Is there such thing as online "true love" in CS? ( Archived) (177)

She has only got 30 minutes though,i am not waiting for ever!

I agree, in real life you do tend to have much real feeling towards the person.

Yes, you really have to spell it out for me because I don't understand what you mean.

How does paying for site membership, or not paying for site membership impact upon finding 'love' over the internet in your opinion?[/quote

Think about it if you are paying to find love you will expect and demand more from it and work harder to make your money count.
If it is free you just take it for granted and complacency sets in.
It's kind of like if you bought stock in a company you expect it to go up to increase you chances on your ROI (return on investment)
If somebody just gave you the stock you would not have any emotional attachment to it since you did not lay out the money yourself.
Many fools on CS have no intention or any attachment and maybe don't want any kind of attachment to anyone.
Many seem to be here to fool around add their quips and jokes to people who are perhaps seriously looking for answers to their problem. To play with people's emotions or make fun of them or play ignorant to another's question is in my opinion rather harsh.
Nevertheless, if you ever have a serious concern about CS and the people on it hoping to get their opinion I hope they won't make jokes about it and prey on your weakness to find some character flaw you have. Many seem to do that. I also find it unique that as the quips progress the original question gets lost and forgotten.
It really shows the quality of people we are dealing with here.

Did I miss something...?

I've been on a paid site and a couple of free ones. I didn't think of the paid site as being a financial investment into a relationship that didn't exist.

I didn't think, "I've paid my money, now I'm owed a return."

I didn't think I could buy a relationship, or anyone on the site owed me a relationship because I'd paid the site fees, nor did I think the site owed it to me to provide a relationship. Besides, to me adding up £15 a month in terms of a relationship seems pretty cheapskate to me compared with the value of people.

I think perhaps we make emotional investments whether online, or off, but as there's no guarantee a relationship will work out, we have to manage our emotional investments for ourselves and make our own choices.

Having used a paid site and unaid sites, I'd say the paid site was less of a productive tool for me. I've cyber socialised a lot more here with people from so many walks of life and I've learned a lot more.

I think the structure of the site has more of an impact than whether you pay for it, or not. I have a friend who's tried a few paid sites and it seems they try to promote the idea that the site is working for its money. They may do this 'matching' business even though the software they have is too primitive to be of any use and may restrict members from making their own choices in terms of viewing profiles.

You might think you get what you pay for if you have a belief that's how the world works, but it takes very little analysis to work out money is just as subjective as everything else and the fact it has an objective, numerical element merely lends itself to illusion and trickery.