Red Flags (659)
chris27292729: Are you starting another argument????
What?
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Ccincy: What?
I think you want to start an argument .by attacking the professor,i wouldn't help you this time.-
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chris27292729: I think you want to start an argument .by attacking the professor,i wouldn't help you this time.-
You're silly.
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Make Love Not War, baby
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felixis99: Make Love Not War, baby
I agree!!
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Uniquemom61: I agree!!
ya and we can all go out to eat - there's enough beef in the picture thread to feed the whole forum
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I enjoy being silly sometimes.Don't you???
Ccincy: You're silly.
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felixis99: Make Love Not War, baby
Funny, I was thinking the same thing. Can't we all just get along?
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chris27292729: I enjoy being silly sometimes.Don't you???
Yes I do.Do you?
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....even grampa seems awful chipper lately....
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Ambrose2007: Hi, LG!
I tolerated the negative characterizations because I thought there was some justice to them, and because I'm someone who wants to take just criticism and use it to improve myself. I was rarely angered or offended by these remarks. More saddened to think this person thought of me in that way. Ultimately, though, your mate must hold a respectful and high opinion of you. If they make fair criticisms, and you fail to change his or her mind that you've improved in ways that those criticism are no longer so fair, then it's time to reconsider your relationship, I think.
I'd like to believe, Lang, that if I wrote a critical letter to you that my criticisms would be presently compassionately and fairly, and that they would be balanced by recognitions of both your good qualities and my not-so-great qualities as well. Balanced in that I would acknowledge my own negative contributions to our relationship.
Yeah, I think you have a point of not making too much of Red Flags - because it's likely we all have them in someone's perspective. Perhaps it's a matter of identifying our own red flags - the qualities that we know from experience and introspection aren't well-suited to us? And you're right - a lot of things can be negotiated.
I tolerated the negative characterizations because I thought there was some justice to them, and because I'm someone who wants to take just criticism and use it to improve myself. I was rarely angered or offended by these remarks. More saddened to think this person thought of me in that way. Ultimately, though, your mate must hold a respectful and high opinion of you. If they make fair criticisms, and you fail to change his or her mind that you've improved in ways that those criticism are no longer so fair, then it's time to reconsider your relationship, I think.
I'd like to believe, Lang, that if I wrote a critical letter to you that my criticisms would be presently compassionately and fairly, and that they would be balanced by recognitions of both your good qualities and my not-so-great qualities as well. Balanced in that I would acknowledge my own negative contributions to our relationship.
Yeah, I think you have a point of not making too much of Red Flags - because it's likely we all have them in someone's perspective. Perhaps it's a matter of identifying our own red flags - the qualities that we know from experience and introspection aren't well-suited to us? And you're right - a lot of things can be negotiated.
I think that what you've written of your experiences makes alot of sense ....... I think that being in a relationship there has to be the trust and vulnerability to be open to change and improvement when our partner tells us things to improve ourselves. Being accountable to each other is vital, but I think it also has to be tempered with a cool head/heart and spoken and intended with love (easier typed then lived!!!) but I think all in all its the actual intent that needs to be examined. Just because someone thinks something - it doesn't make it the truth so I think that we need to examine for ourselves and either accept or reject the instruction.
The respect definitely needs to be there - for when contempt enters into our interactions that is the slow death.
Our own self recognition of our personal red flags - yikes, itsn't that a never ending self examination? We need to temper our examination with some self compassion as well.
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I see a red flag in the future of this baby....16 lbs at birth.
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holy gee willikurs...
if i get up in the morning and don't look in the mirror i won't feel like i have to puke...
if i get up in the morning and don't look in the mirror i won't feel like i have to puke...
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montecito: I see a red flag in the future of this baby....16 lbs at birth.
OOPS....hang on...I'll get the right video
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montecito: I see a red flag in the future of this baby....16 lbs at birth.
16 lbs???
That's what Ella is now at 6 months and I don't think Meg got that big until she was a year old.
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Hope I got the right one
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Ccincy: Yes I do.Do you?
Never!
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