Good old fashioned love (19)
Sommergirl: I was driving in my car one day shortly after the Christmas Holidays. Returning from a visit to the city....I love the city....in small doses.
Thinking back, on the fast track, the busy streets, people rushing... no one laughing, good old Chicago... A great place to visit, but as I said not my idea of a great place for someone such as myself to live....small doses!
I was thinking about this dating site, pondering the days of my youth when all my aunts and uncles were still alive, my father was alive...the family unit I was raised in was strong and proud and though we had very little in means of material things we certainly new good old fashioned love.
Those days belonged to women who still believed the man was the head of the house...my grandmother never drove a car, my grandfather was a logger and my mother worked in the lunch line at my school...I was never ashamed to be in a small town where the clicks and judgement of being somewhere below middle class or perhaps just in the middle was looked at as white trash.
No I knew I had love all around me, a strong support of women who loved there man.
My grandparents on both sides shared over 60 something years of there life as one....where did this love go?
The men my aunts married, were dedicated and committed to there family.. Divorce was a nasty word....my grandparents were viewed as the mentors of what genuine love is supposed to look like.
So, as I was driving I had this question pop into my thoughts, what happened to me?
I am alone, single mother, divorced...wish I wasn't but it is what it is.
Have you ever felt as a part of you never left the years gone by, and the present is a place where you only exist.
Thinking back, on the fast track, the busy streets, people rushing... no one laughing, good old Chicago... A great place to visit, but as I said not my idea of a great place for someone such as myself to live....small doses!
I was thinking about this dating site, pondering the days of my youth when all my aunts and uncles were still alive, my father was alive...the family unit I was raised in was strong and proud and though we had very little in means of material things we certainly new good old fashioned love.
Those days belonged to women who still believed the man was the head of the house...my grandmother never drove a car, my grandfather was a logger and my mother worked in the lunch line at my school...I was never ashamed to be in a small town where the clicks and judgement of being somewhere below middle class or perhaps just in the middle was looked at as white trash.
No I knew I had love all around me, a strong support of women who loved there man.
My grandparents on both sides shared over 60 something years of there life as one....where did this love go?
The men my aunts married, were dedicated and committed to there family.. Divorce was a nasty word....my grandparents were viewed as the mentors of what genuine love is supposed to look like.
So, as I was driving I had this question pop into my thoughts, what happened to me?
I am alone, single mother, divorced...wish I wasn't but it is what it is.
Have you ever felt as a part of you never left the years gone by, and the present is a place where you only exist.
I sometimes feel like I live in my own time and world.
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I hear ya! The past is the past, the future belongs to no-one. You only have the present of the present. Carpe diem. 
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Kattsrose: I sometimes feel like I live in my own time and world.
Ja, For me it is as though I am a part of that up bringing but the world around us has changed so , that It is not so familiar in comparison to the way I was raised....therefore I feel left behind.
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PrimerosPasos: I hear ya! The past is the past, the future belongs to no-one. You only have the present of the present. Carpe diem.
Ummm ja I have heard that somewhere before...how true, indeed!
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Sommergirl: I was driving in my car one day shortly after the Christmas Holidays. Returning from a visit to the city....I love the city....in small doses.
Thinking back, on the fast track, the busy streets, people rushing... no one laughing, good old Chicago... A great place to visit, but as I said not my idea of a great place for someone such as myself to live....small doses!
I was thinking about this dating site, pondering the days of my youth when all my aunts and uncles were still alive, my father was alive...the family unit I was raised in was strong and proud and though we had very little in means of material things we certainly new good old fashioned love.
Those days belonged to women who still believed the man was the head of the house...my grandmother never drove a car, my grandfather was a logger and my mother worked in the lunch line at my school...I was never ashamed to be in a small town where the clicks and judgement of being somewhere below middle class or perhaps just in the middle was looked at as white trash.
No I knew I had love all around me, a strong support of women who loved there man.
My grandparents on both sides shared over 60 something years of there life as one....where did this love go?
The men my aunts married, were dedicated and committed to there family.. Divorce was a nasty word....my grandparents were viewed as the mentors of what genuine love is supposed to look like.
So, as I was driving I had this question pop into my thoughts, what happened to me?
I am alone, single mother, divorced...wish I wasn't but it is what it is.
Have you ever felt as a part of you never left the years gone by, and the present is a place where you only exist.
Thinking back, on the fast track, the busy streets, people rushing... no one laughing, good old Chicago... A great place to visit, but as I said not my idea of a great place for someone such as myself to live....small doses!
