Long distance internet friends (15)
bodleing: Is it such a good thing, what can you do when
you know they are hurting?
I like to be there for my friends, I dont like
this feeling of helplessness.
Not much you can do...you know they are hurting?
I like to be there for my friends, I dont like
this feeling of helplessness.
send a note and tell them how you feel, just knowing someone cares how your feeling is in it's self a lot of comfort......
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bodleing: Is it such a good thing, what can you do when
you know they are hurting?
I like to be there for my friends, I dont like
this feeling of helplessness.
you know they are hurting?
I like to be there for my friends, I dont like
this feeling of helplessness.
You can support them, and be there for them, just as you can your local friends. There's not much more you can do for a friend that's hurting who lives near you, either. The only difference is that you can't hold a long-distance friend while they cry.
But I will tell you that I've found virtual hugs and support to be just as comforting as that done in person. There have been times I've needed it much and have gotten it here, and it has helped tremendously.
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jessejess47: Not much you can do... send a note and tell them how you feel, just knowing someone cares how your feeling is in it's self a lot of comfort......
Ditto.
Sometimes being a good listener, a shoulder to cry on is a big deal. Offering a good advise worth a lot too.
But in general I agree with G. - long distance internet friendships leave you with this feeling of helplessness, of not being able to be there for a friend. Don't like it either.
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I value my internet friends very much. I don't know what I'd do at times, if I didn't have them to talk to.
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bodleing: Is it such a good thing, what can you do when
you know they are hurting?
I like to be there for my friends, I dont like
this feeling of helplessness.
you know they are hurting?
I like to be there for my friends, I dont like
this feeling of helplessness.
All we can do is our best I guess
just being there and offering what little support we can is better than not being there at all - I hate these limitations too 
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bodleing: Is it such a good thing, what can you do when
you know they are hurting?
I like to be there for my friends, I dont like
this feeling of helplessness.
you know they are hurting?
I like to be there for my friends, I dont like
this feeling of helplessness.
Hi Gra.........
I talked to a friend of mine on here from Ireland last night and she was feeling down.
I felt the same Gra as if I was in Dublin I would have called over.
However we mailed and IM 'ed and so on and she was a lot more upbeat when we eventually finished.
I do believe we can help, even if we feel we can't
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Sometimes you can...sometimes you can't.....
....both here and in real everyday life, one tends to meet individuals who are somehow immersed in a dark cloud of their own making.....
...some make the effort....and a little bit of help gets them back on their right track and going.....
...others just sap your energies....and however hard you try....they seem to enjoy wallowing in their woes.....at some stage you just decide you had enough and leave them to their destiny.....
....both here and in real everyday life, one tends to meet individuals who are somehow immersed in a dark cloud of their own making.....
...some make the effort....and a little bit of help gets them back on their right track and going.....
...others just sap your energies....and however hard you try....they seem to enjoy wallowing in their woes.....at some stage you just decide you had enough and leave them to their destiny.....
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bodleing: Is it such a good thing, what can you do when
you know they are hurting?
I like to be there for my friends, I dont like
this feeling of helplessness.
you know they are hurting?
I like to be there for my friends, I dont like
this feeling of helplessness.
Just beeing there makes the Difference....I know I have been there....
And with all the Friends I got here on CS gave more support than from my close Friends near by.....
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bodleing: Is it such a good thing, what can you do when
you know they are hurting?
I like to be there for my friends, I dont like
this feeling of helplessness.
Hey boldieng,this is world we cannot change the peoples according our thinkingyou know they are hurting?
I like to be there for my friends, I dont like
this feeling of helplessness.
leave/ ignore them and be continue,try to be happy,dont loss ur joy due to others
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moonlightstar: Just beeing there makes the Difference....I know I have been there....
And with all the Friends I got here on CS gave more support than from my close Friends near by.....
And with all the Friends I got here on CS gave more support than from my close Friends near by.....
i have experienced this also
maybe we have exposed ourself a bit more to internet friends?
not sure
anyway my answer will be the unpopular one but the question is how do i become comfortable when my heart breaks for a person
well i feel a bit better for us both if i pray for the situation and remember that i am grateful to be leaned on-it speaks about the person i have become- and that is in my feeling thanks to my effort and my being open to god, open to change, open to the fact that i needed to be changed.
i pray for gods will in their life and that they will have the courage and strength to carry that out.
i am no one's god i cannot fix things but i can be available and i am trying to learn when to not advise but just be a comfort.
its difficult.
and regarding the dont lose your joy comment-i think you are not losing your joy but feeling compassion and empathy?
and it is a joy that we can feel that for another-
isnt it?
may you have the serenity to accept the things you cannot change
the courage to change the things you can
and heres the hilarious bit
the wisdom to know the difference...
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Sweet Graham
Call them, it means a lot
Call them, it means a lot
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Just do what you can. As far as words go.
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I have always considered myself as someone
who will listen and share my thoughts,
maybe be able to give sound advice and
provide a shoulder to cry on.
I just find it frustrating when I cant be
there for someone who has confided in me,
this has happened more than once since I've
entered the cyber world.
I think there's a huge difference in words
punched out on my keyboard and real life
contact and compassion.
who will listen and share my thoughts,
maybe be able to give sound advice and
provide a shoulder to cry on.
I just find it frustrating when I cant be
there for someone who has confided in me,
this has happened more than once since I've
entered the cyber world.
I think there's a huge difference in words
punched out on my keyboard and real life
contact and compassion.
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bodleing: I have always considered myself as someone
who will listen and share my thoughts,
maybe be able to give sound advice and
provide a shoulder to cry on.
I just find it frustrating when I cant be
there for someone who has confided in me,
this has happened more than once since I've
entered the cyber world.
I think there's a huge difference in words
punched out on my keyboard and real life
contact and compassion.
who will listen and share my thoughts,
maybe be able to give sound advice and
provide a shoulder to cry on.
I just find it frustrating when I cant be
there for someone who has confided in me,
this has happened more than once since I've
entered the cyber world.
I think there's a huge difference in words
punched out on my keyboard and real life
contact and compassion.
I believe you, but do all you can do. Call maybe on the phone.
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you know they are hurting?
I like to be there for my friends, I dont like
this feeling of helplessness.