I never married because I couldn't see a "forever".
I only would have considered a family if I would have been fairly sure of a long-term, family orientated relationship with shared responsibilities if kids would be planned. Then I think marrying makes sense to secure kids and in case something happens, the remaining parent.
KNenagh: I never married because I couldn't see a "forever".
I only would have considered a family if I would have been fairly sure of a long-term, family orientated relationship with shared responsibilities if kids would be planned. Then I think marrying makes sense to secure kids and in case something happens, the remaining parent.
danieljoshtelford, West Midlands, England UK1,364 posts
Ccincy: I would had been married 35 years to my late husband in Sept 11th of this year if he hadn't of passed away in 2007.I had married him because I was in love with him.
He was the most loving husband to me and a wonderful father to our son.If I was looking today I doubt if I could find another man like him.
my sincere thoughts are with you you never forget my 1st wife passed away in 1998 at 43 and 27years of marriage although I made the mistake of marrying again I`ve never met anyone I valued as much as her
danieljosh: my sincere thoughts are with you you never forget my 1st wife passed away in 1998 at 43 and 27years of marriage although I made the mistake of marrying again I`ve never met anyone I valued as much as her
RainComeShine: I was married for 33yrs and I still don't know the answer to this question.
I know that getting divorced was a nightmare!
-- I hope that my friendship would be strong enough that I wouldn't want the law to pretty much put a mandate on being together. I'm not much for ceremonial things either.
Ccincy: I would had been married 35 years to my late husband in Sept 11th of this year if he hadn't of passed away in 2007.I had married him because I was in love with him.
He was the most loving husband to me and a wonderful father to our son.If I was looking today I doubt if I could find another man like him.
Ccincy: I would had been married 35 years to my late husband in Sept 11th of this year if he hadn't of passed away in 2007.I had married him because I was in love with him.
He was the most loving husband to me and a wonderful father to our son.If I was looking today I doubt if I could find another man like him.
How lovely to hear your story. It's very reassuring for my children at least.
NidifugousYap, Federated States of Micronesia1,430 posts
The only reason that I can think of is that it gives the spouse certain legal rights that you otherwise don't have (i.e. if a person is sick and in the hospital, preferential tax and mortgage treatment, etc.). Unfortunately kids don't get the same treatment in school if his/her parents aren't married, regardless what the law says, so for the benefit of the children, it's a good idea to marry when you're in your younger years.
Beyond that, I see no reason to marry. I can see right here on CS how "serious" a lot of people take the entire institution of marriage - not.
RainComeShine: I was married for 33yrs and I still don't know the answer to this question.
Nidifugous: The only reason that I can think of is that it gives the spouse certain legal rights that you otherwise don't have (i.e. if a person is sick and in the hospital, preferential tax and mortgage treatment, etc.). Unfortunately kids don't get the same treatment in school if his/her parents aren't married, regardless what the law says, so for the benefit of the children, it's a good idea to marry when you're in your younger years.
Beyond that, I see no reason to marry. I can see right here on CS how "serious" a lot of people take the entire institution of marriage - not.
I tend to agree. I am really not as jaded as I sound about marriage. it's not a goal I have, though. I think you've outlined some good reasons for it, but I still like to think that people marry because they love each other and expect to always be together.
um ive never been married ,never loved someone enough to know that it would last....so for me it would have to be for love,by them for me and from me to them....
aramaya: um ive never been married ,never loved someone enough to know that it would last....so for me it would have to be for love,by them for me and from me to them....
yes that does help if it's reciprocal.
I've been on both sides of that. It can be frustrating
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I know that getting divorced was a nightmare!