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Nature123: Why do some people but a distance on when they are searching for a partner.
I know some people don't want long distance relationships,
But does it really matter how far they are away.
I have Looked at some profiles and when you go to contact them they have restrictions on. I had one in particular that I wanted to try and get to know but he has restrictions on.
No way over that hurdle.
I think distance is the most imature excuse you can use to say ps: I'm not attracted to you.I know some people don't want long distance relationships,
But does it really matter how far they are away.
I have Looked at some profiles and when you go to contact them they have restrictions on. I had one in particular that I wanted to try and get to know but he has restrictions on.
No way over that hurdle.
ie: if you like someone, how could distance separate the magnetic force drawing you together?
daggyone: I think distance is the most imature excuse you can use to say ps: I'm not attracted to you.
ie: if you like someone, how could distance separate the magnetic force drawing you together?
ie: if you like someone, how could distance separate the magnetic force drawing you together?
Jeez Daggy,
I think not. If realistically you know that you cannot/ are not prepared to move, then you'd be looking for friendship within a few kms.
and I might say, the reason that I am not going to have a relationship with anyone who lives further than that... ever again... is because I would like some company, not just once a month or two... but someone close that can say, hey, lets go for a walk, coffee etc... and
I dont want to move as I have grandchildren very close by... and there is nothing I want more than to be involved in seeing them grow up, doing little milestones, and being able to be there for them... lets not forget my kids, and my family and friends, and so, NO.. I am not prepared to give up all of that for someone who may or not turn out to be my respective " the one"... I am not delusional... well, not today, anyways... lol.
I would be willing to move for the right man,
As you have skype to stay in touch with the family and watch the wee ones grow,
And Australia is only small the longest flight would be 3 hours so visiting would be no trouble.
I just think people put too much pressure on them selves or look for excuses not to find love.
There is always a way to have both.
As you have skype to stay in touch with the family and watch the wee ones grow,
And Australia is only small the longest flight would be 3 hours so visiting would be no trouble.
I just think people put too much pressure on them selves or look for excuses not to find love.
There is always a way to have both.
Merriweather: Jeez Daggy,
I think not. If realistically you know that you cannot/ are not prepared to move, then you'd be looking for friendship within a few kms.
and I might say, the reason that I am not going to have a relationship with anyone who lives further than that... ever again... is because I would like some company, not just once a month or two... but someone close that can say, hey, lets go for a walk, coffee etc... and
I dont want to move as I have grandchildren very close by... and there is nothing I want more than to be involved in seeing them grow up, doing little milestones, and being able to be there for them... lets not forget my kids, and my family and friends, and so, NO.. I am not prepared to give up all of that for someone who may or not turn out to be my respective " the one"... I am not delusional... well, not today, anyways... lol.
Have you been to see a dr lately Merri?I think not. If realistically you know that you cannot/ are not prepared to move, then you'd be looking for friendship within a few kms.
and I might say, the reason that I am not going to have a relationship with anyone who lives further than that... ever again... is because I would like some company, not just once a month or two... but someone close that can say, hey, lets go for a walk, coffee etc... and
I dont want to move as I have grandchildren very close by... and there is nothing I want more than to be involved in seeing them grow up, doing little milestones, and being able to be there for them... lets not forget my kids, and my family and friends, and so, NO.. I am not prepared to give up all of that for someone who may or not turn out to be my respective " the one"... I am not delusional... well, not today, anyways... lol.
You have all these road blocks placed in front of your happiness and excuses justifying them, this is sad for you
Nature123: I would be willing to move for the right man,
As you have skype to stay in touch with the family and watch the wee ones grow,
And Australia is only small the longest flight would be 3 hours so visiting would be no trouble.
I just think people put too much pressure on them selves or look for excuses not to find love.
There is always a way to have both.
well said natureAs you have skype to stay in touch with the family and watch the wee ones grow,
And Australia is only small the longest flight would be 3 hours so visiting would be no trouble.
I just think people put too much pressure on them selves or look for excuses not to find love.
