Distance.. is it an issue or not really? (87)
DEEBROWN: At times I wonder.. do people really think there soulmate will be living in say a 10km radius of where they live??
After having conversations online with people and read profiles, i noticed here and elsewhere some some don't look any further than that.. With so many people in this wide world of ours, whose to say they aren't in the next state.. or country even.
Do you fall into this category of ppl who only want someone in their town, or would distance be of no issue to you when in search of love??
After having conversations online with people and read profiles, i noticed here and elsewhere some some don't look any further than that.. With so many people in this wide world of ours, whose to say they aren't in the next state.. or country even.
Do you fall into this category of ppl who only want someone in their town, or would distance be of no issue to you when in search of love??
Hi Deebrown,
Nice to see a new face in our forums. WELCOME...
For me, I have realized that for the time being, I would not care to move to anywhere, therefore my choices are very limited.
I really dont think of CS as a dating site.. more of meeting of people for getting to know and chat...but as long as I am learning stuff on here, I reckon its great...
DEEBROWN: At times I wonder.. do people really think there soulmate will be living in say a 10km radius of where they live??
After having conversations online with people and read profiles, i noticed here and elsewhere some some don't look any further than that.. With so many people in this wide world of ours, whose to say they aren't in the next state.. or country even.
Do you fall into this category of ppl who only want someone in their town, or would distance be of no issue to you when in search of love??
After having conversations online with people and read profiles, i noticed here and elsewhere some some don't look any further than that.. With so many people in this wide world of ours, whose to say they aren't in the next state.. or country even.
Do you fall into this category of ppl who only want someone in their town, or would distance be of no issue to you when in search of love??
It all depends on the circumstances if you can make it work with the distance, or is one of you willing/able to re-locate??
Done the long distance thing, great in the beginning, but then it became too hard, couldn't re-locate, miss each other too much, don't share those special times like birthdays??
Reeeeally don't want to do that again? 2 hrs drive is far enough, more than that it would have to be really, really special.
Merriweather: Hi Deebrown,
Nice to see a new face in our forums. WELCOME...
For me, I have realized that for the time being, I would not care to move to anywhere, therefore my choices are very limited.
I really dont think of CS as a dating site.. more of meeting of people for getting to know and chat...but as long as I am learning stuff on here, I reckon its great...
Nice to see a new face in our forums. WELCOME...
For me, I have realized that for the time being, I would not care to move to anywhere, therefore my choices are very limited.
I really dont think of CS as a dating site.. more of meeting of people for getting to know and chat...but as long as I am learning stuff on here, I reckon its great...
Hi Merriweather, thanks on the welcome! I joined some time back before 2010, think it may have been 2009.. not entirely sure, but am back on :)
I think it is definitely a good place for that, the chit chat :)
DEEBROWN: At times I wonder.. do people really think there soulmate will be living in say a 10km radius of where they live??
After having conversations online with people and read profiles, i noticed here and elsewhere some some don't look any further than that.. With so many people in this wide world of ours, whose to say they aren't in the next state.. or country even.
Do you fall into this category of ppl who only want someone in their town, or would distance be of no issue to you when in search of love??
Hi DEEBROWN. I think it depends on the people. Some people will meet people a distance away and just can't do it no matter how much they like each other but then there are others who say they won't date people to far away until they met someone they totally fall for and they make it work. There are many other things that come into it to. Some people are not willing to move, work commitments, kids may be involved. There are many factors to think about. I am dating a guy in another state. Things can be difficult at times due to us both having kids (school aged) and both of us are close to our families and live in the same town as them; but we have been together now for 6 months (still very early days) but we will make it work if we both want it to (and we do). We do see each other as much as we can and we talk every day.After having conversations online with people and read profiles, i noticed here and elsewhere some some don't look any further than that.. With so many people in this wide world of ours, whose to say they aren't in the next state.. or country even.
Do you fall into this category of ppl who only want someone in their town, or would distance be of no issue to you when in search of love??
JMO but I hope it helps.
Newlife08: It all depends on the circumstances if you can make it work with the distance, or is one of you willing/able to re-locate??
Done the long distance thing, great in the beginning, but then it became too hard, couldn't re-locate, miss each other too much, don't share those special times like birthdays??
Reeeeally don't want to do that again? 2 hrs drive is far enough, more than that it would have to be really, really special.
Done the long distance thing, great in the beginning, but then it became too hard, couldn't re-locate, miss each other too much, don't share those special times like birthdays??
Reeeeally don't want to do that again? 2 hrs drive is far enough, more than that it would have to be really, really special.
Yeah for me I would say a couple of hours drive is pretty decent. Definitely so many other factors come into it.. just make me think though.. How much is too much to go through.. say if it is for genuine love and possibly THE one.
