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THis is about all that write me!!! Ugh!!!! If only there were real people in cyber world.....Is there no hope????

And I spoke: "Then is there no hope, bright angel?

And a blazing light streamed like a river from his hands

As he answered, "There is always hope,

There's More to Love than We Both Know-- 1 Corinthians 13:12 KJV

Compilation: 02/14

Between a rock and the love of God

When Andrew got ready for work one Friday morning, he announced to his wife that he had finally decided to ask his boss for a salary raise. All day Andrew felt nervous and apprehensive as he thought about the upcoming showdown. What if Mr. Larchmont refused to grant his request? Andrew had worked so hard in the last 18 months and landed some great accounts for Braer and Hopkins Advertising Agency. Of course he deserved a wage increase.

The thought of walking into Larchmont’s office left Andrew weak in the knees. Late in the afternoon he finally mustered up the courage to approach his superior. To his delight and surprise, the ever-frugal Harvey Larchmont agreed to give Andrew a raise!

Andrew arrived home that evening—after breaking all city and state speed limits—to a beautiful table set with their best china, and candles lit. His wife, Tina, had prepared an exquisite meal, including his favorite dishes. Immediately he figured someone from the office tipped her off!

Next to his plate Andrew found a beautiful lettered note. It was from his wife. It read: “Congratulations, my love! I knew you’d get the raise! I prepared this dinner to show just how much I love you. I am so proud of your accomplishments!” He read it and stopped to reflect on how sensitive and caring Tina was.

After dinner, Andrew was on his way to the kitchen to get dessert and he observed that a second card had slipped out of Tina’s pocket on to the ceramic floor. He bent forward to retrieve it. He read: “Don’t worry about not getting the raise! You deserve it anyway! You are a wonderful provider and I prepared this dinner to show you just how much I love you even though you did not get the increase.”

Suddenly tears swelled in Andrew’s eyes. Total acceptance! Tina’s support for him was not conditional upon his success at work.

The fear of rejection is often softened when we know someone loves us regardless of our success or failure. In my experience as a pastor, the strongest encouragement I receive is from the love of our heavenly Father. As long as I am faithful to do my best, God stands behind me no matter what happens. He will not condemn me for my mistakes or failures.

Quite the opposite! He heals my wounds and enables me to make another run for it in the very area where I experience defeat. Another display of the Lord’s acceptance is when He touches me through positive support from my wife.

We can undergo almost any setback or rejection if we know someone else loves us. The first place to start? Begin by discovering the unconditional mercy and compassion of our loving heavenly Father as shown in the gift of His Son Jesus. “We love because He first loved us” (1 John 4:19 NIV).—Story adapted by Louis Lapides
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BEFORE YOU EVEN FOUND HIM, HE'D ALREADY FOUND YOU.

Every saved person who has ever lived, was a child of God in the Mind of God before the creation of the Earth!

You say, "That sounds like predestination and fatalism, like we have no free will or choice! Which is it?" Well, total free will says that what happens is all your choice and God has nothing to do with it!--That's a doctrine of the Devil! But neither can we Christians believe in total predestination or total fatalism where we have no choice at all. God teaches a balance between the two. He chooses those who choose Him!

The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps. Proverbs 16:9 ESV


TFI

There are all sorts of comments and positions out there on why people should stay away from online dating. Top on the list is the safety concern. People have met serial rapists and killers online. How about dupes? There are those who only want to separate you from your money, and they are online. Then, you also have those who think dating online makes you appear “cheap” or “desperate”.

What are the basics? As long as people have need for affection and companionship, there will always be the need for dating. Those who say online dating makes one appear cheap or desperate are not in disagreement with the position that the need to date exists. They are only of the opinion that the traditional ways of meeting trumps the online method, but I beg to disagree.

Inasmuch as there is nothing tragically wrong with the traditional methods so called, this is 2015, and a lot of social dynamics have thrown up newer and more efficient ways of meeting potential partners. Not everyone wants to do the bar route; picking up total strangers for the night. That carries a lot of risks along with it, plus, not everyone drinks. If you therefore do not drink or smoke, you may not find the bar route very helpful.

It is still OK to be introduced to potential partners, but not everyone wants to do it because some of them think, if it doesn’t work, they will get the blame, especially since people have all sorts of values these days and a lot of which may not be known to the “introducer”, but which may shock the person meeting the “introducee”. It can be a source of embarrassment down the road. At the same time and possibly for the same reason, this pool of people worthy of being introduced is rather dry. It is not the most fertile ground for sowing the seeds of relationships.

There are the possibilities of meeting people while out grocery shopping. Granted that people out shopping may be single, but it is never written on the forehead and not every married person wears the ring. You are therefore left to first wonder if he or she is taken. If you can reasonably deduce they are free and available, then you can make a move; by which time the magic may have passed, unless you both went “grocery shopping” for the sole purpose of meeting someone.

The next thing is to reach out. It does not matter whether you are a man or woman. You see someone that “rings your bell”, reach out to them. What is the worst that can happen? It is possible they have not noticed your presence. Don’t forget there are a lot of people on the Internet (of both sexes), and contrary to your imagination, the world does not revolve around you. It is your responsibility to make yourself visible to your “target” and others that even you, have not noticed. No one lights a candle, then covers it with a bucket. Be visible.