There is always a way to have both.
i.d like to see a long distant relationship that actually works.By that i dont mean mail order wives,just normal interstate contacts.from what ive seen and heard they just dont work.ive been married three times two from long distance,didnt work for me or for three friends.love to hear fromanyone thats had sucess
daggyone: Have you been to see a dr lately Merri?
You have all these road blocks placed in front of your happiness and excuses justifying them, this is sad for you
You have all these road blocks placed in front of your happiness and excuses justifying them, this is sad for you
I moved 1,000kms away from my family and friends to get married. I miss a lot of family, friends and all those familiar places and had to start again. Marriage didn't work but in the meantime, my daughter had moved down here to get away and start a new life.
It was great on Sunday when she came barging in the front door "because she was busting" and then we had a coffee together.
It is not right to judge Merri or anyone else when they do not want to leave their comfort zone.
So the silly question Dags is "would you have moved to Thailand instead of staying in your comfort zone?" Very easy to say "yes" if you have never done it.
My second partner would always be away for mths at a time Overseas
And it never crossed my mind once to leave because he wasn't there all the time.
If you really love some one it really doesn't matter the distance.
I think it depends on how much you are willing to put into a relationship as to how far or long it will last.
And it never crossed my mind once to leave because he wasn't there all the time.
If you really love some one it really doesn't matter the distance.
I think it depends on how much you are willing to put into a relationship as to how far or long it will last.
TWINbro: if youre prepared to travel, i suppose it doesnt matter,jmo though,you cant do the little things that count,like give a helping hand pushing the car when your girl has a flat battery or lifting the furniture into the shed,or cutting up a tree ,or then again just droppin in for a quick cuppa after work.Alll those little things make a relationship stick,theres nothin worse than some other fella choping your girls wood ,orpainting her house.sooner or later hell put the hard word on her,and bingo,no girl .
Guess it goes both ways Bro.... if you cant be with the one you love.... you love the one your withI am a hands on person, I like to be able to touch, feel taste things in my life, I dont like to live on imagination and memories alone, as they can tend to lull you into a sense of false security.
Yes I moved to be with my ex, away from the security of country upbringing and family and friends and came to the city. Which for me can be a cold and alienating place, and I remain, for the present, because that is where the work is.
Would I move for someone, yes, if it felt right I would. Would I be in a long distance relationship, no I wouldnt as I know it could not meet my needs, I would prefer to stay single than end up frustrated at life because I couldnt be with the person.
Each of us had different ideals in life, and just because our ideals are different doesnt mean that someones choices are wrong for them. We each have the power to choose our way in life, and no one has the right to pass judgement on what people choose is right for them
JMO
Yes I moved to be with my ex, away from the security of country upbringing and family and friends and came to the city. Which for me can be a cold and alienating place, and I remain, for the present, because that is where the work is.
Would I move for someone, yes, if it felt right I would. Would I be in a long distance relationship, no I wouldnt as I know it could not meet my needs, I would prefer to stay single than end up frustrated at life because I couldnt be with the person.
Each of us had different ideals in life, and just because our ideals are different doesnt mean that someones choices are wrong for them. We each have the power to choose our way in life, and no one has the right to pass judgement on what people choose is right for them
JMO
jem1964: I am a hands on person, I like to be able to touch, feel taste things in my life, I dont like to live on imagination and memories alone, as they can tend to lull you into a sense of false security.
Yes I moved to be with my ex, away from the security of country upbringing and family and friends and came to the city. Which for me can be a cold and alienating place, and I remain, for the present, because that is where the work is.
Would I move for someone, yes, if it felt right I would. Would I be in a long distance relationship, no I wouldnt as I know it could not meet my needs, I would prefer to stay single than end up frustrated at life because I couldnt be with the person.
Each of us had different ideals in life, and just because our ideals are different doesnt mean that someones choices are wrong for them. We each have the power to choose our way in life, and no one has the right to pass judgement on what people choose is right for them
JMO
Yes I moved to be with my ex, away from the security of country upbringing and family and friends and came to the city. Which for me can be a cold and alienating place, and I remain, for the present, because that is where the work is.
