How to say "No"? (106)
mollybaby: I find a full-body oil massage works better personally
with breasts down to yer ankles....and bum dragging on the floor.....not a job , I,d like to to..tell yer now...pffffft.......
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truheart1941: with breasts down to yer ankles....and bum dragging on the floor.....not a job , I,d like to to..tell yer now...pffffft.......
You should never describe yourself in such a denigrating fashion, Tru
BTW..They are called moobs in men
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PrimaveraSpring: How to say "No" to men who write you but you dont like them at all? I dont want to hurt them! Any ideas?
In some cases it may not matter how you say no, they are just going to be bruised about it.
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Track16: In some cases it may not matter how you say no, they are just going to be bruised about it.
Only they are responsible for their self-esteem issues and hyper-sensitivity, nobody else.
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mollybaby: That is the point.
He'll be playing 'Where's Willy ' for the rest of the night, and forgotten he's been dumped.
Win win.
He'll be playing 'Where's Willy ' for the rest of the night, and forgotten he's been dumped.
Win win.
So a good plan to break bad news has been improved.
Thanks Molly
Hope this helps the Lady.
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PrimaveraSpring: How to say "No" to men who write you but you dont like them at all? I dont want to hurt them! Any ideas?
Being the default initiators, we become accustomed to rejection.
It's not as bad as you're likely imagining it to be.
We're conditioned for it our whole lives.
The kindest form of rejection is a simple, "No thank you" or "I'm not interested." We don't need a reason, you don't owe us a reason, and it's not really less uncomfortable for us to be told why you think we're unsuitable for you.
The other benefit of a simple "No thank you." is your disinterest in not likely to be up for debate. No reasons, means nothing to argue about.
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BerrySmoothie: Hi J,
With all due respect, it is not a "cowardly" way to ignore a message from someone one is not interested in. I have found your way of engaging with a "thanks, but no thanks"....can often offend more and will often result in a "why?" or "what's wrong with me?" type of response. It does not always stop interaction. I have had to block because men did not "get it" with a response of "no thanks". Why prolong something or even initiate something with someone you are not interested in?
If it is someone who I "know" through the forums or blogs, then, yes, I do respond.....but if it is a random from the general population who I have no interest in whatsoever....then not engaging works best for me, I have found.
Just in my experience...
With all due respect, it is not a "cowardly" way to ignore a message from someone one is not interested in. I have found your way of engaging with a "thanks, but no thanks"....can often offend more and will often result in a "why?" or "what's wrong with me?" type of response. It does not always stop interaction. I have had to block because men did not "get it" with a response of "no thanks". Why prolong something or even initiate something with someone you are not interested in?
If it is someone who I "know" through the forums or blogs, then, yes, I do respond.....but if it is a random from the general population who I have no interest in whatsoever....then not engaging works best for me, I have found.
Just in my experience...
Yeh. I kinda get where you're coming from. As I'm a relatively newcomer to the internet dating, I seem to forget it can encourage some strange characters.
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Aragorn11: So a good plan to break bad news has been improved.
Thanks Molly
Hope this helps the Lady.
Thanks Molly
Hope this helps the Lady.
I'd say we have solved all of her problems
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KremaP: My headline is "Single but NOT looking", and you know what, they write to try and convince me I actually don't really mean that...
Don't reply, that's polite in it's own, "dating site" way!
Don't reply, that's polite in it's own, "dating site" way!
You must have some "very powerful tools" at your disposal.
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allthegoodnamest: Yeh. I kinda get where you're coming from. As I'm a relatively newcomer to the internet dating, I seem to forget it can encourage some strange characters.
From reading these threads and chatting to friends online, not asnswering tends to be the easiest and kindest response.
When Ladies do reply in the negative they can and tend to get abusive mails.
Sad, but true
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Aragorn11: From reading these threads and chatting to friends online, not asnswering tends to be the easiest and kindest response.
When Ladies do reply in the negative they can and tend to get abusive mails.
Sad, but true
When Ladies do reply in the negative they can and tend to get abusive mails.
Sad, but true
Fair point!..
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Aragorn11: From reading these threads and chatting to friends online, not asnswering tends to be the easiest and kindest response.
When Ladies do reply in the negative they can and tend to get abusive mails.
Sad, but true
When Ladies do reply in the negative they can and tend to get abusive mails.
Sad, but true
I rarely do, TBH.
If I get any at all, it is usually a short thanks for my message
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mollybaby: I rarely do, TBH.
If I get any at all, it is usually a short thanks for my message
If I get any at all, it is usually a short thanks for my message
Cool. maybe times are changing.
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Aragorn11: Cool. maybe times are changing.
I know everybody has their own way of doing things, but I feel it is right to give a short polite reply to a message.
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PrimaveraSpring: How to say "No" to men who write you but you dont like them at all? I dont want to hurt them! Any ideas?
I thanks then for the interest but no thanks as I am looking for someone closer to home or I only chat on the forums and am not looking for anyone....but you still get the odd one who doesn't take no for an answer in which case he gets blocked
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mollybaby: I rarely do, TBH.
If I get any at all, it is usually a short thanks for my message
If I get any at all, it is usually a short thanks for my message
Your not the First Lady to say they don't get many emails. So you think the lack of responses from women has discouraged men from mailing? I know it has me.
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PrimaveraSpring: How to say "No" to men who write you but you dont like them at all? I dont want to hurt them! Any ideas?
Prima,, being polite and some sort of diplomatic reply could work for some and not for everybody specially on dating sites.
Try to say, you already found one and that you're already in communication with him. It might work, but then be ready for some sarcastic remarks. Good luck.
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allthegoodnamest: Yes , I agree.. Honesty is the best policy.
it is
I do think we all have different levels of a relationship tho. I will continue to communicate as friends of course, with lots of people. To me that is the best way for any other type of relationship to start anyway.
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PrimaveraSpring: How to say "No" to men who write you but you dont like them at all? I dont want to hurt them! Any ideas?
A simple "thanks" but "no thanks" should be all it takes..
Any guy adult enough to be on here should also be adult enough to handle the fact that not every woman is gonna be interested in them..
Sadly some do become abusive when rejected,,but that says more about them than you....
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Tell someone you're not interested and then give them a full body oil massage. They will go away feeling satiated and important
I can see him walking away.
''Thanks but...........what am I going to do with this''
He could take the complimentary, but optional, ice-bath afterwards.