I was thinking about this dating site, pondering the days of my youth when all my aunts and uncles were still alive, my father was alive...the family unit I was raised in was strong and proud and though we had very little in means of material things we certainly new good old fashioned love.
Those days belonged to women who still believed the man was the head of the house...my grandmother never drove a car, my grandfather was a logger and my mother worked in the lunch line at my school...I was never ashamed to be in a small town where the clicks and judgement of being somewhere below middle class or perhaps just in the middle was looked at as white trash.
No I knew I had love all around me, a strong support of women who loved there man.
My grandparents on both sides shared over 60 something years of there life as one....where did this love go?
The men my aunts married, were dedicated and committed to there family.. Divorce was a nasty word....my grandparents were viewed as the mentors of what genuine love is supposed to look like.
So, as I was driving I had this question pop into my thoughts, what happened to me?
I am alone, single mother, divorced...wish I wasn't but it is what it is.
Have you ever felt as a part of you never left the years gone by, and the present is a place where you only exist.
Yes I have, Sommergirl. I often feel the old fashioned qualities I have & the level of dedication I possess, are really not for "the times" today. Relationships have become a hobby/discardable...it seems. Pick-up lines are viewed as courtship and trust is always suspect. The depth of ones commitment is dictated by the level of one's comfort zone. I sometimes wonder if we are looking for love or a series of "lists".
There are things I have said I will always do for the person I end up spending my life with and that doesn't happen when I actually meet her, but right now. I believe in it's one's attitude and that will over-flow in action. People behave how they think. Many can act in many ways, but all can only live one way.
I enjoyed reading your retro/insight.
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"Have you ever felt as a part of you never left the years gone by, and the present is a place where you only exist.?"
That thought occasionally pops into my head too .....but being eterally optomistic - I know that some day my final mate is gonna smack right into me without warning. It's just a matter of time.
In the mean time, go out and enjoy your freedom
That thought occasionally pops into my head too .....but being eterally optomistic - I know that some day my final mate is gonna smack right into me without warning. It's just a matter of time.
In the mean time, go out and enjoy your freedom
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lovelly thread sommergirl (from one sommer/summergirl to another.
Sometimes for me I do find that to be single can get lonely, but not for the want of not wanting to be alone, but the shear fact of wanting to share my life. (Hope that makes Sense.
I have i suppose old fashioned values, but wrapped with alot of understanding that life is forever changing.
Ive been single for 2 years only been out on a few dates, as i dont have girlfriends to just cruise out with for cooffee, see a band, share funny times, in order that i could possbly meet a special man, as all my girlfriends are married some still in controlling relationships.
I have quite a few guy friends that I go motor cross with and take off for magical weekends, (just friends) and band friends that I go and see when they play. Probably why I"m here.lol
But you know what, I"m so grateful with what I have and acheived and especially the wonderful son and people, who I have in my world.
Its Just, (my theory) that beautiful women like us and many more, that our time will come, and when it does, because it will, we will least expect it..
Love is not for looking it, but one day, you just may stumble across it..and when you, do, he will be there to pick you up and hold you and carry you into the life and love you have always wanted.
Sometimes for me I do find that to be single can get lonely, but not for the want of not wanting to be alone, but the shear fact of wanting to share my life. (Hope that makes Sense.
I have i suppose old fashioned values, but wrapped with alot of understanding that life is forever changing.
Ive been single for 2 years only been out on a few dates, as i dont have girlfriends to just cruise out with for cooffee, see a band, share funny times, in order that i could possbly meet a special man, as all my girlfriends are married some still in controlling relationships.
I have quite a few guy friends that I go motor cross with and take off for magical weekends, (just friends) and band friends that I go and see when they play. Probably why I"m here.lol
But you know what, I"m so grateful with what I have and acheived and especially the wonderful son and people, who I have in my world.
Its Just, (my theory) that beautiful women like us and many more, that our time will come, and when it does, because it will, we will least expect it..
Love is not for looking it, but one day, you just may stumble across it..and when you, do, he will be there to pick you up and hold you and carry you into the life and love you have always wanted.
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oh i wish i had the love that my ancestors had but all i am left with are these delicious tacos .
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sophiasummer: lovelly thread sommergirl (from one sommer/summergirl to another.
Sometimes for me I do find that to be single can get lonely, but not for the want of not wanting to be alone, but the shear fact of wanting to share my life. (Hope that makes Sense.
I have i suppose old fashioned values, but wrapped with alot of understanding that life is forever changing.