Larf75: Hi DEEBROWN. I think it depends on the people. Some people will meet people a distance away and just can't do it no matter how much they like each other but then there are others who say they won't date people to far away until they met someone they totally fall for and they make it work. There are many other things that come into it to. Some people are not willing to move, work commitments, kids may be involved. There are many factors to think about. I am dating a guy in another state. Things can be difficult at times due to us both having kids (school aged) and both of us are close to our families and live in the same town as them; but we have been together now for 6 months (still very early days) but we will make it work if we both want it to (and we do). We do see each other as much as we can and we talk every day.
JMO but I hope it helps.
JMO but I hope it helps.
Thanks Larf75.. kids is really a whole different thing in itself yeah.. be hard for people having to up and move them from childhood friends etc. Is refreshing though to see that in your case, although hard, can work.
DEEBROWN: Thanks Larf75.. kids is really a whole different thing in itself yeah.. be hard for people having to up and move them from childhood friends etc. Is refreshing though to see that in your case, although hard, can work.
Give me time and I'll keep you posted 
but we are both definately commited to making it work. 
Distance is always going to be something that people have to consider / take into account / factor in to their thinking when it comes to forming a friendship that they might hope to develop into a romantic relationship ...
It's perhaps easier for younger people to up sticks and move to another part of a country, or even another country for that matter!
More of a challenge for those of us who looking 'second time around' though ... there are more often than not children and possibly even grandchildren he line and they also have to be considered.
Very easy to think 'I'd move anywhere to be with The One' but the reality is it's impossible to know if a person could be 'The One' unless you are able to spend a considerable amount of time with them, and of course if they are far away then 'getting in those hours' together is a challenge in itself isn't it?
Part of what makes 'dating' successful is spontaneity - the quick call to say 'Hi, you wanna do a movie tonight?' or 'I just saw XYZABC is on a the theatre and I reang, there's seats free, let's do it ???' and etc. It's also like being 'accessible / there / on hand' when the other person has a problem or needs comfort / support and a hundred other small things... not to mention the opportunity to learn more of the intimate nature of one another and to fall asleep in their arms and wake up to have them as your first sight in the morning!
Anyone who really believes distance is no object would have to be nuts really - unless they were incredibly wealthy and (probably) retired with masses of time on their hands eh?
Having said that, personally I'm a seasoned optimist and should there be an heiress who desperately scouring the world (and connectingsingles.com) for The One ... waves, jumps up and down 'Over here Miss, here I am ...'
:-) :-) :-)
It's perhaps easier for younger people to up sticks and move to another part of a country, or even another country for that matter!
More of a challenge for those of us who looking 'second time around' though ... there are more often than not children and possibly even grandchildren he line and they also have to be considered.
Very easy to think 'I'd move anywhere to be with The One' but the reality is it's impossible to know if a person could be 'The One' unless you are able to spend a considerable amount of time with them, and of course if they are far away then 'getting in those hours' together is a challenge in itself isn't it?
Part of what makes 'dating' successful is spontaneity - the quick call to say 'Hi, you wanna do a movie tonight?' or 'I just saw XYZABC is on a the theatre and I reang, there's seats free, let's do it ???' and etc. It's also like being 'accessible / there / on hand' when the other person has a problem or needs comfort / support and a hundred other small things... not to mention the opportunity to learn more of the intimate nature of one another and to fall asleep in their arms and wake up to have them as your first sight in the morning!
Anyone who really believes distance is no object would have to be nuts really - unless they were incredibly wealthy and (probably) retired with masses of time on their hands eh?
Having said that, personally I'm a seasoned optimist and should there be an heiress who desperately scouring the world (and connectingsingles.com) for The One ... waves, jumps up and down 'Over here Miss, here I am ...'
:-) :-) :-)
DEEBROWN: At times I wonder.. do people really think there soulmate will be living in say a 10km radius of where they live??
After having conversations online with people and read profiles, i noticed here and elsewhere some some don't look any further than that.. With so many people in this wide world of ours, whose to say they aren't in the next state.. or country even.
Do you fall into this category of ppl who only want someone in their town, or would distance be of no issue to you when in search of love??
Distance means nothing.I fell in love with a man in New Zealand.After having conversations online with people and read profiles, i noticed here and elsewhere some some don't look any further than that.. With so many people in this wide world of ours, whose to say they aren't in the next state.. or country even.
Do you fall into this category of ppl who only want someone in their town, or would distance be of no issue to you when in search of love??
Merriweather: Hi Deebrown,
Nice to see a new face in our forums. WELCOME...
For me, I have realized that for the time being, I would not care to move to anywhere, therefore my choices are very limited.
I really dont think of CS as a dating site.. more of meeting of people for getting to know and chat...but as long as I am learning stuff on here, I reckon its great...
