I think I get it now! (60)
whaaat: she is trying to dogde us! nah, we want the details we ain't going anywhere.
Hi
Hi
Nah, nothing really juicy or exciting. I just made a pest of myself. I annoyed him & reminded him of something in his past. But without knowing exactly what I did wrong, how am I to do better?
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whaaat: she is trying to dogde us! nah, we want the details we ain't going anywhere.
Hi
heyyyyHi
i dont need details i understood perfectly
women dont get sometimes that feelings arent facts
they are feelings sometimes magnified due to fear
may people are crippled or at least affected by it men too i guess
she will find balance
hopefully before she kills herself or some poor man
see you gals later
geez its only monday and we are in it deep girls
there should be a weekend de-briefing thread for thos that had dates
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sweetowen: Well, it was fabulous... until I messed up. Then it sucked.
ooooooooo sorry to hear that.
Has the anaylizing thing got to do with it?
We all analyse things, i have noticed the more u grow older the worse it gets, its the past experiences we i've gone through that makes us like that.
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sweetowen: Nah, nothing really juicy or exciting. I just made a pest of myself. I annoyed him & reminded him of something in his past. But without knowing exactly what I did wrong, how am I to do better?
when youre in enuf pain you will
stop beatin yourself up criminys sakes
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mindfful: heyyyy
i dont need details i understood perfectly
women dont get sometimes that feelings arent facts
they are feelings sometimes magnified due to fear
may people are crippled or at least affected by it men too i guess
she will find balance
hopefully before she kills herself or some poor man
see you gals later
geez its only monday and we are in it deep girls
there should be a weekend de-briefing thread for thos that had dates
i dont need details i understood perfectly
women dont get sometimes that feelings arent facts
they are feelings sometimes magnified due to fear
may people are crippled or at least affected by it men too i guess
she will find balance
hopefully before she kills herself or some poor man
see you gals later
geez its only monday and we are in it deep girls
there should be a weekend de-briefing thread for thos that had dates
i just got it now. Sorry to know things went bad. Its part of our lives.
Ok sweety see ya later.
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sweetowen: Thank you Snuggs. Much appreciated.
For one thing hon, if he says ...you "should" do this or that, it should be a clue that the relationship is going to have some controlling aspects.
I learned a long time ago that stress words such as: must, have to and should, create a feeling of
in a person.I don't know why he said you "should" do something but it might have been better if he said...."I would suggest, etc"
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Snuggs09: For one thing hon, if he says ...you "should" do this or that, it should be a clue that the relationship is going to have some controlling aspects.
I learned a long time ago that stress words such as: must, have to and should, create a feeling of in a person.
I don't know why he said you "should" do something but it might have been better if he said...."I would suggest, etc"
I learned a long time ago that stress words such as: must, have to and should, create a feeling of in a person.
I don't know why he said you "should" do something but it might have been better if he said...."I would suggest, etc"
"I will not should myself today"
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sweetowen: I've often wondered why it is that we women seem to analyze everything men to TO DEATH. I can't stand when I start to analyze everything. But with events that have happened to me over the weekend (I'll not go into full detail here), I've come to understand, at least partially, why we do!
We tend to over-analyze because when we do something wrong, men clam up & won't talk to let us know exactly what it is that we've done wrong. If we don't know, we can't work on changing it, now can we?
Am I the only one who feels like this?
We tend to over-analyze because when we do something wrong, men clam up & won't talk to let us know exactly what it is that we've done wrong. If we don't know, we can't work on changing it, now can we?
Am I the only one who feels like this?
I think its a Catch 22, SO...
I think men can clam up because sometimes they are afraid that we WILL start to analyse them, and pick, pick pick away at their brains..
I started a thread about analysing only a couple of days ago, because I realised I was analysing too much. Ive decided to stop, and just enjoy what is thrown at me without exploring it too much..
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avecaim: "I will not should myself today"
Wouldn't that be great if we could stop saying to ourself, I should do the laundry, I should go on a diet, etc.Good idea AVE
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sweetowen: I've often wondered why it is that we women seem to analyze everything men to TO DEATH. I can't stand when I start to analyze everything. But with events that have happened to me over the weekend (I'll not go into full detail here), I've come to understand, at least partially, why we do!
We tend to over-analyze because when we do something wrong, men clam up & won't talk to let us know exactly what it is that we've done wrong. If we don't know, we can't work on changing it, now can we?
Am I the only one who feels like this?
We tend to over-analyze because when we do something wrong, men clam up & won't talk to let us know exactly what it is that we've done wrong. If we don't know, we can't work on changing it, now can we?
Am I the only one who feels like this?
Then do yourself a favour op...
Stop analyzing your op on analyzing because if you analyze it you will see that your being too analitical about this subject.
HTH.
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petalbabe: I think its a Catch 22, SO...
I think men can clam up because sometimes they are afraid that we WILL start to analyse them, and pick, pick pick away at their brains..
I started a thread about analysing only a couple of days ago, because I realised I was analysing too much. Ive decided to stop, and just enjoy what is thrown at me without exploring it too much..
glad to see that the lights are starting to get turned on .........I think men can clam up because sometimes they are afraid that we WILL start to analyse them, and pick, pick pick away at their brains..
I started a thread about analysing only a couple of days ago, because I realised I was analysing too much. Ive decided to stop, and just enjoy what is thrown at me without exploring it too much..