Would I move for someone, yes, if it felt right I would. Would I be in a long distance relationship, no I wouldnt as I know it could not meet my needs, I would prefer to stay single than end up frustrated at life because I couldnt be with the person.
Each of us had different ideals in life, and just because our ideals are different doesnt mean that someones choices are wrong for them. We each have the power to choose our way in life, and no one has the right to pass judgement on what people choose is right for them
JMO
hinomunje: i.d like to see a long distant relationship that actually works.By that i dont mean mail order wives,just normal interstate contacts.from what ive seen and heard they just dont work.ive been married three times two from long distance,didnt work for me or for three friends.love to hear fromanyone thats had sucess
People break up and divorce from short distance too....
Every day of the week.
I have had a long distance committed relationship. it did not work only because, well, it had nothing to do with the distance let's say, but with the enormous mismatch that it turned out to be.
Nature123: My second partner would always be away for mths at a time Overseas
And it never crossed my mind once to leave because he wasn't there all the time.
If you really love some one it really doesn't matter the distance.
I think it depends on how much you are willing to put into a relationship as to how far or long it will last.
And it never crossed my mind once to leave because he wasn't there all the time.
If you really love some one it really doesn't matter the distance.
I think it depends on how much you are willing to put into a relationship as to how far or long it will last.
...I hear way too much on CS, about the need for immediate gratification. Sure, in the end, you would want to be together as much as possible, but if it isn't possible, for work or other legitimate reason, if those two people care about each other deeply, nothing will uproot their commitment. If it did, it shows how shallow the relationship was from the start.JMO.
hinomunje: yes ,a very big place,my first wife ran off 5months after marrying me,still dont know where she is couldnt divorce her ,7 yrs later i remarried even tho i wasnt divorced,illegal i know, but i dont really care ,both of them were from northern territory,and i met them on a dating site.my last wife i met on herein 2005,went to the states to meet her,followed me to the brazil where i worked studying medicinal plants,and she ran off witha mexican.
And stupid me is back on here lol.So i dont trust long distance
And stupid me is back on here lol.So i dont trust long distance
If there are cracks in your relationship, it doesn't matter where they live - be it overseas, or not... It is very hard to try and fix a marriage when one is living overseas and the other is holding the fort in Australia, looking after home and children.. Travelling is a big expense and so is the cost of the calls, regardless whether you use skype or not.. plus you are at the mercy of international (Asia) telephone networking system which is the pits...
My current partner, married a girl from this site, moved to the States to be with her, and for whatever reason, after courting her for 15 months or so, was divorced after 9 months of marriage..
Some marriages do survive if you are married to person who travels frequently and is away for periods of time, others don't.. Some feel that being away from home gives them the carte blanche to lead a single man's life, do whatever they want, whenever they like and sleep with with who they ever they like... but still if you have the cracks - it makes no difference... jmo and my experience...
Singleagain50: Hi how do you check and change your restrictions,In away it saves reading all mail and mail from scammers,
That doesn't always work, they say they live in Brisbane now. I asked one what suburb he lived in, he didn't reply, so i asked was it taking him awhile to Google qld Australia to find his suburb, funnily enough he didn't reply.
hinomunje: i.d like to see a long distant relationship that actually works.By that i dont mean mail order wives,just normal interstate contacts.from what ive seen and heard they just dont work.ive been married three times two from long distance,didnt work for me or for three friends.love to hear fromanyone thats had sucess
I was in a 5 year LDR with a guy from America I met on here. We started as friends that talked daily for a year when we realized that maybe there could be more. I went to the states 3 times and stayed 6 months each time. We got on great..both would have moved in a heart beat but sometimes its just not possible
We remain friends though to this day.I swore I would never get involved in long distance again.
Currently Im in a 2 year relationship with someone I met LD from the UK
We met through mutual friends and got to know each other for a year through talking daily and decided to meet.We were lucky he had a much sort after work skill and is now living here in Australia with me for the past year. We were lucky that every thing fell into place for us but it took commitment from both of us to get to where we are now.
