share of tasks. He made his share of understandable errors, all of us as novices make. She and I were calm and understanding, as we all made our share of the usual goofas well.
But then I saw it, and heard it. As his frustration grew, he also began to speak a little more harshly with her. Once saying, in a slightly angry voice, "I can't believe you did that the way you.did." She kept her calm supportive demeanor.
Overall, it was actually congenial. But couples who have been there will know the worrying signs.
Here I am signalling virtue, when in fact, in younger years, I wish I was more patient.
Experientia docet.
Political beliefs on dating profiles
I mentioned in one of my threads...about political beliefs not being on dating profiles and how important it is to know....which side of the fence...people stand on....well I noticed POF now has political beliefs as part of the dating profile...but will people be honest or pretend to be something...they are not...
I mean will a far left wing marxist...admit to being the worst of the worst on the political ladder? I think it's unlikely and I admit...I would run a mile...regardless of how good looking a woman looked{not that many marxists are worth a single look)...if I knew she hated men...the white race...productivity...traditional family values...a babies right to be born...free speech...free will...the right to own property etc...nothing would be a bigger turn off
I do think it is important to know someone's political beliefs...cause lets face it....Who wants to date someone...who is totally incompatible and totally in opposite to their own beliefs...Maybe some might think it does not matter...but I tell you now...it will matter and your life could be made a complete misery...just for being you
I mean will a far left wing marxist...admit to being the worst of the worst on the political ladder? I think it's unlikely and I admit...I would run a mile...regardless of how good looking a woman looked{not that many marxists are worth a single look)...if I knew she hated men...the white race...productivity...traditional family values...a babies right to be born...free speech...free will...the right to own property etc...nothing would be a bigger turn off
I do think it is important to know someone's political beliefs...cause lets face it....Who wants to date someone...who is totally incompatible and totally in opposite to their own beliefs...Maybe some might think it does not matter...but I tell you now...it will matter and your life could be made a complete misery...just for being you
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