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A new relationship is wonderful but since we are human, it has its bumps here and there.
Just keep focused on the main goal so the potholes don't seem too large.
<---Cs worse philiosopher
Just keep focused on the main goal so the potholes don't seem too large.
<---Cs worse philiosopher
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I hope you have added the removal of all the "ISMS" that most hold as being so important, for if you haven't you're realization won't hold the test of time.
I am saddened that your choice of "ISMS" has led you to men who "clam-up", perhaps that indeed is where the mistake was made. It is a very simple one many of us have made, and the incredible freedom and power one revels in when we finally realize we are not responsible for others actions, so that they can no longer hurt us, will see all those controlling men/women
disapper from our minds eyes, as we will control our own joyous destiny.
The hard part is to find another whose strengths lie in their laughter, and their giving mettle, allowing "things or parts" no further power.
I hope the joy you experienced continues as you realize for the first time you may have truly met yourself.
Take care and smile constantly, as it confuses the grumpy and arrogant.
I am saddened that your choice of "ISMS" has led you to men who "clam-up", perhaps that indeed is where the mistake was made. It is a very simple one many of us have made, and the incredible freedom and power one revels in when we finally realize we are not responsible for others actions, so that they can no longer hurt us, will see all those controlling men/women
disapper from our minds eyes, as we will control our own joyous destiny.
The hard part is to find another whose strengths lie in their laughter, and their giving mettle, allowing "things or parts" no further power.
I hope the joy you experienced continues as you realize for the first time you may have truly met yourself.
Take care and smile constantly, as it confuses the grumpy and arrogant.
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mbcasey: A new relationship is wonderful but since we are human, it has its bumps here and there.
Just keep focused on the main goal so the potholes don't seem too large.
<---Cs worse philiosopher
Just keep focused on the main goal so the potholes don't seem too large.
<---Cs worse philiosopher
Can you throw me a rope
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In response to: I've often wondered why it is that we women seem to analyze everything men to TO DEATH. I can't stand when I start to analyze everything. But with events that have happened to me over the weekend (I'll not go into full detail here), I've come to understand, at least partially, why we do!
We tend to over-analyze because when we do something wrong, men clam up & won't talk to let us know exactly what it is that we've done wrong. If we don't know, we can't work on changing it, now can we?
Am I the only one who feels like this?
We tend to over-analyze because when we do something wrong, men clam up & won't talk to let us know exactly what it is that we've done wrong. If we don't know, we can't work on changing it, now can we?
Am I the only one who feels like this?
No, you are not the only one. I recently started dating someone from out of my town, about an hour away actually. That is not a great distance. At least, I didn't think so. He would say things like 'I would never usually date someone so far away, but I like you a lot'. That seemed so sweet and made me feel special. We really hit it off, sharing secrets, long phone conversations, etc... Suddenly, out of the blue, he went cold. He said the distance was too difficult, he felt guilty about it, blah, blah, blah. I really liked him, though, so I tried to understand how we could come up with a solution. In the end, I think he just doesn't know WHAT he wants, and when I look back a little, there were clues. At the time I ignored them because, like you, I didn't want to over anyalize. Boy, did I learn a lesson!
Good luck in future dates!
Tamra.
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sweetowen: Nah, nothing really juicy or exciting. I just made a pest of myself. I annoyed him & reminded him of something in his past. But without knowing exactly what I did wrong, how am I to do better?
AAAAAAAAA Iam sorry dear just read this now
Say sorry to him and give him sometime to cool down. Such things happen don't blame youself too much, there must be something thta lead u to do it.
Since u admit it was your fault, nothing left axcept to let him know your sorry.
My thoughts with u
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avecaim: Can you throw me a rope
With or without a noose?
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AnnBrown: No, you are not the only one. I recently started dating someone from out of my town, about an hour away actually. That is not a great distance. At least, I didn't think so. He would say things like 'I would never usually date someone so far away, but I like you a lot'. That seemed so sweet and made me feel special. We really hit it off, sharing secrets, long phone conversations, etc... Suddenly, out of the blue, he went cold. He said the distance was too difficult, he felt guilty about it, blah, blah, blah. I really liked him, though, so I tried to understand how we could come up with a solution. In the end, I think he just doesn't know WHAT he wants, and when I look back a little, there were clues. At the time I ignored them because, like you, I didn't want to over anyalize. Boy, did I learn a lesson!Good luck in future dates!
Tamra.
Tamra.
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AnnBrown: No, you are not the only one. I recently started dating someone from out of my town, about an hour away actually. That is not a great distance. At least, I didn't think so. He would say things like 'I would never usually date someone so far away, but I like you a lot'. That seemed so sweet and made me feel special. We really hit it off, sharing secrets, long phone conversations, etc... Suddenly, out of the blue, he went cold. He said the distance was too difficult, he felt guilty about it, blah, blah, blah. I really liked him, though, so I tried to understand how we could come up with a solution. In the end, I think he just doesn't know WHAT he wants, and when I look back a little, there were clues. At the time I ignored them because, like you, I didn't want to over anyalize. Boy, did I learn a lesson!
Good luck in future dates!
Tamra.
Good luck in future dates!
Tamra.
Sorry about your predicament, but as one who has had a relationship an hour away, and one that was 11 hours away. An hour is really nothing at all, especially for the right person. I wish you well.
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