Ive been single for 2 years only been out on a few dates, as i dont have girlfriends to just cruise out with for cooffee, see a band, share funny times, in order that i could possbly meet a special man, as all my girlfriends are married some still in controlling relationships.
I have quite a few guy friends that I go motor cross with and take off for magical weekends, (just friends) and band friends that I go and see when they play. Probably why I"m here.lol
But you know what, I"m so grateful with what I have and acheived and especially the wonderful son and people, who I have in my world.
Its Just, (my theory) that beautiful women like us and many more, that our time will come, and when it does, because it will, we will least expect it..
Love is not for looking it, but one day, you just may stumble across it..and when you, do, he will be there to pick you up and hold you and carry you into the life and love you have always wanted.
Sometimes for me I do find that to be single can get lonely, but not for the want of not wanting to be alone, but the shear fact of wanting to share my life. (Hope that makes Sense.
I have i suppose old fashioned values, but wrapped with alot of understanding that life is forever changing.
Ive been single for 2 years only been out on a few dates, as i dont have girlfriends to just cruise out with for cooffee, see a band, share funny times, in order that i could possbly meet a special man, as all my girlfriends are married some still in controlling relationships.
I have quite a few guy friends that I go motor cross with and take off for magical weekends, (just friends) and band friends that I go and see when they play. Probably why I"m here.lol
But you know what, I"m so grateful with what I have and acheived and especially the wonderful son and people, who I have in my world.
Its Just, (my theory) that beautiful women like us and many more, that our time will come, and when it does, because it will, we will least expect it..
Love is not for looking it, but one day, you just may stumble across it..and when you, do, he will be there to pick you up and hold you and carry you into the life and love you have always wanted.
Very lovely....Thank you!
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It's all a matter of choice, as to how you want to live your life. You can't live the lives of others for them, nor can you really influence their decisions.
Get out of the city, cut off your cable/satellite, get to know your neighbours. Hollywood is BS, as is most of all the other crap on TV.
Spend your time with those you care about, and want in your life, never mind the rest. Life's all too short, and there are no mulligans.
Get out of the city, cut off your cable/satellite, get to know your neighbours. Hollywood is BS, as is most of all the other crap on TV.
Spend your time with those you care about, and want in your life, never mind the rest. Life's all too short, and there are no mulligans.
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It's all a matter of choice, as to how you want to live your life. You can't live the lives of others for them, nor can you really influence their decisions.
Get out of the city, cut off your cable/satellite, get to know your neighbours. Hollywood is BS, as is most of all the other crap on TV.
Spend your time with those you care about, and want in your life, never mind the rest. Life's all too short, and there are no mulligans.[/quote
Yepp indeed it is...
Get out of the city, cut off your cable/satellite, get to know your neighbours. Hollywood is BS, as is most of all the other crap on TV.
Spend your time with those you care about, and want in your life, never mind the rest. Life's all too short, and there are no mulligans.[/quote
Yepp indeed it is...
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sophiasummer: lovelly thread sommergirl (from one sommer/summergirl to another.
Sometimes for me I do find that to be single can get lonely, but not for the want of not wanting to be alone, but the shear fact of wanting to share my life. (Hope that makes Sense.
I have i suppose old fashioned values, but wrapped with alot of understanding that life is forever changing.
Ive been single for 2 years only been out on a few dates, as i dont have girlfriends to just cruise out with for cooffee, see a band, share funny times, in order that i could possbly meet a special man, as all my girlfriends are married some still in controlling relationships.
I have quite a few guy friends that I go motor cross with and take off for magical weekends, (just friends) and band friends that I go and see when they play. Probably why I"m here.lol
But you know what, I"m so grateful with what I have and acheived and especially the wonderful son and people, who I have in my world.
Its Just, (my theory) that beautiful women like us and many more, that our time will come, and when it does, because it will, we will least expect it..
Love is not for looking it, but one day, you just may stumble across it..and when you, do, he will be there to pick you up and hold you and carry you into the life and love you have always wanted.
Sometimes for me I do find that to be single can get lonely, but not for the want of not wanting to be alone, but the shear fact of wanting to share my life. (Hope that makes Sense.
I have i suppose old fashioned values, but wrapped with alot of understanding that life is forever changing.
Ive been single for 2 years only been out on a few dates, as i dont have girlfriends to just cruise out with for cooffee, see a band, share funny times, in order that i could possbly meet a special man, as all my girlfriends are married some still in controlling relationships.
