Your True Self! ( Archived) (621)

mindfful: i says after these are my thoughts and then it says thanks for taking the time to read it at the end

im not sure what happened here

i tried to overlook it as i am familiar with the material...

however all day people post here and note the source

this is a person who has a career and is quite computer savvy so i dont feel anyone was beating her up or expecting some level of participation that she would have been innocently ignorant of.

i am sad it turned out the way it did- as far as her not owning her choice and also a bit disappointed at the hypocrisy in her statement at which point apparently she stormed out
since i have seen her and been the victim of her blatent unkindness personally

so to come in and do this and then play victim and take her toys and leave the sandbox cuz we're big meanies makes me sad

im concerned that she is hurting and now thats not gonna be helped. here, anyway

thewall2: Look...nothing people say is original..but somehow we grab on to things we read and say..''Yes..that's me..or I identify with that''...and we apply to it ourselves and it becomes a part of us.

I know I DO...

Big deal..even if she did't write it,I'd rather see threads like this sometimes than ''Make some rhymes ...you slimes..'' or some silly nonsense like that.

At least there's substance,and if it helped even one person,I feel it was worth the read..

So plageurized or not...I THINK she deserves the credit for posting it..

JOB well done...IMO.

Justme4uok: I don't usually start many threads, however after taking a really hard look at myself and seeing how others interact on this site and my own behavoir, I just wanted to share the following thoughts.

Everybody wants to be loved for who they really are - beneath the masks they wear, the impressions they try to make and the mind games they play. But how do we go about doing that?

Many of the images we have of love and romance come from movies, television and romance novels. They're all about pursuit and capture, dominance and submission. Once the guy gets the girl, the movie ends. That leaves us with a considerably incomplete picture of love as it is in the real world.

At the start of the relationship, we are swept away by emotions and fantasies and expect the other person to fulfill them. When those expectations aren't met and we begin to see the imperfections and differences in our partner, we walk away. We search for the "perfect" partner, not knowing that he/she can never be enough because he/she will always be different from what we expect.

The beautiful thing about a romantic relationship is that love isn't found or fallen into -- it is co-created. Yet there are countless people who search for love as if it belongs to someone else. We don't find love. We find one another and allow love to grow between us.

Your partner has to get to know the real you -- what you're like when you're tired, angry, frustrated, elated or talking to your Mom on the phone. They have to love you as you are, not as they hope you might be. Anything less won't last.

Have you seen or read Bridget Jones's Diary? There's one scene where Mark Darcy tells Bridget "I like you, just as you are." She is floored. Why such a strong reaction to a simple comment? Because Mark is telling her that he really sees her and he likes what he sees. He didn't say he'd like her ten pounds lighter, or a little more sophisticated, or prettier, or better read. He likes her as she is, unconditionally. She doesn't have to try and impress him, he's already impressed.

A couple's love is tested through conflict and when they emerge from that still wanting to be together, they have proved that differences can be a good thing. Although many of us have the notion that differences are a dreadful thing, they actually open the way to true intimacy. They give us the opportunity to value how different we are from the one we love and use those differences to grow and change.

Knowing that you are loved for who you are lets you relax and let your guard down. It lets you be honest without fear of rejection, and frankly, it feels great.

We need to love others for whom they are if we desire to be loved in the same way. As two people look deeper and deeper into the relationship, they will find that the emotional intimacy between them expands so that there is more room for both of them. And remember that if you're not being loved for who you really are, you're not being loved at all. (JMO) Thanks in
advance for taking the time to read this.

Barrellofart: This is probably a great example of a situation where a person's response makes all the difference in the world.

Do you:

A) Get pissed that someone thought you were plagiarizing

OR

B) Be sorry that you accidentally posted something that made it look like you were taking credit for another person's work, and be sincerely apologetic that you failed to give that person due credit.

Costapacket: I didnt read all that so ill just say Hi.....