Any relationship..LD or local is hard..it needs a lot of give and take..good communication is essential as is the commitment to put in the hard yards. The hardest part is the UNLEARNING of thoughts and ideas we accumulate as a single person and to RELEARN to be a 1/2 of a whole.
rivame: I was in a 5 year LDR with a guy from America I met on here. We started as friends that talked daily for a year when we realized that maybe there could be more. I went to the states 3 times and stayed 6 months each time. We got on great..both would have moved in a heart beat but sometimes its just not possible We remain friends though to this day.
I swore I would never get involved in long distance again.
Currently Im in a 2 year relationship with someone I met LD from the UK
We met through mutual friends and got to know each other for a year through talking daily and decided to meet.We were lucky he had a much sort after work skill and is now living here in Australia with me for the past year. We were lucky that every thing fell into place for us but it took commitment from both of us to get to where we are now.
Any relationship..LD or local is hard..it needs a lot of give and take..good communication is essential as is the commitment to put in the hard yards. The hardest part is the UNLEARNING of thoughts and ideas we accumulate as a single person and to RELEARN to be a 1/2 of a whole.
I swore I would never get involved in long distance again.
Currently Im in a 2 year relationship with someone I met LD from the UK
We met through mutual friends and got to know each other for a year through talking daily and decided to meet.We were lucky he had a much sort after work skill and is now living here in Australia with me for the past year. We were lucky that every thing fell into place for us but it took commitment from both of us to get to where we are now.
Any relationship..LD or local is hard..it needs a lot of give and take..good communication is essential as is the commitment to put in the hard yards. The hardest part is the UNLEARNING of thoughts and ideas we accumulate as a single person and to RELEARN to be a 1/2 of a whole.
You are so right about unlearning and to relearn' I think that is the main stumbling block of any relationship.
As we get older it becomes harder as we do get set in our ways all we can do is to remember to give and take as non of us are perfect.
So often I think about how lucky I am to have this sweet and gentle man in my life as I put the top back on the toothpaste and retrieve so many of of the things he has lost around the house.
well skype is free and a ticket to Bangkok is cheaper than accommodation within Aus.
But if money is a major factor, you're probably barking up the wrong tree and should stick to no further than the block you live in as you wouldn't want to go to far out of your financial comfort zone.
Personally I'd like to live in Thailand when I retire as the cost of living is so much cheaper there. That way I'd take my expensive holidays in Aus visiting my family and live cheaply in Thai.
I'm interested to know why "the one" could be a turn off just because of where they live.
Surely if you find "the one" you're not going to let a simple technicality spoil the find????
But if money is a major factor, you're probably barking up the wrong tree and should stick to no further than the block you live in as you wouldn't want to go to far out of your financial comfort zone.
Personally I'd like to live in Thailand when I retire as the cost of living is so much cheaper there. That way I'd take my expensive holidays in Aus visiting my family and live cheaply in Thai.
I'm interested to know why "the one" could be a turn off just because of where they live.
Surely if you find "the one" you're not going to let a simple technicality spoil the find????
I think if you find someone and you both feel the same for each other you will work through every thing ealse.
Really does it matter what order the knives and forks are in when put in the draw.NO
Does it matter what way the towels are folded when they are put in the cupboard.NO
Same with relationships nothing matters except working out when you will be together again.
And that goes for long or short distances.unless of course you live together.
Really does it matter what order the knives and forks are in when put in the draw.NO
Does it matter what way the towels are folded when they are put in the cupboard.NO
Same with relationships nothing matters except working out when you will be together again.
And that goes for long or short distances.unless of course you live together.
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I think Aussies must be about the worst of all CS'rs in terms of making contact(apart from scammer land!!!!!)JMO
Never a truer word has been spoken Ven' it seems that the people that have been hurt in the past and have trust issue's seem to congregate on here.
When you think about it they have so much in common its a wonder that some dont get together ...or is that asking too much.