I have quite a few guy friends that I go motor cross with and take off for magical weekends, (just friends) and band friends that I go and see when they play. Probably why I"m here.lol
But you know what, I"m so grateful with what I have and acheived and especially the wonderful son and people, who I have in my world.
Its Just, (my theory) that beautiful women like us and many more, that our time will come, and when it does, because it will, we will least expect it..
Love is not for looking it, but one day, you just may stumble across it..and when you, do, he will be there to pick you up and hold you and carry you into the life and love you have always wanted.
Hope loves finds you when you least expect it.
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Sommergirl: I was thinking about this dating site, pondering the days of my youth when all my aunts and uncles were still alive, my father was alive...the family unit I was raised in was strong and proud and though we had very little in means of material things we certainly new good old fashioned love.
Those days belonged to women who still believed the man was the head of the house...my grandmother never drove a car, my grandfather was a logger and my mother worked in the lunch line at my school...I was never ashamed to be in a small town where the clicks and judgement of being somewhere below middle class or perhaps just in the middle was looked at as white trash.
No I knew I had love all around me, a strong support of women who loved there man.
My grandparents on both sides shared over 60 something years of there life as one....where did this love go?
The men my aunts married, were dedicated and committed to there family.. Divorce was a nasty word....my grandparents were viewed as the mentors of what genuine love is supposed to look like.
Those days belonged to women who still believed the man was the head of the house...my grandmother never drove a car, my grandfather was a logger and my mother worked in the lunch line at my school...I was never ashamed to be in a small town where the clicks and judgement of being somewhere below middle class or perhaps just in the middle was looked at as white trash.
No I knew I had love all around me, a strong support of women who loved there man.
My grandparents on both sides shared over 60 something years of there life as one....where did this love go?
The men my aunts married, were dedicated and committed to there family.. Divorce was a nasty word....my grandparents were viewed as the mentors of what genuine love is supposed to look like.
Yes these good old days full of love
But ... there is a but ... my grandmother has never been allowed to go outside the house without being accompanied by one of her parents. She married the son of her parent's friend. She was teaching piano at her house. She would never go anywhere without her husband. At those times, she even was not allowed to have a bank account on her own. She had four children, 2 of them with only 11 months difference in age. Of course, she wasn't allowed to learn to drive. My grandfather loved to travel which he did quite a lot, sometimes with one of his children. My grandmother stayed home to take care of the house and of the children. She knew her husband was cheating on her, but if she dare to complain about it, he would become violent.
She was very unhappy but what could she do? Divorce was indeed a nasty word. And she did not want to abandon her children.
For the outside, they appeared to be a nice loving couple. They both were great grandparents to me.
After they both died, I discovered my grandmother's diary, well hidden.
That is the but ...
It doesn't mean I do agree with all the new ways to raise children. But we, women, are now allowed to live our life the way we want. This is a precious thing that we should appreciate more.
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I believe we can do it all again.. in our own little world.. with our own families / kids.. If we teach them these values once more.. we can try to re-socialise our future generations..
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nicki_love: I believe we can do it all again.. in our own little world.. with our own families / kids.. If we teach them these values once more.. we can try to re-socialise our future generations..
Do you truly believed that is true . With today's P C world
where you can not smack your children for being naughty.
nor can you chastise them in public!
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adamisk: oh i wish i had the love that my ancestors had but all i am left with are these delicious tacos .
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Thinking back, on the fast track, the busy streets, people rushing... no one laughing, good old Chicago... A great place to visit, but as I said not my idea of a great place for someone such as myself to live....small doses!
I was thinking about this dating site, pondering the days of my youth when all my aunts and uncles were still alive, my father was alive...the family unit I was raised in was strong and proud and though we had very little in means of material things we certainly new good old fashioned love.
Those days belonged to women who still believed the man was the head of the house...my grandmother never drove a car, my grandfather was a logger and my mother worked in the lunch line at my school...I was never ashamed to be in a small town where the clicks and judgement of being somewhere below middle class or perhaps just in the middle was looked at as white trash.
No I knew I had love all around me, a strong support of women who loved there man.
My grandparents on both sides shared over 60 something years of there life as one....where did this love go?
The men my aunts married, were dedicated and committed to there family.. Divorce was a nasty word....my grandparents were viewed as the mentors of what genuine love is supposed to look like.
So, as I was driving I had this question pop into my thoughts, what happened to me?
I am alone, single mother, divorced...wish I wasn't but it is what it is.
Have you ever felt as a part of you never left the years gone by, and the present is a place where you only exist.