Nice to see a new face in our forums. WELCOME...
For me, I have realized that for the time being, I would not care to move to anywhere, therefore my choices are very limited.
I really dont think of CS as a dating site.. more of meeting of people for getting to know and chat...but as long as I am learning stuff on here, I reckon its great...
I do believe wise miss merri is correct about this site well especially on the forums and blogs side. Not too sure about the dating side as don't bother to pop over there
But! Of course is is a great place to meet new friends and to travel to meet them is awesome just ask micky lol
I have met a few peeps from this site and I am going to the Melbourne meet hoping to form more close knit friendships.
You are younger than us so the world is your oyster I say go for it!
Enjoy the forums You fell in love with a man in NZ ...
So
Did that happen before you met him
Did you ever actually meet him
How long did it last or are you still together?
So
Did that happen before you met him
Did you ever actually meet him
How long did it last or are you still together?
HexagonKeySet: You fell in love with a man in NZ ...
So
Did that happen before you met him
Did you ever actually meet him
How long did it last or are you still together?
He flew over here to meet me and my family and we spent every moment together.Unfortunatly we are no longer in a relationship.Still not sure what exactly happened.So
Did that happen before you met him
Did you ever actually meet him
How long did it last or are you still together?
lonelygal122: He flew over here to meet me and my family and we spent every moment together.Unfortunatly we are no longer in a relationship.Still not sure what exactly happened.
Sorry to hear you are no longer together lonelygal as you sounded really happy with him. Was distance a factor do you think?
Obscuritan: Sorry to hear you are no longer together lonelygal as you sounded really happy with him. Was distance a factor do you think?
He couldnt bring his girls to Australia.We always said 'family first'.Wasnt the distance...we spoke evey day on the phone.And yes,i was really happy with him.
DEEBROWN: At times I wonder.. do people really think there soulmate will be living in say a 10km radius of where they live??
After having conversations online with people and read profiles, i noticed here and elsewhere some some don't look any further than that.. With so many people in this wide world of ours, whose to say they aren't in the next state.. or country even.
Do you fall into this category of ppl who only want someone in their town, or would distance be of no issue to you when in search of love??
After having conversations online with people and read profiles, i noticed here and elsewhere some some don't look any further than that.. With so many people in this wide world of ours, whose to say they aren't in the next state.. or country even.
Do you fall into this category of ppl who only want someone in their town, or would distance be of no issue to you when in search of love??
my advise to you is to not consider long distance relationships, all they really ever do is cost money and in the end cause you or them heart break.
you don't find love, love will find you, I can guarantee you this friend. -.-
Cyber_Man: my advise to you is to not consider long distance relationships, all they really ever do is cost money and in the end cause you or them heart break.you don't find love, love will find you, I can guarantee you this friend. -.-
that sounded pretty cool tinny
DEEBROWN: At times I wonder.. do people really think there soulmate will be living in say a 10km radius of where they live??
After having conversations online with people and read profiles, i noticed here and elsewhere some some don't look any further than that.. With so many people in this wide world of ours, whose to say they aren't in the next state.. or country even.
Do you fall into this category of ppl who only want someone in their town, or would distance be of no issue to you when in search of love??
After having conversations online with people and read profiles, i noticed here and elsewhere some some don't look any further than that.. With so many people in this wide world of ours, whose to say they aren't in the next state.. or country even.
Do you fall into this category of ppl who only want someone in their town, or would distance be of no issue to you when in search of love??
Distance should only be a speed bump
...an expensive one, but have a go I recon. The big worry is for all those out there looking for their soul mate 
.....like there's only one and the "knight in shining armour" sux 
mine is as rusty as Anyway with an open heart and a bit of problem solving I would consider a lady from another planet 
....well another state maybe, I'm over galactic travel 
, Ran out of clouds lol,but didn't crash too hard 
lastwaltz: Distance should only be a speed bump ...an expensive one, but have a go I recon. The big worry is for all those out there looking for their soul mate .....like there's only one and the "knight in shining armour" sux mine is as rusty as Anyway with an open heart and a bit of problem solving I would consider a lady from another planet ....well another state maybe, I'm over galactic travel , Ran out of clouds lol,but didn't crash too hard
dont you have 
lonelygal122: He couldnt bring his girls to Australia.We always said 'family first'.
Wasnt the distance...we spoke evey day on the phone.And yes,i was really happy with him.
Wasnt the distance...we spoke evey day on the phone.And yes,i was really happy with him.
Oh I'm sorry to hear this LG
Hope you are ok
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After having conversations online with people and read profiles, i noticed here and elsewhere some some don't look any further than that.. With so many people in this wide world of ours, whose to say they aren't in the next state.. or country even.
Do you fall into this category of ppl who only want someone in their town, or would distance be of no issue to you when in search of love??