When to say "I love you" (63)
LeeMoeAmsterdam, North Holland Netherlands1 Threads 1 Polls 38 PostsAfter dinner 
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Say it when you are sure it is loving someone not just being in love.
Say it when you think that the person is ready to deal with it.
Say it in the way "I want you to know that. it's such a great feeling to love you." without the expectation to hear the same back immediately.
No-one throws away a beautiful gift, but a lot of people would throw a burden.
It doesn't matter who says it first.
It matters you let the person know that she/he is important to you once you feel that way. There are lot of ways to say and show it.
Hearing "I love you" is most beautiful when you feel the same toward the other person.
Say it when you think that the person is ready to deal with it.
Say it in the way "I want you to know that. it's such a great feeling to love you." without the expectation to hear the same back immediately.
No-one throws away a beautiful gift, but a lot of people would throw a burden.
It doesn't matter who says it first.
It matters you let the person know that she/he is important to you once you feel that way. There are lot of ways to say and show it.
Hearing "I love you" is most beautiful when you feel the same toward the other person.
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..when you MEAN it.
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truheart1941: ..when you MEAN it.
Sensible man
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Do you say it when you feel it? Yes.
Women: Do you wait for the guy to say it first before you let your guard down? - I think they usually do. :-)
Men: How did you feel when a woman said it to you first? Were you flattered, turned off, positively surprised? - Positively surprised
Both: Did you ever let someone down after they said it?- Never
Being older, does it still matter who says it first and when? or are you a believer in "it's implied in my actions"? (i.e. I don't need to say it, I show it).- To me is important as when I had 21 years old.
How important is it that your date/partner says the magic words? - its important.
Finally :
Is NOT when you say it. It's HOW you say it
Women: Do you wait for the guy to say it first before you let your guard down? - I think they usually do. :-)
Men: How did you feel when a woman said it to you first? Were you flattered, turned off, positively surprised? - Positively surprised
Both: Did you ever let someone down after they said it?- Never
Being older, does it still matter who says it first and when? or are you a believer in "it's implied in my actions"? (i.e. I don't need to say it, I show it).- To me is important as when I had 21 years old.
How important is it that your date/partner says the magic words? - its important.
Finally :
Is NOT when you say it. It's HOW you say it
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when to say "i love you" to a woman? Well..it is easy. You say it when you are completely "out of your mind"
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When you have been caught doing something wrong
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Before it's too late.
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i think i good time to say i love you is whenever you feel like saying it, and you mean it.
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jono7: i think i good time to say i love you is whenever you feel like saying it, and you mean it.
I agree but would add......and when you are ready to live with the consequences of the recipient feeling the same, or not feeling it at all.
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LadyDiz2: I agree but would add......and when you are ready to live with the consequences of the recipient feeling the same, or not feeling it at all.
hiya Lady D
weellll.... that's the thing isn't it....
totally agree with you
telling someone i love them is not a 'trade' or 'bartering tool'....
loving someone, or telling them i love them, for me....isn't dependent on whether they love me.
it's a statement of how i feel, and i give it without expectations.
i grew up in a family where it simply wasn't said. not once in my life did my mother tell me she loved me. what i learned from that was to tell my son often that i love him. it also taught me not to expect anyone to tell me i was loved, or be reliant on it.
oh...for sure... it's nice when someone tells me they love me. and thankfully, i have some folks in my life that remind me i am loved pretty regularly.
if telling someone you loved them, 'scares em off'...that just means they are not someone i need to be around. it's their issue, not mine.
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jono7: hiya Lady D
weellll.... that's the thing isn't it....
totally agree with youtelling someone i love them is not a 'trade' or 'bartering tool'....
loving someone, or telling them i love them, for me....isn't dependent on whether they love me.
it's a statement of how i feel, and i give it without expectations.
i grew up in a family where it simply wasn't said. not once in my life did my mother tell me she loved me. what i learned from that was to tell my son often that i love him. it also taught me not to expect anyone to tell me i was loved, or be reliant on it.
oh...for sure... it's nice when someone tells me they love me. and thankfully, i have some folks in my life that remind me i am loved pretty regularly.
if telling someone you loved them, 'scares em off'...that just means they are not someone i need to be around. it's their issue, not mine.
weellll.... that's the thing isn't it....
totally agree with youtelling someone i love them is not a 'trade' or 'bartering tool'....
loving someone, or telling them i love them, for me....isn't dependent on whether they love me.
it's a statement of how i feel, and i give it without expectations.
i grew up in a family where it simply wasn't said. not once in my life did my mother tell me she loved me. what i learned from that was to tell my son often that i love him. it also taught me not to expect anyone to tell me i was loved, or be reliant on it.
oh...for sure... it's nice when someone tells me they love me. and thankfully, i have some folks in my life that remind me i am loved pretty regularly.
if telling someone you loved them, 'scares em off'...that just means they are not someone i need to be around. it's their issue, not mine.
you seemed to have turned out funtional and well adjusted.
the ole cliche…. actions speak louder than words. don’t women just love this saying???
perhaps mom didn’t say it but showed it.
personally, I can relate to you not hearing the love word growing up but I knew I was loved.
maybe just the times we were raised ???