Communicate. Get talking. I shake my head every time I see people trying to avoid communication even though they are on a dating site. How does that work?! The fastest way of knowing someone is by spending time with them and observing their values. I will say though that, it is foolish to rush to go meet someone you just met on the Internet without first getting to know them from afar a bit. If as a lady, a guy asks for your phone number, you have nothing to lose by giving it. Just make sure it is your mobile phone number. I don’t recommend giving your home phone number to a stranger because it can tell them where you live, and you don’t want to do that just yet. Mobile phone numbers does not say much, except that you got it from a particular state or province. You can live in Texas and have a mobile phone number from Kentucky; or live in Ontario and have a mobile phone number from Alberta, and so on. It takes a lot to pin point your location using your mobile phone signals, unless you are one of those people asking your apps to trace you and tell people where you are and what you are doing. In that case, you have no reason to want to hide, right? You are already broadcasting your location and activities anyway. In any case, if you are giving out your phone number, it is safer to give out your mobile phone number than your home phone number.

Our Love

Its Econimic

Activated Vol. 16 Issue 1 Thursday, 01 January 2015

Someone has said that today is a marvel of opportunity, crucified between two thieves, yesterday and tomorrow! Today, this very day, is one of the most wonderfully precious things you will ever have.

You can have faith for almost anything if you’ll take it a day at a time. God’s Word says, “As your day, so shall your strength be.”1 Every morning, look up and put your hand in the hand of Jesus and say, “This day I will trust You; this day I will, with Your help, walk step by step by Your side, and You will keep me in perfect peace today.”
Today you can do some of the things that you’ve been putting off for so long. You can’t do them yesterday and may not have the chance to do them tomorrow, but today is yours! Today you can be the kind of person you always dreamed you’d be “tomorrow.”

Your yesterdays are left with God, and none of their disappointments should be dragged into this day. Tomorrow is still unborn and you shouldn’t borrow from it. Today is filled with golden opportunities and pregnant with great possibilities! This is the golden tomorrow that you dreamed about yesterday.—Virginia Brandt Berg (1886–1968)
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Make the choice to embrace this day. Do not let your TODAY be stolen by the ghost of yesterday or the To-Do list of tomorrow! It’s inspiring to see all the wonderfully amazing things that can happen in a day in which you participate.—Steve Maraboli (b. 1975)
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Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin.—Mother Teresa (1910–1997)
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Every second is of infinite value.—Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1749–1832)
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One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon—instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today.—Dale Carnegie (1888–1955)
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At the end of your life, you will never regret not having passed one more test, not winning one more verdict, or not closing one more deal. You will regret time not spent with a husband, a friend, a child, or a parent.—Barbara Bush (b. 1925)
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Resolve to make at least one person happy every day, and then in ten years you may have made 3,650 persons happy, or brightened a small town by your contribution to the fund of general enjoyment.—Sydney Smith (1771–1845)

1. Deuteronomy 33:25




Activated TFI

online
enables us to connect with many more people, from all walks of life, than we might normally meet in a normal working or no working hours....
Given the informal nature of online friendship it’s easy to approach someone you would like to meet, and this can be done more easily and influence also enlarge it to include people you had like to meet, or would like to know better. This means that influence will beget more influence.
with others online that we begin to think that these relationships are more intense, more committed and more complete than they really are... means you need to make certain that you’re investing in the right balance of online and offline relationships for a good success....
too much personal
can become self-focused: I refer this as the “spotlight” stage, in which an adolescent lives life with the assumption that they are the center of attention and that all eyes are on them. This magnetized way of thinking can be harmful in the long run, because when the spotlight is on you- everything becomes an ordeal. The good news is – all of us eventually outgrow the spotlight mentality. But the bad news is that it seems to be ushering us into the world of self-centeredness...
no...
matter how we try to replicate it, there is nothing more powerful than real life connections. Sometimes, we just need someone with skin to give us a smile, wrap their arms around us, or hold our hand in theirs. In real life, we are forced to practice the skills of real human contact- from the influence of eye contact, to the tenderness of a human embrace. Real life interactions have the potential of exuding a powerful warmth that is so easy to forget when hiding behind the walls of the online world. ( Jesus Himself remembered the significance of this warmth as he touched the lepers, looked into the eyes of sinners, and embraced His friends. He connected with people in a real way and He calls us to replicate His warmth as we engage the world around us.) we get so caught up in the digital that we forget the power of the physical.
one fine day....i saw
a person walking some what near me started just yelling out his every thought, feeling and i turned around to watch ...so are the others around that place, in surprise and shock, Within few minutes he came in attention in actual life, this sounds so strange, yet this is what we are encouraged to do everyday online.
and another time...
I was doing some shopping with my two female friend's couple of weeks, back when a sweet looking man in his early 50's looked over at us, smiled and winked. As tiny as that gesture may have been, there was something about it that was so real.(real cool and charming) his authentic warm smile cheerful look connected us to our heart....
nothing like
potential impacts it may have on real life interactions....
to live a life that says no to vanity and conceit, but instead to humbly consider others as more important than ourselves. Jesus, who was by far the best example of relational etiquette, lived a life that put others first. I wonder why not online ?????
to interact with grace, wisdom, kindness, and humility whether online or off,line ....is by far the best and beautiful in my opinion...( though i can go on and on ...blah blah blah
but my friend
likes only short and sweet

In These Days,Meaning of Love

Love can kill you