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never conspired to say it never even thought about it if it comes out so what its no big deal is nice to be told but I don't put to much meaning into it much nicer if someone just squeezes your hand it can say much more with nothing said the less said the better
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johnjjm: never conspired to say it never even thought about it if it comes out so what its no big deal is nice to be told but I don't put to much meaning into it much nicer if someone just squeezes your hand it can say much more with nothing said the less said the better
I agree.
Actions speak louder than words.
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In response to: Do you say it when you feel it?
Women: Do you wait for the guy to say it first before you let your guard down?
Men: How did you feel when a woman said it to you first? Were you flattered, turned off, positively surprised?
Both: Did you ever let someone down after they said it?
Being older, does it still matter who says it first and when? or are you a believer in "it's implied in my actions"? (i.e. I don't need to say it, I show it).
How important is it that your date/partner says the magic words?
Women: Do you wait for the guy to say it first before you let your guard down?
Men: How did you feel when a woman said it to you first? Were you flattered, turned off, positively surprised?
Both: Did you ever let someone down after they said it?
Being older, does it still matter who says it first and when? or are you a believer in "it's implied in my actions"? (i.e. I don't need to say it, I show it).
How important is it that your date/partner says the magic words?
i would find it hard to say......for i find some phrases can be overused, so i like to find the best time to say them , not all the time, i would say it TO ABSOLUTELY mean it
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chris27292729: I always say the magic word,when is time to say good bye on a first date,and have agreed to meet again. My usual is..."""[b]I think am falling in love with you""".
How do you say that in Greek?
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mollybaby: I agree.
Actions speak louder than words.
nightantsimimprovingithinksgoodgainst antstopthefingerorthemachinedoingwhatitwnt evendothisrightitsa iwasonlycoddingaboutthe kids your beenntoonice to me give outor something caActions speak louder than words.
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purr4mance: you seemed to have turned out funtional and well adjusted.
the ole cliche…. actions speak louder than words. don’t women just love this saying???
perhaps mom didn’t say it but showed it.
personally, I can relate to you not hearing the love word growing up but I knew I was loved.
maybe just the times we were raised ???
the ole cliche…. actions speak louder than words. don’t women just love this saying???
perhaps mom didn’t say it but showed it.
personally, I can relate to you not hearing the love word growing up but I knew I was loved.
maybe just the times we were raised ???
hiya purr
yes, i think it was part and parcel of the times.
me....i've never been accused of being functional and well adjusted before...
.... thankyou(it's smoke and mirrors....
)as for old sayings...
i can't speak for other women, but i kind of like both, actions and words. and by words, i don't actually mean 'i love you', it's more about the feelings behind the words and there's a lot of ways to say i love you without actually saying 'i love you'....yanno?
i do think 'actions speak louder than words' leaves itself open to interpretation of actions...signals which can be misleading at times. and sometimes one can show their love in action to someone who just isn't capable of letting the love in....
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jono7: hiya purr
yes, i think it was part and parcel of the times.
me....i've never been accused of being functional and well adjusted before... .... thankyou
(it's smoke and mirrors.... )
as for old sayings...
i can't speak for other women, but i kind of like both, actions and words. and by words, i don't actually mean 'i love you', it's more about the feelings behind the words and there's a lot of ways to say i love you without actually saying 'i love you'....yanno?
i do think 'actions speak louder than words' leaves itself open to interpretation of actions...signals which can be misleading at times. and sometimes one can show their love in action to someone who just isn't capable of letting the love in....
yes, i think it was part and parcel of the times.
me....i've never been accused of being functional and well adjusted before... .... thankyou
(it's smoke and mirrors.... )
as for old sayings...
i can't speak for other women, but i kind of like both, actions and words. and by words, i don't actually mean 'i love you', it's more about the feelings behind the words and there's a lot of ways to say i love you without actually saying 'i love you'....yanno?
i do think 'actions speak louder than words' leaves itself open to interpretation of actions...signals which can be misleading at times. and sometimes one can show their love in action to someone who just isn't capable of letting the love in....
(it's smoke and mirrors.... ) thanks for >
I hear what you’re saying. recently, in my experience, the love I gave was met with resistance in the form of serious negative accusations and assumptions with no basis. the more I tried to reassure this person by answering EVERY question they had it somehow was never enough as the very next day this pattern would repeat itself. its as if they were manufacturing problems as excuses to derail our growth.
that in a nutshell became our relationship.
it’s as if this person couldn’t or wouldn’t , not really sure which, believe that someone would want them as they are.
I think it wise to accept that no matter how much one says they’ve made piece with their past not all have. I just can’t understand why someone would seek a relationship surely knowing they have no intentions of receiving love.
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There is the love I feel for the one for me
In addition there's what I feel for the family
Furthermore, there is my love for friends
In fact my love just neverends.
I never regret when it expounds
Why keep such feelings underground
Those words should never be denied
Too many wish they'd sanctified
Their emotions before it was too late
The reciprocant having been deceased
Before the words could ever be released
In addition there's what I feel for the family
Furthermore, there is my love for friends
In fact my love just neverends.
I never regret when it expounds
Why keep such feelings underground
Those words should never be denied
Too many wish they'd sanctified
Their emotions before it was too late
The reciprocant having been deceased
Before the words could ever be released
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